After Death Communications: How to Encourage Signs From Loved Ones In Spirit

 “An After-Death Experience (ADC) is a spiritual experience, which occurs when you are contacted directly and spontaneously by a deceased family member or friend, without the use of psychics, mediums, rituals, or devices of any kind.” -from after-death.com

About a month ago, I went to see James Van Praagh demonstrate his mediumship at a large-audience show.  During the show, he took questions from audience members.  One question was from a woman who was doing cartwheels in the back to get his attention:

“Why hasn’t my grandmother contacted me?  She passed away over 15 years ago!”

James calmly went through some suggestions, but this women’s impatience cut him off at the pass. “I’ve already done all that. I’ve looked for signs, prayed, asked, pleaded.. I’ve even gone to mediums, and nothing.. she won’t speak to me!”

Exasperated, James simply told the energetic woman that she should take his meditation classes to learn how to calm her own energy first. The poor woman was left unsatisfied by his answer and I was left wondering.

The experience got me thinking about ADCs and the people I know who believe they’ve been convincingly contacted by loved ones on the other side.  I definitely was, my mother was as well, my step-father, my best friend..  So, if I know a lot of people who have had an after death communication, are they really common?  What happens if, like the woman at the show, we don’t get a communication? How can we improve our odds?

This is a huge subject and if you have been following me for a while, you know already that nothing I do is short and sweet.  This will necessarily be a long post, so here’s the topics I’m going to delve into just in case you want to skip ahead to a particular section:

  1. The 12 Types of After-Death Communications
  2. After-Death Communication Statistics
  3. The Skeptical Argument
  4. Why Don’t Some Spirits Communicate With Us?
  5. Reasons Why Some Spirit Communications Aren’t Received
  6. An Example of Spirit Communication Techniques from the Spirit’s Point of View
  7. Why Don’t Spirits Just Levitate a Pen and Write Us A Note?
  8. How to Open Yourself Up to Spirit Communication in Any Stage of Grief
  9. Induced After Death Communication (IADC) Therapy
  10. Should I Contact a Medium?
  11. Examples of Real Spirit Communications Received by Me, My Family and Friends
  12. Tell Us About Your After-Death Communications in the Comments!

The 12 Types of After Death Communications

The term ‘After Death Communication’ that we use to describe types of non-assisted communication from the deceased was coined by Bill and Judy Guggenheim in preparation for their book, Hello from Heaven: A New Field of Research – After Death Communication Confirms that Life and Love are Eternal.  Although they weren’t the first researchers in this field, their book brought ADCs into the public consciousness much the same way Raymond Moody’s book “Life after Life” did for Near-Death Experiences.  In it, they define twelve ways their survey participants were contacted by their dearly departed:

  1. Kinesthetic – Sensing a presence
  2. Auditory – Hearing a voice, either with your physical ears in or your head (mentally)
  3. Tactile – Feeling touched physically, like a hug, caress, kiss on the cheek
  4. Olfactory – Smelling a fragrance or odor connected to the deceased (perfume, cigar smell, etc)
  5. Visual – Seeing a full or partial appearance of the deceased; either an outline, transparent, just a part of the body, or full flesh-and-blood
  6. Visionary – A mental vision of the deceased with complete clarity while awake (either with eyes open or shut)
  7. Hypnogogic – Appearance of the deceased while falling asleep or just waking up (either physically, in the room, or mentally)
  8. Somnolent – An appearance of the deceased in a ultra-vivid and logical dream; ordered and atypical for most dreams.
  9. Out-of-Body – Meeting a deceased person while having an out-of-body experience.
  10. Technological – Receiving a phone call from the deceased, text-message, email or through a device, such as hearing their voice through radio static.
  11. Material – Physical phenomena that occurs such as lights turning on and off, items moving, music playing without being turned on.  Usually in a way that reminds you of the deceased.
  12. Symbolic – Seeing a symbol that reminds you of the deceased; a license plate, hearing a song, seeing their name or an animal (most commonly butterflies) that reminds you of them.

After Death Communication Statistics

After Death Communications are far more common than near-death experiences in the general population, even though the latter are arguably more well-known.  A study done by Jenny Streit-Horn, a doctoral student under Dr. Jan Holder, revealed that 30-35% of people can expect to have an after-death communication in their lifetimes.  Within the first year of bereavement, a person is 75% likely to experience an ADC, although a first ADCs can happen as long as several decades after the death occurred.

Grief and type of relationship also seem to influence the prevalence of ADCs.  People who lost spouses tended to have a greater number of ADCs than parental, sibling or friendship relationships.  People who are actively in the grieving process also reported more ADCs than people who described themselves as past the grieving process, though both groups reported high numbers of ADCs regardless.  Anecdotally, people in the first stages of grief or pathological grief tend not to have ADCs until their grief has lessened somewhat.  Aside from Crisis Apparitions (paranormal visions or visitations that notify loved ones of a person’s death), it would seem that intense emotions can ‘wall off’ a person from receiving paranormal visitations.

From the study, the following statements about After-Death Communications were found to be true:

  • Bereaved people more than non-bereaved have ADCs; about ¾ of people within one year of the death of a loved one.
  • Widows and widowers especially.
  • Women more than men
  • People of all ages, with older people perhaps slightly more likely, probably because the older a person is, the more likely the person has experienced others’ deaths.
  • People of all nationalities, with those from ADC-affirming cultures reporting more.
  • People of all ethnicities, with some perhaps slightly more than others – from highest to lowest among Americans: African-American, Mexican-American, Caucasian-American, and Japanese-American.
  • People of all education levels.
  • People of all incomes, with people with relatively lower incomes perhaps slightly more likely.
  • People of all religious affiliations and practices.
  • People no matter what their physical condition.
  • People no matter what their mental condition.
  • The great majority of ADC researchers have noted that ADCrs in their studies were mentally healthy. There is no evidence that ADC alone indicates psychological disorder or mental illness.

ADCs are under-reported.  In the study, 54% of the participants had never told another person prior to the survey.  Many participants admitted to fear of ridicule as the reason for their reluctance to share their experience.  It is probable that an even higher percentage of people likely have an ADC than is currently reported, possibly making this one of the most commonly experienced spiritual occurrence that is studied by paranormal and afterlife researchers.

The Skeptical Argument

When it comes to any type of paranormal activity involving personal experiences, skeptics can only usually point to one of four explanations.

  1. Deception – skeptics might suggest that a grieving person who has received a lot of attention right after a death might invent such stories to gain back that attention once everyone returns to their lives and the grieving become very lonely.  In this case, since the majority of people surveyed didn’t tell another person about their experience, deception might be difficult to use as an explanation for most ADCs, though in rare cases, it’s always possible.
  2. Hallucination – grief is an extreme psychological state.  Some scientists and psychologists believe that our brains will invent such hallucinations in response to grief, although there have been no scientific studies on this topic.  ADCs are also prevalent in people who aren’t actively grieving.
  3. Paradolia or Misidentification – Humans are great at pattern recognition.  Just like the ability to look at a cloud and see an elephant, humans can look at an event and draw personal conclusions from it that may not really fit or simply be coincidental.  In truth, ADCs are subjective. What constitutes a sign for you, may be considered a coincidence to another person.
  4. Drugs or Alcohol – Often times, a grieving person is offered a sedative in order to help them get through the first few days and the funeral.  In many cases, this is a likely to be a benzodiazepine such as Xanax or Valium. In other cases, a person may self-medicate with alcohol, opiates, marijuana and the like.  When drugs or alcohol are involved, a person’s perceptions are altered and they might be more likely to imagine or hallucinate an ADC.

Although the four reasons above might explain some ADCs, it’s hard to explain away all ADCs this way.  If 60 million Americans are likely to have an ADC in their lifetime, is it possible that all of them will be lying, spontaneously hallucinating or on drugs?  How can we then explain ADCs that occur well after the initial grief has dissipated?

Normal, well-adjusted healthy individuals are not prone to suddenly hallucinate, nor would most of these people have the incentive to lie, especially to an anonymous survey.  Although its possible that some people may misidentify or use drugs, the sheer number of ADCs reported makes the probability that all ADCs are false very low overall.

Note: The next section contains information I’ve gained from years of afterlife research.  These are conclusions that I have drawn – certainly, nothing about the spirit world is proven.  To do your own research, visit my Recommended Reading and Resources for Afterlife Research pages.

Why Don’t Some Spirits Communicate with Us?

Barring issues on our end (which I will get to in the next section), there are a variety of reasons why some spirits don’t or can’t communicate with us right away.

  1. Your loved one may need time to adjust. Some spirits don’t know they have died, or will need help understanding what has happened to them.  Others were so ill when they died, they need a period of convalescence in the spirit realm.  Spirits who pass away with severe psychological issues may be relegated to planes where communication isn’t possible yet.
  2. Spirits may realize that communication right now isn’t in your best interest.  Grief can be a valuable lesson in its own right.
  3. Some spirits will need to work with their teachers and guides who can assist them with communication.
  4. Time in the spirit world doesn’t exist, and outside of a human body we lose much of the anxiety we had on earth.  Our loved ones in spirit love us dearly, but know that you will be with them in what may seem like only a matter of days to them, even though it is a lifetime for us.

The scenarios above are rare. Most spirits do have a desire to communicate with the living and will try endlessly to let you know that they are okay.  Even as they attempt to communicate with you, there are things on our end that may prevent their message from getting across.

Reasons Why Some Spirit Communications Aren’t Received

  1. We might see or experience something meaningful, such as a dream or a symbol but we pass it off as a coincidence or ignore it.
  2. We are too deeply bereaved.  With terrible sadness and depression comes a wall of emotion that even the best and strongest of spirits cannot penetrate.  When our grief begins to lesson, the communication will begin to get through.
  3. The first communications happen to a relative or friend instead of you.  The first reaction is, “why did my loved one appear to X and not to me, the one who was closest to him/her?”  A loved one in spirit definitely wants you to know that he or she is still around, and so they appear to whomever is most receptive to get the message to you.
  4. We make demands or expect too much: we might say “If you are here, turn off that light” or “Make this song play in the car if you are listening”.  Spirits can do many things, but they don’t suddenly gain superpowers when they die.  They need to learn how to manipulate energy, and each spirit has a way they can communicate best – likely not the way you are demanding them to perform.  Allow the spirit to choose the communication and have faith that the message will be meaningful to you.
  5. We have unresolved anger or resentment toward the spirit.  Negative emotions are another type of wall, once that must be resolved before communications can be clearly felt.  Resolve your issues with the spirit in question. Whatever it was, remember that they were only human. If you speak out-loud, they will generally hear you so talking out your feelings can help.  Out of the body, spirits know immediately all the ways they have hurt others and always desire forgiveness.  Once you are in a space of love and forgiveness, you will get the message you are intended to receive.

Why Don’t Spirits Just Levitate a Pen and Write Us a Note?

I consider myself a logical person, and when initially trying to understand the phenomena of ADCs, I found myself really frustrated by how vague they can be at times.  Without a doubt, there are plenty of communications where a person sees their loved one standing in front of them looking quite alive.  In other cases, they get a phone call from the deceased. These are pretty straight-forward cases where there is little room to doubt that a communication occurred.  But most of us will have symbolic ADCs; we will hear a song on the radio that is meaningful, have a butterfly land on our arm, or smell a perfume.  While these are beautiful experiences, I wondered – why all the vague and dramatic symbolism?  Why can’t a spirit just leave us a note?  If levitating a pen is difficult, how about knocking on the wall and answering yes and no questions, or rearranging pennies to spell out their name, or smudging a mirror with “I’m Still Here!” while I’m in the shower?

Many years went by and I really studied spirit literature.  I learned that mastering energy in our dimension is extremely difficult and it requires the skill of an advanced spirit.  Unless our loved one is that advanced, it’s unlikely they have the skill or experience to do those kinds of definitive physical things that we expect.  Spirits of all stripes can manipulate energy.  Our physicists have already discovered that all of matter is energy, just denser than other kinds.  Thoughts and emotions are energy too, and because this type of energy is far less dense, spirits have an easier time manipulating it as a rule.

Consider how difficult it really is to make these symbolic ADCs happen:

In order for you to hear a meaningful song on the radio, they either have influence your thoughts to be in the right place at the right time and turn on the radio, or they have to influence the thoughts of the radio DJ to play that song at the exact time and place that you are listening.  It’s not as easy as it looks! Yet, it’s far easier than levitating a pen against Earth physics.

To have a butterfly land on your arm, a spirit has to influence the intention of that butterfly, and make sure you are in an area where a butterfly will be able to land on you.  That means cutting through all of the brain chatter in our heads to convince us to take a walk outside at the exact right time that a butterfly happens to be flying by, then convincing the butterfly to ignore its instincts and land on a human!

Smelling a perfume requires a spirit to use energy to match the signature of a perfume that you might recognize, or influence a person who is wearing that exact perfume to cross your path.  Again, not easy.

But, you might say, “What about hauntings?  Those spirits can slam doors and make lights go on and off. Are they just more experienced?”  Well, in a way, yes.  Those spirits are most likely tied to the earth for one reason or another.  Some people call these ‘Earthbound’ spirits.  They aren’t bound to the earth, really, they have just chosen not to cross dimensions.  When a spirit spends years, decades and centuries walking as a ghost on Earth, they do learn a trick or two – things that the recently deceased who do cross over have yet to learn.  Then again, earthbound spirits are usually extremely emotional and psychologically a little muddled.  These spirits have no problem scaring people to get attention.  Your loved one would never want to scare you with loud bangs and such, even if they could.

Case in point: I read an ADC once where a teenage girl woke up to see the full figure of her deceased father standing over her.  His body looked like it was made up of sparks of electricity.  Suffice it to say, she was startled by the wild unexpected vision and screamed.  Later, her father got a message through her to say, “I worked so hard on that energy body! I can’t believe it scared you!” Lesson learned.  Although the father wanted to do something spectacular to show his daughter he was still alive in the spirit world, it didn’t have the intended effect.  Most of the time, spirits know what we can handle and what we can’t.  They generally prefer not to scare us out of our wits!

It’s also important to understand how our psychology changes when we lose our bodies.  Spirits are emotionally rather than logically oriented so while they can reason just as well as we can, they prefer to have an energetic and emotional impact on you, rather than just appeasing your logical mind with ‘tricks’.

In the next section, I am going to use some examples from Dr. Newton’s work with Life Between Life regression to show from the spirit’s point of view how they attempt to reach us after their passing (and how difficult it can be sometimes!)

An Example of ADC Techniques from the Spirit’s Point of View
From Destiny of Souls, by Dr. Michael Newton

Dr. Michael Newton pioneered techniques for life-between-life regression, and in a hypnotic trance, his subjects can go to past lives and then to the activities they do as spirits in between lives.  Dr. Newton’s techniques are used by certified therapists all over the world trained in his techniques through The Newton Institute.  For over 40 years, his clients from all walks of life and from different parts of the US have described a very similar afterlife, convincing Dr. Newton and his colleges that not only is the afterlife real, but it is a logical and organized dimension not dissimilar from our own.  I highly recommend his books, Journey of Souls, Destiny of Souls, and Memories of the Afterlife.

In Destiny of Souls, Dr. Newton devotes a whole chapter to examples where spirits use children to communicate, pets, strangers, visions, objects and all sorts of other ways to get through to us.  Spirits use a variety of techniques that differ based on the spirit’s abilities and our ability to receive communication best. By learning how spirits communicate to us from their own perspective, it can help us be more receptive to receive and believe those communications. Here I’ve picked out two examples from that chapter to illustrate the process behind that communication.

Sylvia’s Dream

In this example, Dr. Newton has regressed his patient to recall a previous life where he/she as ‘Sylvia’ has just passed away. Sylvia, in spirit,  is trying to comfort her mother who is grieving.

S:=Sitter; Dr. N:=Dr. Newton

S: “I begin with more conventional thought communication while she is awake but I am getting nowhere.  She is so sad.  My mother’s grief at not being at my bedside is overpowering her.”

Dr. N: “What methods have you tried so far?”

S: “I project my thoughts with an orange-yellow light, like the flame of a candle, and place my light around her head, sending loving thoughts.  I’m not effective.  She doesn’t realize I am with her.  I am going for a dream.”

Dr. N: “All right, Sylvia, take me though this slowly.  Please start by telling me if you pick out one of your mother’s dreams or if you can create one of your own.”

S: “I don’t create dreams well yet.  It is much easier for me to take one of hers so I can enter the dream to effect a more natural contact and then participate. I want her to know it is clearly me in the dream.”

[…]

S: “The first couple dreams are unsuitable…Finally, she has a dream where she is walking alone in the fields around my house.  You should know she has no grief in this dream.  I am not dead yet.”

S: “…I enter the dream from the other end of the field by matching my energy patterns to my mother’s thoughts.  I project an image of myself as I was the last time she saw me.  I come slowly across the field to let her get used to my presence.  I wave and smile and then come to her.  We hug each other and now I send wave of rejuvenating energy into her sleeping body.”

Dr. N: “And what will this do for your mother?”

S: “This picture is raised to a higher level of consciousness for my mother.  I want to insure the dream will stay with her after she wakes up.”

[…]

S: “The influence of a vivid dream like this is very great.  When my mother wakes up, her mind has a vivid impression of this landscape with me and suspects I am with her.  In the time memory is so real she is sure of it.”

[…]

S: “…I [will] continue to send waves of energy into her over the next few days until she begins to accept my passing.  I want her to believe I am still part of her and always will be.”

Helen and her Husband’s Ring

In this regression, a man recalls the time after his death when he tries to comfort his grieving wife, Helen.

S:=Sitter; Dr. N:=Dr. Newton

Dr. N: “What do you do if your efforts right after death are not having the desired results anywhere on the body?”

S: “When I found that my wife, Helen, was not receiving me by a direct approach, I finally resorted to working with a household familiar.”

Dr. N: “You mean with an animal – a cat or dog?”

S: “I have used them before, but no.. not this time.  I decided to pick out some object of value to me that my wife would know was very personal.  I chose my ring.”

The ring he is referring to is a large ring with a raised turquoise stone in the center.  The man had a nervous habit of rubbing the stone and his wife often joked that he would one day wear it down completely.  Helen and her husband would often sit by the fire together and talk about their day, while her husband would continue to rub the stone on his ring out of habit.

S: “When I work with objects and people, I have to wait until the scene is very tranquil.  Three weeks after my death, Helen lit a fire and was looking into it with tears in her eyes.  I began by wrapping my energy within the fire itself, using the fire as a conduit of warmth and elasticity.

Dr. N: “Excuse my interruption, but what does ‘elasticity’ mean?”

S: “It took me centuries to learn this. Elastic energy is fluid.  To make my soul energy fluid requires intense concentration and practice because it must be thin and fleecy.  The fire serves as a catalyst in this maneuver.”

Dr. N: “Which is just the opposite from a strong, narrow beam of energy?”

S: “Exactly.  I can be very effective by rapidly shifting my energy from a fluid to a solid state and back again.  The shifting is subtle but it awakens the human mind.”

S: “Helen was connecting with the fire and thus with me.  For a moment the grief was less oppressive, and I moved straight into the top of her head.  She felt my presence… slightly. It was not enough.  Then I began shifting my energy as I told you, from hard to soft in fork fashion.

Dr. N: “What do you do when you ‘fork’ energy?”

S: “I split it.  While keeping a soft fluid energy on Helen’s head on maintain contact, I fork a hard beam at the box which holds my ring in a table drawer.  My intent is to open up a smooth pathway from her mind to the ring.  This is why I am using a hard steady beam, to direct her to the ring.”

S: “With my guidance, she slowly gets up without knowing why.  She moves, as if sleepwalking, to the table and hesitates.  Then she opens the drawer.  Since my ring is in the box I continue to shift back and forth from her mind to the lid of the box.  Helen opens it and takes out my ring, holding it in her left hand. […] Then I know I have her!”

Dr. N: “Because..?”

S: Because the ring still retains some of my energy.  Don’t you see?  She is feeling my energy on both ends of the fork.  This is a two-directional signal.  Very effective.

Dr. N: “Oh, I do see – then what do you do with Helen?”

S: “Now, I move into overdrive with a full-power bridge between myself standing on her right side and the ring on the left.  She turns in my direction and smiles.  Helen then kisses my ring and says, “Thanks, darling.  I know you are with me now.  I’ll try and be more brave.”

How to Enhance your Chances of Receiving an ADC at any Stage in the Grief Process:

The most important advice I can give someone who is waiting for a sign is this: talk to your loved one. Talk to them out-loud, as if they are in the room with you.  It may feel strange at first, but spirits tell us through mediums that they can hear you loud and clear when you speak to them.  Most importantly, this is the time when you can begin to resolve any outstanding guilt or anger that you may have over their death.  If you have already resolved your feelings, simply tell them how much you love them and miss them in your life.  Ask for a sign or communication, but give them the time and space to do it on their own terms.

Be alert to any of the 12 types of communications.  A communication may happen at any time.  Remember that not all ADCs are dramatic or obvious.  Believe it or not, most spirit communications don’t get received because we are just too stubborn, obtuse, distracted or logical to accept and be open to them.

Dreams are a major way that spirits will use to communicate.  In order to enhance your dream recall, tell yourself before bed that you will remember your dreams.  It sounds silly, but it works.  Avoid alcohol before bed, and don’t sleep with the TV or music on.  Clear your mind before bed and let any images form freely – this might be the time that you receive a hypnogogic vision or dream visitation.

Ask your friends and family if they have had any experiences that have reminded them of your loved one.  In the midst of heavy grief, it is quite common for a spirit to first contact a more distant relative or friend in order to get a message to you.  If that person is hesitant to upset you, that message may never be passed on.  Let others know that you welcome any experiences that they may have, may it be dreams, symbols or other signs.

Read about the experiences of others who have had an ADC at www.adcrf.org.  This may open your eyes to the many ways your loved one can communicate, as well as lifting your spirits through the inspirational and beautiful experiences of others.

Like the exasperated woman at the show, there might be a case where despite everything you do, communication just isn’t happening.  There are a lot of variables when it comes to inter-dimensional communication and sometimes we just have to trust that there is a good reason.  Maybe your loved one is involved in their own healing on the other side, or perhaps they are very inexperienced spirits who just can’t manage cross-dimensional communication.  Trust that you are loved and that your loved one is always connected to you, even if you don’t get proof of that.  On the other hand, be patient.  My mother didn’t get her first ADC from her mother for 16 years!  When it finally did happen, it was powerful, timely and life-changing for her.

To learn more about ADCs and spirit communication, I would encourage you to read Hello from Heaven by Bill and Judy Guggenheim, My Life After Life: A Posthumous Memoir by Galen and Dr. Kenneth Stoller,  and Destiny of Souls by Dr. Michael Newton.  Please also visit the After-Death Communication Research Foundation at www.adcrf.org and after-death.com.

Induced After Death Communication (IADC) Therapy

If your grief is overwhelming and interfering with your life, or you have experienced a traumatic loss, you might consider a new type of clinical therapy called Induced After Death Communication.  Dr. Allan L. Botkin, the founder of the procedure, discovered that patients with severe psychological grief were greatly relieved of their pain through the application of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, which uses eye movements to help our brain process grief and sadness far faster than traditional therapies.  With many patients, an extra step discovered by Dr. Botkin allowed the patient to experience an actual visionary after-death communication with the spirit whose loss they were grieving.  To find out more, please see my in-depth post on the subject: Grief Counseling with a Spiritual Twist: Induced After Death Communication (IADC) Therapy

Should I Contact a Medium?

If you haven’t gotten an after death communication and it has been six months since the date your loved one has passed, you may consider arranging for the services of a medium.  Why wait six months?  Well, most mediums will require a waiting period for best results.  Its easier to connect after both you and the spirit have had time to adjust and heavy grief can make it very difficult to make a connection.

Finding a reputable medium is difficult.  Avoid anyone you’ve seen on TV – sadly, most of them are simply entertainers.  To find a good, honest and truly gifted medium, I only recommend the services of two organizations – both are non-profit, and both thoroughly test and certify their mediums.

The Forever Family Foundation – www.foreverfamilyfoundation.org

The Windbridge Institute – www.windbridge.org

Examples of Real Spirit Communications Received by Me, My Family and Friends

ADC from a man who was ‘like a Grandfather’: A man who was like a grandfather to me appeared in a dream to say goodbye after he died.  He was “brought-in” to my dream through my great-grandfather who appeared first, smiled, then morphed into this gentleman.  No words were spoken, but there was a powerful feeling of gratitude and love as he looked into my eyes.  He had Parkinson’s before he died and so didn’t communicate well or easily in life, but in the dream I felt his deep appreciation that I played the piano for him and spoke to him kindly during his visits.

ADC from my Great-Grandfather: During the lowest, most difficult time in my life, I had a powerful and realistic dream of my great-grandfather.  He visited me in the dream to communicate that my life was headed in the wrong direction.  I agreed, but I was unsure what to do.  I asked him for his advice.  He just smiled and “said” (there were not words, exactly) that I already knew exactly what to do.  Look into my heart and follow my intuition.  When I awoke, I did indeed know exactly what to do.  I followed my own advice and changed the course of my life by making the difficult decision that I had previously been ignoring.

Other ADCs I’ve had:

ADC From my Grandmother: When my friend’s grandmother passed away I was attending her funeral thinking of my own grandmother.  Just then, the classical music being played in the funeral home was my grandmother’s signature piece that she played on the piano,  “Rhapsody in Blue.”  When I went outside a few minutes later, I was speaking to another friend’s mother when I realized she was wearing my grandmother’s perfume, “White Shoulders”.  I remarked about it, and my friend’s mother said that although she never typically wore that perfume, she decided to on that day on a whim.

ADC from my Grandfather (Pop-Pop): My grandfather, who I always called “Pop-Pop” passed away a little over two years ago.  About 6 months after he passed, I was thinking of him while driving home on the highway.  I mused that it would be nice if I could have a sign from him.  Just then, a car merged onto the highway right in front of me with the license plate that said “POP-POP”. PopPopStunned, I managed to get a picture of it! The picture is not the best – it was a rainy night, I was driving and shaky from excitement, but you can clearly see that the car right in front of me says, ‘POP-POP’. That was proof positive in my mind!

[Update June 2nd, 2016]

I just received four incredible new ADCs from my grandfather!  Because of his love of Disneyworld and the trips we’ve taken together in my childhood, I asked my grandfather to send me something in reference to his favorite ride at the park: “It’s a Small World After All” (you know, the one with the dancing dolls?).  I knew it was a tall order, but I was prepared to wait.  Well, it’s been three years but holy cow did he come through in a big way!  First, as the ice cream truck went by our house the song abruptly changed to ‘It’s a Small World After All”.  The next day, we received some random junk mail – a catalog that had the words ‘Its a small world after all” emblazoned on the front (I cut it out, it’s now on the fridge!).  Lastly, yesterday when I logged onto cnn.com to check the news, there was an entire article on the history of the ride!  When I clicked on the video, the familiar strains of the song came bursting through my speakers and I knew it wasn’t coincedence.. my grandfather isn’t subtle.  Finally, I received a call from my mother at work.  The church next door was playing ‘Its a small world after all’ on the church bells.  The church bells!? Four random references to the very song I asked about in one week  and not a common song by any means – Amazing!!

My Mother’s ADC from her Mother, my Grandmother: My mother sadly lost her mother to cancer two weeks after I was born (you can read my post about my pre-birth visitation to my grandmother here).  My mother’s life took a difficult turn in the years following her mother’s death and yet she didn’t get any communication from her.  It wasn’t until I was 16 years old – 16 years after my grandmother’s death when my mother got a very powerful communication, and it happened at the lowest point of my mother’s life, when she was directionless, miserable and desperate. She sat in the car, crying and begging her mother for some kind of sign.

Not long after that, she had a crystal clear and realistic dream of her mother in that same car, sitting in the back seat.  My mother no longer remembers the content of what was said, but the image and symbolism was important.  My mother was driving, in charge of her life, but her mother was in the backseat reassuring her and giving her directions.  It was meant to say that even though my mother is in charge of her own destiny, that her mother is still very much a part of her life, guiding her ‘from the back seat’.

My Step-Father’s ADC from his Father: My step-father lost his father to a sudden heart-attack over 20 years ago.  He was describing his father to someone once and said that his father was one of those un-emotional types of men who never told his kids ‘I love you’.  Although my step-father knew he was loved, he recalls that he never heard those words actually said to him.  Not long after that conversation, my step-father had a ultra-real dream when his father appeared to him and said, “Son, I LOVE YOU!”.  I guess he had heard that conversation and wanted to make it clear that even if those words hadn’t been spoken in life, they were true nonetheless.

My Grandmother’s ADC from her husband, my Grandfather: A week or two after my grandfather died, my Grandmother who I call ‘Nanny’ received a message from my Grandfather, her husband, that was undeniable. My grandparents loved Florida – they had a condo on the gulf coast, and used to take my family to Disney World, which are some of my favorite memories of my childhood.  On the mantle in the room where my Grandfather died, was a music box of a carousel from Disney World with all of the Disney Characters on it.  The music box hadn’t been touched in years, but after my Grandfather died, and on two separate occasions the music box started playing “It’s a small world” when my Grandmother walked into the room.

My Friend’s ADC from her Father: My best friend tragically lost her father when she was just turning 25.  It was devastating for all of us. Though he had been sick for a long time, he always seemed to pull through. My friend knew on the morning that he passed away, she had some sort of premonition.  As we were getting coffee, she put her hand on my arm and stopped me.  Looking at me intensely, she vowed that if her father died she would go to Ireland to visit her father’s relatives. Around 7 hours later, her father passed away in the hospital.  That weekend, we drove to a local park together as she was working through her intense grief.  As we were driving up, we could hear the strains of Irish bagpipe music.  When we pulled up, we were stunned to see a man in full Irish regalia playing the bag pipe, something that is traditionally done at Irish funerals.  There was no particular reason for this man to be in the park that day – there was no party or funeral.  He was standing completely alone, in the park, in his Irish kilt playing bagpipe music.  We both knew this was a sign from her father.  Years later, she did keep her promise and went to Ireland.

Second ADC: My friend felt her father’s hand on her shoulder as she was driving to the hospital after he had passed.

[Update August 26, 2016]

My Mother’s ADC from a family friend: This is a brand new ADC that occurred a few weeks ago.  Last autumn, a friend of the family named Romit sadly passed away from a quick form of aggressive cancer.  My mother and step-father visited him the night before he passed away.  My mother reminisced about the fabulous pool parties that they had been invited too.  Romit pulled out all of the stops for these parties, with the best food and entertainment, and of course, the huge in-ground pool that my mother, a swimmer, enjoyed tremendously.  When she saw Romit before his passing, she expressed her appreciation and gratitude for the pool parties.  A few weeks back, she thought of Romit again and talked out loud to him about the regret she felt that she would never attend another of his pool parties.  She had said that ‘he promised her another pool party’, likely a reference to what they spoke about the night before his passing.

The very next day, my step-father walked into the kitchen to tell my mother that they had been invited to a pool party.  My step-father knew nothing of the conversation my mother had had with Romit’s spirit the day before or her joking admonition that she was ‘promised’ a pool party and wouldn’t get it.  The pool party invite was with a distant friend or relative, and who invited them was inconsequential.  The whole point was the fact that Romit heard my mother, and the invite to a pool party came the next day.  It was Romit’s way of saying, “I can’t give you another pool party, but I will make sure you get an invitation to a different one!”

My Grandmother’s ADC from her husband: My stepfather’s mother is 91 years old.  Her husband passed away more than 20 years ago.  One night she had a very realistic ‘dream’ that she was walking through a hospital.  Her husband appeared and said, “I miss you.  I want you to be with me.”  She believes that this was a legitimate communication from her husband.

What do you think?

These are the after-death communications that were experienced by just a small circle of my friends and family, and you can see that there were quite a lot of them.  You can perhaps suggest that we were delusional, hallucinating or you can even accuse me of lying, but that’s where a little bit of faith and intuition comes into play.  When communications happen, you have a choice: throw it away as a coincidence, to choose to see it as a loving message of a loved one in spirit who wants you to know that they were more than just their body – the essence of who they are lives on. Their personality, sense of humor and most importantly their emotional connection with their loved ones survive.

So, have you experienced an after-death communication?  Do you know someone else who has?  Tell us about it in the comments!

364 thoughts on “After Death Communications: How to Encourage Signs From Loved Ones In Spirit”

  1. Hi Jenn,

    I love this blog and your analysis of the ADC, 2 days ago a butterfly landed on my head (honestly), I`m convinced it was my recently (6months) deceased wife of 64 years, I have had a few other `signs` less dramatic though, and I totally agree that `deep grief` is a hindrance to `spirit communication`. I`ve wallowed in it for many months.

    Also may I thank you for the `Seth` e-book copy you kindly e-mailed me, absolutely intriguing , I`m half way through it, happy Saturday,

    Jaycee

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    1. Dear Jaycee,

      My sincere condolences on the loss of your wife; you are still in the early stages of grief so its only natural that you will feel that kind of deep wall of emotion and grief that comes with it. I had a feeling when I was choosing a picture for this post that the butterfly was going to be meaningful to someone who would read this post and say that it was a symbol for them. I am glad that it is you! I believe you are right about the butterfly. After 64 years, your wife will surely continue to try to show you that she is still here, so keep looking for those signs! I’m very glad you are enjoying the Seth book! If you have a chance, see if you can find ‘Hello from Heaven’ from Bill and Judy Guggenheim. It might be comforting for you read how others who have lost a loved one have received some really miraculous and heart-warming communications.

      Happy Sunday, Jaycee and take care,

      Jenn

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  2. After my son passed, I had several communications. I had a dream of him running into someone’s arms. There were clouds and light all around and all I could see was a woman’s arms stretched out as he ran into them. I was very close to my grandmother so I’m assuming it was her he ran to. Another time I visited his grave I could hear giggling. He was a happy child and laughed alot. And whenever I heard it, my chest felt heavy and I couldn’t breathe. One night as I laid down to go to sleep I could swear I saw him crawling into the bed since he loved to lay with me before bed. But I didn’t feel scared or anything, just happiness.

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    1. Dear Krista,
      Thank you for sharing the beautiful ways your son has communicated with you. Without a doubt you have received three very solid ADCs. It sounds as if your grandmother really wanted you to know that your son was being taken care of and loved until you get back to him. The close connection you and your son have will hopefully be an inspiration to others who have suffered the most devastating loss of a child.

      Best wishes,
      ~Jenn

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  3. Hi!

    This is a great explanation! Thanks very much xo

    I lost my mum at 16 and Dad at 18. I didn’t know my dad though. My mums name was Karen but spelt Karenne, at least every week I receive messages with her name, whether it’s on radio, TV, number plates, meeting people with the same name. The odd thing is, these only appear when something is wrong or I’m thinking of her. Sometimes I can get up to 5 a day! It’s seems to happen more the longer she has been gone (so it makes sense as they get stronger in their messages)
    I also get the same with my sisters and their children, when they are in trouble I get their names on net plates, music ect….. I also tend to make new friends, get served at a shop by a Karen! Bee’s and Butterfly’s follow me everywhere and over the past few years my closest friends get my name appear when something’s not right. Can spirits liaise with others in your life to help you through bad times? My mum also had a particular song she loved, this pops up just at the right times. I believe I’m a lucky one because I’ve been able to sort through my own emotions, I meditate just 2 mins before bed and I don’t ask them to come through..,, I just wait
    I was a hard sceptic but can say since loosing my mum and having these messages I’m now a true believer!
    I also lost my father in law (whom I was extremely close with) who when alive had this luck of finding money or coins wherever he went, every week we now find money and right at times when we are talking about him.
    I have a thing with Bees (and butterfly’s) I’m known as the Bee stalker – can spirits manipulate bees or could this be in my head?
    I also recommend a good medium reading to assist, I met my real dad this way!
    Thanks once again really loved this article!

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    1. Dear Karenne,

      Its wonderful that you have communication that you can interpret to either know when to check up on someone, or when someone on the other side is checking up on you! They are the kind of ADCs we hope to develop with our loved ones, when the signs are not only meaningful, but meaningful in a way that can help us make better decisions in our lives. Absolutely spirits can use any tool to get through to you – including influencing others, whether it be people we know or perfect strangers! And spirits affect animals and insects as well, especially butterflies, bees and ladybugs. Coins are also a very common sign. Its sounds like you are getting signs a lot and that can be very inspiring for others – the key is to stay positive! How wonderful that you met your real father through a medium! One day I’d love to hear that story!

      Jenn

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  4. I totally believe in ADC’s. My husband and I were privileged to care for our grand-daughter Lexie who was born in 2010 with a life limiting condition. She came to live with us when she was 11 weeks old because her parents couldn’t care for her. She had profound physical disabilities and was deaf and blind. However, I sincerely believe we communicated with her on a telepathic level throughout her life. She has given us ADC’s since her death, and prior to her death we believe she communicated with us to let us know it was time for her to leave. Lexie suffered a major gastro-intestinal bleed aged two and a half following routine surgery. She was resuscitated and remained in hospital for three weeks. We stayed by her bedside all the time but most days my husband had to return home to feed and excercise our two dogs. At the beginning of the second week when I was alone with Lexie I kept hearing a song within my mind – it was ‘time to say goodbye’ by Katherine Jenkins. I didn’t want to accept this as a sign and didn’t mention it to my husband – but I couldn’t get the song out of my head. As the week went on Lexie deteriorated, and the doctors muted the idea of a limitation of treatment agreement. We didn’t want to believe it, and were reluctant to let her go. On the saturday of that week I looked at my gorgeous girl and saw how tired she was. I spoke to my husband and asked him what he thought, he also felt that Lexie looked tired, and was perhaps ready to let go. During this conversation he divulged that he had been hearing a song in his mind all week ……. I finished his sentence for him and said – Time to Say Goodbye by Katherine Jenkins. He couldn’t believe I knew what he was about to say but we understood then that somehow our beautiful girl had been telling us to prepare ourselves for her journey home. On the monday we brought her home for compassionate extubation. A few minutes after the extubation one of Lexie’s favourite toys started to sing ABC – it was at the other side of the room and no-one was near it. Lexie remained alive all night, and we were surrounded by medical professionals in case she took a turn for the worse. She was settled, calm and happy and we slept with her and cuddled her all night. The next morning, the medical professionals left us, and said new staff would arrive at lunchtime. We spent the morning washing and changing our girl, then picked her up for a cuddle. Immediately on picking her up there was a change in her breathing, and we knew she was going to leave us. She passed away gently in our arms, alone, with only us present. She had waited for the perfect moment. Soon after she passed away she started to let us know she was still around. One night I was desperately upset and couldn’t get to sleep – I was crying and inconsolable. I couldn’t believe my eyes when my husbands mobile suddenly lit up and shined directly on a picture of Lexie on his bedside table. The picture remained lit up for about 7 or 8 minutes, and I just knew she was there. Her picture smiled at me from the otherside of the bed. We then began hearing bangs on the wall behind our bed. Every night when we went to bed we would say goodnight to each other following which would be a loud bang on the wall – reminding us to say goodnight to Lexie. We visited her graveside every day and filled it with windmills and toys. Even when it was perfectly still, one of the windmills would start to slowly turn as we approached. We began talking to the windmills as if they were Lexie, and noticed that if it was something Lexie liked the windmill speeded up. We were convinced that she was letting us know she accompanied us on these visits. In the year following her death my husband had an important talk to give and as he was waiting for his slot, he saw a childs ring in the middle of the floor which he hadn’t noticed before – when he picked it up it had an inscription which said ‘best friends forever’. On my birthday that year, we were travelling along country roads, and suddenly out of nowhere a childs balloon drifted into the path of our car. The balloon was a winnie the pooh balloon and said happy birthday. Winnie the Pooh was lexies favourite toy, and her headstone was in the style of winnie the pooh. We had just been to the cemetary to visit her grave. We just knew that this was Lexie’s way of letting us know she was with us for my birthday. We regularly have butterflies land on us when we are sitting on the bench by her graveside. I dream of her often, and things which belonged to her or were of interest to her move around the house. Her toys will start up and her pictures change position. When my grandma was poorly and my mum was caring for her she slept in a spare room at grandma’s house, and was very upset because we all knew that grandma who was 96 wouldn’t be with us much longer. One morning mum woke up holding a little sixpence in her left hand. She said she didn’t know how it had got there and was mystified by it. We had placed a silver sixpence in Lexie’s left hand in her coffin for good luck on her journey – we believe she had been to comfort mum who she loved very much. About a year after Lexie died we went to an evening of mediumship with John Edward in Manchester UK. we received the first message – of course it was Lexie. She told us all about the gratitude she felt for us ‘rescuing’ her when she was young. She told us she could see and hear now, and lots of other things which made complete sense and confirmed that she lived on. The final thing John told us was that she had the scarf with her. Lexie had stolen a woolly scarf from my mum. Lexie loved the feel of the scarf and took it everywhere with her – it was like a comfort blanket. Because she had loved it so much we had draped it around her neck in the coffin. We believe that all of these ‘signs’ are irrefutable proof that Lexie has communicated with us in a variety of different ways since she went home to the world of spirit. We know she is always around and the comfort this brings is immeasurable.

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    1. Dear Tracy,
      What an amazing, touching, beautiful story.. I have tears in my eyes. Thank you so much for sharing it. You and your husband are angels and there is no doubt in my mind that Lexie was meant to be in your life. The love that you shared with Lexie and your devotion to her is a bond that certainly hasn’t ended, it has been strengthened. She may not have been able to see or hear or speak, but its very clear that Lexie was able to clearly communicate with you, and still is. The ADCs that you’ve shared are nothing short of astounding, and it sounds like you had an incredible experience with John Edward. I’m so glad that you were able to have that validation from your little girl. I believe that Lexie is a very advanced soul, with the kind of fortitude and fearless love that many of us haven’t learned yet. There are beautiful miracles in this world. I hope others who have lost a child can read your story and gain the hope and the certain knowledge that their children are not lost. Truly, love never dies.

      Wishing you all the best,
      Jennifer

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  5. Your blog is wonderful, I lost my sister Janet on 5/6/15 aged 54 and my brother Andrew on 3/8/15 both to cancer, I of course was deverstated, I believe in sprit and the after life, but have only had one dream of my brother were if could not see his face. I wondered why they have not contacted me as my sister and I made a pact were I would see pansy flower when she is near, but I still have not witnessed this.. Now Perhaps it’s because they ain’t ready yet… I will keep watching and waiting. But your blog has helped me so much and I have just brought the books you recommended so going to enjoy reading them..
    Once again thank you so much ..

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    1. Dear Elaine,

      The whole reason that this blog exists it to try to reach out to other people and let them know that they aren’t the only ones ‘searching’ for life after death, so I’m so very glad that the blog has helped you! I am so sorry that you lost two siblings in the same year, just months apart – my gosh, I don’t know how you’ve managed, what a terrible terrible loss you’ve suffered. Something that I’ve read about in spirit communications with regard to spirits who pass after a long illness is that they sometimes need an extended period of mental healing on the other side. From what I understand, when a person has identified with being ill for a long time, they need psychological and energetic healing because it is so taxing on the spirit. During this time of healing, your sister may not be available to send you signs. Its possible your brother didn’t need healing, or quite so much of it which is why you dreamed of him already. Also remember that time doesn’t work the same way on the other side – what might be a few months for them could be years for us, or years for them and only a few months for us. What you can do to help your sister from this side, is to send her love and encouragement. Talk out loud to her as if she is sitting here, she’ll hear you, I promise. That will speed her healing for sure, and I’ll be you get your sign before you know it! I hope you enjoy those books! Read Hello from Heaven first!

      Take care,
      Jenn

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  6. I lost my dad in 2008 to cancer. A few nights after his funeral I dreamt I was speaking to someone about selling his tools. I took this friend to a pool that is a recurring dream. There on the other side of the pool was my dad, draining the water out of the pool. He told me he was fine, but busy, he had things to do. I had dreams of that pool for years, always someone rescuing me, he drained it so I’d stop getting myself in trouble.
    A few months later i found myself in another dream, walking up a sandy path to a beautiful house with a garden. There was a pitcher of white wine and peaches on the table & I caught a glimpse of the family cat. I walked into this house and demanded to see my dad. In fact argued with three little old ladies. My dad walked out drying his hands on a dish towel and turned white and started asking me questions. I told him I was looking for him because I missed him. He gave a laugh and wanted to make sure I was ok. I said I was and just missed him. He led me through a gorgeous kitchen, back to the yard and told me to go home. He was busy. I asked him about the house he told me he built it and that he wanted my mom to have her dream kitchen. He reassured me she would be with me for years and years. But he needed to start working on it. He told me the beach was two minutes by bike or five on foot . There was a pink cruiser leaning against the tree. He told me to go, he was fine and to not come back.
    A few months ago my mom turned 80. We threw her a party. She was so happy it was worth it. Driving home I turn to my husband and say ‘it was perfect, the only thing missing was…’ and before I finished the sentence Rhinestone Cowboy came on the radio. That’s the song I associate most with my dad. I just cried and sang along.
    And finally a few nights ago I was almost asleep whe I heard a ringing phone. I answered it and it was my dad. We talked for a few minutes and he had to go, he was busy. He told me to be reasonable or I had reason (same phrase in Italian).
    I miss him. There are so many other things like this I could write, but I’ve taken up enough of your time

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    1. Hi Marcella,

      I’m sorry I’m responding late to your comment, but thank you for sharing your communications with your father. It sounds very much like your father is sending you some serious symbolism, esp. with regard to the pool. Interestingly, your father’s descriptions of ‘getting the house ready’ is exactly what I’ve read in other communications. I also know that we tend to visit the spirit world when we sleep (usually we don’t remember it). Sounds like you actually visited your dad’s house in the afterlife. I’ve read of of other spirit communications where they built a house in the spirit world to match or exceed what they had on earth. From the leslie flint tapes, the recordings of Annie Nanji tells her husband that she’s created their house from earth “down the smallest details” for when he joins her. I’m also reading a spirit communication from the 1800’s where a spirit arrives in the spirit world and finds his house already built lovingly by his friends. So your dream visitation is more accurate than you may have thought. The other ADCs you describe are wonderful.. it can be so painful and of course you miss him, but it sounds like he is hearing you, and he was there to celebrate your mother’s special day for sure. Lastly, you are NOT taking up anyone’s time – I enjoyed reading about your experience and encourage everyone to share and write as much as they want! That’s the whole purpose of this blog, so if you feel like sharing, never feel like you aren’t completely welcome. Thanks again, and take care Marcella – I hope to see you around here again.
      ~Jenn

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  7. Dear Jenn,

    Thank you so much for your website! It is such a blessing to those of us exploring afterlife communication. I would like to share my experience of how it is possible to still feel our loved ones, in different ways, after their passing.

    My Beloved soul mate passed away in 2012. About 2 months after his transition to pure living Spirit form, he came to me in a dream. First, I saw his face from the neck up. It’s a little hard to explain, but he was so close, it was like he was right in my face! Then, it felt like he sent me a burst of his soul energy. It’s the best way I can explain it. It was like a shock wave that literally woke me up out of my sleep. I felt how strong his Soul/Spirit is. He died after a long illness and I think he was saying, “Feel how strong I am now.” He gave me such a blessing that night because to this day, I can remember what he felt like spiritually as energy and that was approximately four years ago. I love him so much for that. I talk with him all of the time and joke with him that he is the shock wave that continues to reverberate throughout time and space (but I have read that time and space are no longer an issue for our loved ones in Spirit :)). Also, in this dream, he was considerably younger than he was when he passed away. He was age 62 at his passing, but in my dream of him, he was in his mid-20’s and beautiful.

    In another dream I had of him, I was standing in front of him. I reached over with my right hand and touched his face, his left cheek. I could feel him and even though I hesitate to say I felt him physically, it was very much like I felt him physically. I actually touched him. Some may say I had an astral visit with him. I’m not sure what to call it. All I know is that I could touch him and actually feel him in my dream state.

    I am happy to share my experiences with you. I hope it helps someone else who may be grieving to know this is possible, has happened to someone and that it can happen for them too. I did not directly ask for these particular experiences. These experiences happened spontaneously around the time I had just started studying about how to communicate with him. Once our loved ones know we are open and reading about ways we can stay in touch, maybe, that opens the door for them to try all kinds of amazing things!!

    Warmest regards,
    Lisa

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    1. Lisa!

      I’m so sorry I am replying to your comment so late. Thank you so much for sharing your incredible experience! That was certainly no dream, as you well know and what you describe fits in so nicely with how spirits in Dr. Newton’s book talk about sending energy to grieving loved ones. Your soul mate certainly sent you some powerful energy, and I am sure that you are always visiting him while you sleep! Unfortunately, we almost always don’t remember these visits but we can train ourselves to remember them more often. I am very uplifted by your positive spirit, and I know that there is someone out there who will benefit from both your experience and your optimism. Thanks again for sharing, visit anytime! Hope to see you around!
      ~Jenn

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  8. Hi Jenn,

    Very interesting post. I too am among the grieving wanderers. I do have very strong afterlife experiences which I try to record in my blog. I have shared some of the ADC instances, which you might find interesting and will be posting all the experiences as I go along. Would be interested to hear your thoughts about these experiences. I even have a poll on the blog, where I ask readers to help me understand whether these are real ADC or coincidences. Please let me know either here or through my blog what you think. would be very helpful.

    https://afterlifelovestory.wordpress.com/

    Thanks!
    Hope

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      1. Hi Jenn, just wanted to remind you to have a look at my blog when you can. Since my last message I have also had a visitation dream (I think so) and have posted about this as well. Would really like to know what you think 🙂 Thanks!

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        1. Hi there, I haven’t forgotten you. I did visit your site but I want to be able to concentrate and read everything before I comment. I promise I will soon! Who can resist an afterlife love story? 🙂

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          1. Thank you! There have been more ADCs since my last post and some visitation dreams that I too will need to find time to post about. But it really is so intense, I’m breathless at times. Will be waiting for your comments!

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  9. This is unfamiliar territory for me but I lost someone very close to me a week ago. We only knew each other a few years but instantly knew the bond we shared. He considered me his soulmate. He said he had waited his whole life to meet me & felt cheated on lack of time.
    We were together in a public place at the time of his passing. I watched him take his last breath as they began CPR. Only ten minutes prior he told me he wasn’t going to live long. He had already embraced death with no fear or remorse. His father was a preacher so he had a lot of peace regarding this subject. We spoke of death often as he had a health problem & didn’t expect to live long. He assured me he would give me “signs” he was okay.
    He believed in communication with the afterlife. Especially through dreams. He’d tell me my deceased father would visit him in his dreams. Three weeks before he passed away he told me he had a dream I was in a bad car wreck & he wanted me to be careful.
    After his passing I have had a series of events…
    The day after he passed away. At the exact time of his passing I had a tingling or more like quivering in my left arm. It lasted 15 minutes prior & stopped at the exact time his heart stopped the day before. I sensed he knew prior but wasn’t in pain from the massive heart attack just like the doctor said.
    The following day I was headed to a place I hoped I could connect with him. It was a place we sat in nature with a beautiful view. As I was driving a song came on the radio about being in the arms of an angel then another I can’t remember now but both reminded me of him & it poured rain the entire time. When the songs finished the rain stopped as well. As I sat at our nature location I felt I was being watched. As I turned a bird similar to the blue of your butterfly in this post flew away. It reminded me of his blue eyes. Then a lady bug landed on my hand & stayed there for awhile.
    Everytime I sign on social media or my phone it’s his page or last text message the comes up like a screen saver. I’m sure when I restart my devices & clear the cache that will go away.
    It was as if I relived the whole week before his passing…minute by minute!
    On day 6…he repeatedly appeared in my dreams. I’d wake up only remembering pieces. Go back to sleep & repeat the process. I’d awake almost in a panic but calmly go back to sleep. In the morning remembering only his presence.
    Day 7…after recalling every minute of the day a week earlier…after the time of his passing…I started researching through the web. I came across your blog. As I sat on the patio with my dog I started reading out loud about half way through. I asked him to join me & we’d learn this together as I desperately needed signs to learn to cope. It was complete silence except my voice. I told him he was the most intelligent person I’d ever known so I knew he would learn quick. You could have heard a pin drop but what I heard was something like a rock fall out of a tree. As I continued to read my dog sat beside me quiet & calm. Then she started to growl as if something was near. She is small & harmless but will stand on me to to protect me. I stopped for a moment but it was complete silence except her soft growl. As she stood beside me I continued to read out loud thinking, hoping & feeling he was near. When I stopped reading everything was quiet & calm again.

    The logical side of me can see a simple coincidence with everything I mentioned.
    The religious side has belief that there is spiritual life after death.
    The grieving side wants comfort & peace. Or proof. So I am with an open mind but not knowing where to begin.
    Please give me guidance…I am ordering all the books you mentioned. Thank you in advance for your time & knowledge.
    ~j

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    1. Dear J,

      Thank you for having the courage to write your experiences. I am so very sorry for your loss. I know this is a time of sadness, confusion and uncertainty, but do not lose hope. I truly believe your soul mate is reaching out to you, and together you will learn to reestablish a connection. I’m glad that you picked up those books, I hope they bring you comfort. Hello from Heaven, which I would advise reading first, is the handbook for all things ADC and Of course I will help you in any way that I can. Would it be okay if I emailed you directly?

      ~Jenn

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  11. i was directed here frm a intuitive spirit.ive been on the awareness level for awhile now.i hear & sense the spirits.i ususally encounter them in my garage while i work on automobiles.i have listened a number of friends & relatives.ive carried out there messages and have had great incredible feedback.i go out on a limb when i deliver the messages but they hit on point everytime.i had a brother born on 9-22-75 but he died 6-26-99 from cancer.in 2005 my uncle was murdered and same day i my wife delivered our daughter on 9-22-05.
    same bday as my brothers.i felt my deceased brother was telling me something that day.i was suppose to talk to my cousin Carlos to talk some sense into him.i didnt connect the messages and he murdered the wrong person.Since then i redirected my spiritual side of life to afterlife awareness.i feel im at good spot spiritually but i know theres greater abilities i can achieve. Mostly the spirits i converse with want me to tell their relatives that they love them and too help the loose cannons in their family.I relay messages with good feedback but after that the families no longer want contact with me.They think im into voo-doo thanks too my religious fanactic family & friends.Ive been disowned on the downlow but they smile at me still.My dreams are so vivid sometimes i swear theyre real.
    i have predicted many catastrophies and deaths of people bc the spirits tell me.i just want to bring closure to many who lose their loved ones. The spirits tell me theyre are different levels of consciousness here and in the next dimension’s.
    theyre are many different beings of light & ships to transport spirits. i never hear of dangers or anything like that yet but ive seen nasty beings in my dreams who want me to stop searching for the truth.
    i fought with these evil spirits periodically but i usually overcome them. The afterlife is religion free as i was told.theyre are no deitys or famous figures thru time there just you and few seldom who help you transfer over.My Deceased uncle introduced me to some inter dimensional members of a inter galactic counsil.They revealed too me i was a member also & my mission is too awaken as many people as i can.they showed me glimpses of my life where they saved me numerous times frm be killed too soon by Elite Force of rogue spirits who hate light workers.
    i didnt believe this stuff until met more people on the internet seeking answers too.we came to the conclusion it is real! we meet in the dream realm now to catch up.
    i know this sounds like sci-fi but i assure you its real to me.
    I am so happy for all the people who stepped up to Help this world progress in Consciousness!
    Michael Valdez waco,tx

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  12. Michael, I believe you. There are many beautiful people in this world who are connected to the world of spirit, a large percentage of them become afraid and shut down the connection. I’m glad that you have ignored those negative messages and continued to strengthen your connection with spirits. It sounds like you have some amazing mediumship abilities; have you considered finding a good teacher, someone who would help you strengthen and direct your skills and help you learn how to keep your energy strong? Of course, you would always have to guard against people who would want to take advantage of your gifts, and I would think you easily attract psychic vampires too – people who would drain your energy because you are so sensitive. It also looks like you have a wonderful relationship with your guides! I am interested in what you say about the rogue spirits who hate light workers – I’ve read reports that suggest spirits can become like parasites to the living, but I haven’t heard about these spirits organizing and having a mission before. Are they human spirits, or aliens or just inter-dimensional beings?

    I’m so sorry to hear that your religious family doesn’t understand, but maybe in time they will learn to be more open-minded. Until then, it sounds like you are a real purpose – to bring spiritual understanding to the people who are open-minded and willing to listen. Continue to develop your mediumship abilities – if you can bring evidential messages to people from their loved ones, proving beyond the shadow of a doubt that you are in communication with the spirit world, then you will give a lot of people hope. There are a lot of books that can help you understand your gifts and develop them safely. You might also check out if there is a church of spiritualism somewhere in your area; spiritualism is a religion, but its a religion built around mediumship and full connection to the world of spirit. You might feel a little better being around others who not only understand and share your gift, but would not judge you for your experiences. If you need anything, feel free to email me. I know Texas is a mighty Christian environment, but you are definitely not alone.
    ~Jenn

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    1. I had another ADC 2 days ago while reading on another website about spiritual stuff. I was just sitting there that night clicking on different topics as I was scrolling down thru their site. The 2nd topic had to do with time and calenders, how we keep reminders of certain events in our lives. You know write em down on the calender. Anyway, there it was “January 2011”. I posted a previous comment here concerning that same date. See it so it makes sense. She’s around ! Kinda funny just makes me chuckle is all… Only to yourself will you know the after-life is real…

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  13. I’ve always believed in life, that it never ends. I’ve had contact from that realm before. One was in late November 2006. There were 3 of them there maybe 4 as I could feel them. It was very strong and I mean really very strong. It was my uncle Gary who had just passed over November 21, 2006 age 58, his mother my grandmother Ruth who had passed in 2003. Another uncle Larry who passed over in 1972 age 31. The 4th spirit if you choose to refer to them that way may have been a guide.. They stayed for several days…. I believe my relatives assured me of what I’ve always believed and so did my uncle Gary…
    My latest contact came just a week ago. I stumbled upon a death notice on the Internet while doing some ancestry research. The greatest Love of my life had passed over on January 16, 2011 the day after my birthday she was just 54 years old. I was stunned and shocked. It moved my spirit greatly like never before in my entire life. A few days later I woke to her presence right there with me. It was strong, warm and peaceful… It was her alright no doubt in my being (spirit)… She’s still here for some reason unknown to me right now. Ah but enough of that for now and on to living… Other things I’ll keep for now and express them at a future time…

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  14. My brother just passed away unexpectedly this past Thursday at the young age of 27, I just hope he will come. I need him to come see me and tell me he is ok, tell me he is happy and healthy, I just hope he is not too angry with me for not doing more to save him. Ive only had one other after life experience but since then I truely believe. Im just patiently waiting. Your blog is helping me keep faith that he will come. thank you

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    1. Dear Christina,

      I am so sorry about your brother; you have my sincere condolences. If it helps, know that after-death communications are the most statistically common of all of the paranormal events connected with life after death. I think it was something like 8 out of 10 people will be contacted at least once in their lifetime. I can tell you unequivocally – without even knowing you or your brother – that your brother is not angry with you for *anything*. I have read thousands of after-death and near-death experiences; spirits don’t harbor feelings of anger towards their family – that’s human stuff. All your brother feels for you is absolute and genuine love. While you are grieving, don’t forget to talk to you brother out loud. Get your worries off your chest, and talk to him like he’s in the room. Spirits always say that they can hear us when we talk to them, and they always know when we are thinking of them. Now your grief might be too strong for your brother to come through just yet – that’s okay. In the meantime, keep your connection open with him. You may not be able to see him, but he’s still very much alive and concerned about the pain that his family is going through right now. Depending on the circumstances of his passing, he might be involved in some healing up there, and your love and forgiveness will help speed that healing along. If you need or want to talk more about it in a private way, you are always welcomed to email me. Until then, keep looking for signs – symbols, dreams, songs.. the ways spirits communicate with us are endless. Just keep and open mind and an open heart and I’m sure you’ll get a communication from your brother soon.
      Take care,
      Jenn

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      1. hey Jenn i just got done reading all your blog post i did it during lunch at my job but great stuff and one thing i wanted to ask off what u have seen do u think the world is going to change and science or is it going to stay super atheist like and all the hard work that u and other do is gone or do u think it is changing and the evidence and all that is changing the view and btw . i am not asking this because i am scared i did that for my friend before i am in brain science and i love the afterlife evidence and studying it mediums is my thing but what do u think about this

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        1. Hi Brandon,

          Of course no one can really know what the future holds, but my opinion based on where we’ve come so far in science is that we will continue to move away from materialism. Consider how science has developed in the 20th century: we thought everything was made of physical atoms, then discovered that that the basic level our reality is simply energy. Moreover, this energy is inherently probabilistic. We’ve learned that time is not the same for everyone, and in quantum physics, particles can even go back and forth in time. Particles can become entangled, staying connected even across the universe with no physical link that we can find. The universe is filled with dark energy, which is continually being created and stretching our universe apart, even though the origin of this energy is still unknown. It is no longer that strange for scientists to talk about multiple dimensions, wormholes, or time travel. All of these things would have been considered science fiction in the 1800’s. So it seems that the trend of science is to get more abstract and more energy-based rather than materially-based. I do think that consciousness is the last missing link in science, but some scientists are brave enough to study this area – like Dean Radin, and Rupert Sheldrake – who has studied telepathy. Even though mainstream science doesn’t take it seriously, we know that telepathy has been proven. People have been affecting number generators with their mind for 4 decades now. And yet mainstream science simply refuses to delve into the implications of what this could mean. Remote viewing and other forms of projected consciousness also have a lot of supporting evidence. As time goes on, materialism will start to lose its hold and more and more scientists will feel its okay to study these ‘fringe’ areas without fear of losing their funding or academic credibility. In another 100 years, I think the world will be far closer to accepting that consciousness has a role to play in the larger universe. It’s just the way science has been going in the last two centuries.

          By the way, thanks for reading that super looooong post! I know the subject matter was kind of dry and technical, but I really appreciate that you took the time to read it through!

          Jenn

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          1. Hi jenn i agree with every thing but i think it won’t if it does happen take that like i think 20 to 40 years when all the hard core old skeptics are gone there will be a lot more to the topic for sure and study of the mind i feel liek it is more mainstream just brain base mind. and right now i htink the study of physical mediums or just mediums with the right funding can be very good for the new science

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  15. My wonderful dad passed three years ago. On the evening after he passed my mother and I were both woken by the brightest white light ive ever seen. I cant begin to imagine it. A few days later myself and my brother were sitting at a table. I said out loud that I just wanted to know where dad was. The screen on my phone immediately lit up and on the screen its said” wherever you are I am”. We are all still struggling as everyone does. I have never spoken to dad either in my mind or out loud i am going to try to from now on
    Thanks

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    1. Dear Cab,
      What an amazing experience you had!! Thank you so much for sharing it with us. Getting a message on your phone is one of the more rare types of ADCs, and the light is incredible too! Of course, it doesn’t make the grief easier to bear. I’m sorry that you lost your father, but as he says, he really is with you. If he was able to create that message on your phone, it sounds like he’s a pretty talented spirit. Besides talking out loud to him, you might try EVP. If you aren’t familiar, it’s where you can record voices (hopefully your dad’s voice) on a audio recorder. If you want to hear great examples of EVP, Nicola and idigitalmedium both have terrific examples on their sites. Nicola’s site is: https://callinghome.net/category/itc-evp/ and idigitalmedium’s site is: http://idigitalmedium.com/.
      Take care and don’t lose hope – your dad definitely wants you to know that he’s hanging around!
      ~Jenn

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  16. Hi thank you for your article. I have been very sad & angry that I’ve not had any communication from my dad since he passed in May & have begun doubting he exists in any form anymore which makes me feel very low. He died after a long battle with 2 different types of cancer-the pancreatic getting him in the end. We lost both his parents in the last 3 years, him becoming ill while my nan was also ill so he had a difficult type emotionally as well as physically before he died. I have been asking & asking for signs but nothing. Unless I’m discounting things like a magpie flying past the windscreen on my side when I’m in the car on a few occassions as I did keep seeing ‘1 for sorrow’ while dad was ill & often when we were driving back from the hospital & I told him this. Also one time the cat was acting strange around his picture & another time I walked into my living room & stopped dead really feeling like he was sitting on my sofa. I just kind of put it all down to wishful thinking.

    I do feel like being put on Prozac for just over a year has done something to my mind, closed it off & when my nan died I had no signs from her at all (was on Prozac). However at the point of death I was sleeping in the bed next to her & had this dream in which I was walking with this young girl (I was also younger) through a park in which old people were lying in hospital beds & we were going around helping them by adjusting their morphine drivers (I had been doing this all that night as my nans had been playing up kept beeping). We walked under this tree & all these bats flew down low above us-they were really beautiful with blue colours in with the black. We both reached up to touch them & the girl started going up but I got pulled back down & woke up as my nans breathing had changed & then she died in my arms. I really feel the girl in the dream was my nan going up to a beautiful new place.

    When my grandad died before this, before I had the Prozac I believe I was much more receptive. I had been wishing I could still hold his hand & two nights after his passing I dreamt I was-I woke up in the middle of the night with my hand hanging off the side of the bed & I could still feel his hand in mine. Then shortly afterwards on his birthday (I had kept asking if he was ok as had been worried about him) I was sitting in the garden thinking of him & a butterfly kept landing on my head & my arm like he was letting me know he was ok.

    I just wish I could have a more obvious sign from my dad but it’s only been 3 months so perhaps he is still ‘recovering’. Though my mum felt a big shove one night that woke her up & it happened to be at at a time my sister was in trouble! Perhaps I am still less receptive & also I have been very emotional & anxious since he died which could be blocking any communication? I did have my tarot read shortly after his death (not expecting anything to do with him to come through) & the lady said there’s a loving energy around me supporting me & giving me strength then she said almost like a father figure-I snapped to attention-I had been asking him for strength just the week before!

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    1. Hi Kayley,
      I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve lost your dad so recently. You are deep in the stages of grief and that itself can make it difficult for your dad to communicate. Grief is like a wall around us that other energies cannot penetrate. In addition, your dad might be engaging in some spirit healing right now. I’ve read spirit communications that describe a place in the afterlife that people who’ve suffered long illnesses, such as cancer go for a while until their energy is healed. ADCs can happen right away, or your first communication may happen after a year or two. Its quite normal at 3 months to have not heard anything – it doesn’t mean your Dad isn’t trying to communicate, but remember that he’s a new spirit and has to re-learn how to work with energies in order to make certain things happen. Give it time, and in the meantime, talk to him. Tell him how you are feeling. Spirits tell us that they can hear you loud and clear when you talk. Even though he may not be able to communicate as strongly as you’d like at the moment, trust that he is listening to you, and with you when you are speaking to him. He will find a way; I’m sure of it. Once your grief becomes less intense and he’s learned a few spiritual tricks, I’m sure you or someone in your family will hear from him.
      Take care, Kayley, and don’t give up hope!
      Jenn

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  17. Really enjoying reading this…only found you today! I am still waiting for contact from Mum who passed 18 months ago. I am suffering her loss very much. However, I have seen her in a vivid dream. Reading your post has reassured me that it was her trying to get in touch. Thank you.
    SharonMarie.xxx

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    1. Hi SharonMarie, glad you found us! Dreams from loved ones who have passed are very special indeed. There is usually a ultra-real quality to the dream that feels different than other dreams. There might not be spoken communication but a feeling of love that is pervasive. If you had a dream like that then you can be sure it was your mum getting in contact. As your grief lessens, you may get other signs… could be a song or her purfume, even something a stranger says in passing. Keep your heart and mind open and I’m sure you’ll see more signs. Your mum wants you to know she’s ok, and she’ll keep sending signs until she gets that across to you. Take care, and do let us know if you hear from her! Warm Regards, Jenn

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        1. Hi, im not english so im sorry for mistakes. I just lost my boyfriend im in love. We havent been together for very long time, but both of us couldnt believe how close we got. He had leukemia so we somehow knew he would pass away one day. But he fought so much. Many people are saying, be calm he doesnt suffer anymore. But i know he would rather suffer a lot in hospital just to enjoy time out at home. Since he died i permanently speak to him, saying im not scared of ADC. I need to know he is okey so badly. I wont stop until i will not be sure. Tomorrow is his funeral. Im still waiting for any kind of sign. Im very hurtfull. But somehow im calm because i know he will have ADC with me. Im not scared its just waired he is not here. Im still waiting for him to come home…and i know he will..before we got in relaionship i knew he is ill and one day he will pass away. And althougt many people said let him be ill get hurt. I do not regret it as he changed me so much. I knew he wanted to live so badly but i know he was ready to die. His mother was with him atm he was dieing. His last words was im gonna sleep mum but im not gonna wake up anymore…. and he didnt. Wish he could be with me and communicate but im scared he cant go on because of it..im very confused but not scared. RIP babe…#fuckcancer #livestrong

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          1. Dear Petra, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It is so hard and so painful. You have to believe that he is ok. He has passed on to another life, but is still the same person. He will be with you whenever you think about him. He will know of your sadness and will be by your side trying to comfort you. Sending you love,
            Sharon xxx

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          2. Hi Petra,
            I’m SO sorry for your loss. You must be in terrible pain. I would like you to check out the site of another reader here, it’s called Afterlife Love Story. The blog author also lost her soul mate, and she blogs about the many wonderful signs that he gives her. Her site is here: https://afterlifelovestory.wordpress.com/2016/05/11/the-signs-or-how-the-story-began/ I hope that you can find some comfort in your shared experience. If its easier to read in your language, you can use google translate and it will translate the entire site for you. As for the sign, be patient – I promise you it will come. A lot of the time the signs don’t happen right away, its hard for spirits to communicate when you are grieving. As for him going on, don’t worry. He is in the exact right place; he is not ‘stuck’, I have almost never heard of this happening with a passing due to illness. its true that he is probably worried about you, but I’m positive that right now he is bathing is beautiful healing light. As soon as he’s ready, he’ll let you know. Don’t lose hope! Talk to him out loud – he can hear you!
            ~Jenn

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  19. Hi
    I wanted to pass along this site:
    Afterlifeconnections.org. It’s a nonprofit research site studying methods to help us connect with the afterlife. It’s monitored by Craig Hogan.

    They teach a way to develop your ability to connect with loved ones through self hypnosis. It is wonderful to experience them yourself- much different than going thru a medium. It’s also free and as you are practicing the moderator (Craig) emails you helpful feedback.
    I have to say though, when you are deep in grief sometimes it’s hard to hear them. My son, who has passed, told me when I am hurting so bad- fetal position- non stop wailing, it’s like my heart is folded up, and even tho he is trying to get through he can’t. So he told me in those times, try to be conscious of that and unfold my heart just a little so I can hear him. He gave me a vision, to imagine myself as a rag doll, limbs hanging limp, while the trunk of my body, particularly my heart is being lifted up, thru the sky, just above the plane of the earth where our hurts are so heavy. And remember to breathe during grief. Holding your breath holds the pain in. I wish you all peace and great connections.

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    1. Hi there!
      Thanks for the link – I’ve heard about this, though I haven’t presented on my site yet because I want to read more testimonials and research how it works. I’m glad to hear of your experience though. I’m so sorry about the loss of your son. I can’t even imagine the terrible pain. Those are wonderful suggestions from your son about breathing during grief. You are NOT the only parent who can hear their child – the book ‘My Life after Life’ by Galen Stoller was written through communications a father had with his son that way, and “Matthew, tell me more about Heaven”, though I haven’t read that book yet, is from mind-to-mind communication from mother to son. Cherish it, and help it grow!
      Warm regards,
      Jenn

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  20. I never believed in these communications, always thinkng it was the bereaved’s ways of finding comfort for themselves, until I lost my husband to cancer 2 years ago. I have received the little whte feathers, quite often in the beginning, now only when I am particularly down, a few shiny pennies in strange places whose paths he must have known I would be crossing, electronic events, and dreams. The elctronic events and dreams are the most striking. He had his own business in which he worked with audio/video components, and when I had his business phone number disconnected the phone continued to ring with the answering machine with his voice coming on. Odd things have happened with the computers including the backup battery unit going crazy, blinking and beeping loudly in the middle of the night. That only happened twice, once in the very beginning and again when our daughter was hospitalized halfway through her pregnancy with a bleeding problem, with all of us living terrified she would lose the baby. Thankfully, she did not and all was well. However, a particular dream stands out. 4 months after his passing I had hit a very low point and honestly considered not going on. I had a very vivid dream I’ll never forget in which I saw him, all dressed in a white tshirt and cream cargo shorts, looking pink, healthy and happy, with a blur of many people behind him. He didn’t say a word, but he smiled and motioned me to come over to him. As I stood next to him, he motioned for me to look down at something and we both broke into huge, beaming smiles. I woke up not knowing what he was telling me until a week later when our daughter called to say she was pregnant with her first baby. I believe he was telling me to hold on, that something wonderful was coming, and that I still had a purpose in life. It continues to be difficult living without him, but at our grandson’s first birthday all of their smoke detectors went off for no reason; electronic devices again. They both said that had never happened before and it never haooened again. And as we were getting ready for a cancer fundraising walk the same weekend, there was a little white feather on the baby’s stroller blanket. I can’t dismiss these events as coincidences or figments of my imagination. They are far more than coincidental and I’m never looking for them or trying to make them happen. They just happen when I least expect them yet when I most need him. I want him to rest, but this grief journey will remain with me until we meet again some day, and his messages are comforting, There have been two dreams in which he seemed impatient with me as if I should grateful for a life he wishes he still had. In one I had 3 nights ago, after not dreaming of him for about a year, when I was again feeling very low, he was way off to the side telling with me on the edge of a cliff or tall building (I couldn’t tell which), but he was telling me to go ahead and jump if that’s what I really wanted, but I didn’t and I sensed he was angry, not because of my choice, but because he thought it was horrible that I would even think of hurting myself. I never would, but grief can push you low. The image of him was unclear, distant and small, and it seemed as if it had been harder for him to contact me. I’m still chilled by that dream and am taking it seriously as a message that I need to be strong because my purpose here hasn’t been fulfilled although I have thought taking care of him during his illness was my sole purpose. I have many decisions to make in the near future including moving closer to our daughter and her family; I hope he gives me support throughout that but that I will also have the strength to fulfill the purpose of my continuing life. Thank you.

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    1. Dear Marie,

      Thank you so much for sharing your heartfelt, painful but inspiring message. You’ve definitely gotten some wonderful ADCs from your husband, and I know that when others will read your experiences, you will give them hope. I can’t imagine the pain and grief of losing the love of your life, but it sounds like your husband is still your partner, still looking out for you, and making sure you are okay and strong for your daughter and your grandson. Death does not do us part, and your incredible story is proof of that. I wish you well – don’t give up, you DO have a purpose here and at the very least, you know that you are not alone in your journey. Come back anytime- we are here at this site to help people learn more about how near our loved ones in spirit are; these aren’t just platitudes but if you are interested in learning more, there is a ton of real evidence too. On the other hand I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that – you’ve seen it for yourself!
      Take care,
      Jenn

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  21. I lost my dear mother a month ago, she was 84, died peacfully in her sleep of a massive stroke, i hurt and worry so much if shes ok, i was her caregiver for about 10 months, she fell last October and broke her hip and then had a small stroke that hurt her right side, her right leg was contracted and we Couldn’t get it to straighten out again, so she was bed ridden the last 11 months of her life, ive been talking to her outloud asking for a sign that shes ok and i haven’t had any dreams or anything yet but my neice Jessica whom mom was very fond of because she was named after mom’s mom said she had a realistic dream the night after mom passed away, in the the dream she said her and mom were holding hands while walking together and when she woke up her arm was laid out away from her with her hand open as if it was real, does this have any meaning? Please help, desperate for answers

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    1. Hi Joe,
      Thanks for sharing your story, I’m so very sorry about your mother. You are deep in grief, as her son, her caregiver – the person who spent the last year of her life by her side. Its been a month and naturally you are desperate to know that she is okay, that she is happy and well. First, you should know that it is not at all unusual that you haven’t heard anything yet. Remember, deep grief can wall us off from communications. That doesn’t mean your mother isn’t around you, and isn’t going to continue to try to send you a sign. It just means it might take a little time. However, I think it’s extremely meaningful that your niece DID get what I would consider a pretty strong communication from your mother. I have had a dream visitation (twice) and I know it was real, so I don’t see any reason to doubt your niece. Remember also that your mother not only wanted to reach your niece, but she wanted to reach you through your niece. Do not lose hope. It can take several months at the minimum to get your first sign – often the person closest is not the first person to get the sign, as you’ve experienced. Sometimes, ADCs can take even longer – its different in all cases. 75% of people DO get their first sign within the first year after the person’s passing. That is a really hopeful statistic. The best thing you can do right now is to try to go through the grieving process and begin to heal. Talk to your mother out loud – she will hear you. As your grief begins to lift a little in the future, I know you’ll get your sign. 🙂
      ~Jenn

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  22. Thanks jenn, i do believe in it, my oldest neice who passed away in 2000 from cancer visited me, mom told us a story of how her first husband visited her, she said she was driving home alone late one night and she looked in the rear veiw mirror and he was sittin in the back seat and my mothers sister my aunt carol told me after their mother passed away back in the late 70’s that she came to her in spirit form, she said she seen granny stand in her doorway and granny said shes ok, shes happy, i havent gotten a dream or anything yet, yes i talk outloud to mom a lot telling her to give me a sign that shes ok, my youngest brother whom mom and i lived with this past year says he keeps seeing the number 1 in a lot of things, like the clock sayin 11.11 a lot and 1s in other ways, we have yet to figure it out, ive quit greiving recently and hoping for something from mom

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  23. My neice also said she thinks mom turned her tv off and sometimes she thinks she feels mom is there and feels like shes being watched, im talking outloud to her and not greiving now, just wanting my sign, i think i did get 1 last night, yesterday i was broke and needing a few dollars and i come into my room and theres about $2 in change laying on my bed, i think i had lost it and she found it and placed it there for me

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  24. From last October when mom had that stroke mom hardly ever talked unless we got her too, she could but just didnt want to, she had no quality of life anymore cause of her right leg being contracted she was bedridden except for when i got her up with the lift, she didnt want to participate in anything, her dr only had her on a blood pressure pill and it made her sleep all the time, its side effects was sleepyness, tiredness, confusion, she was sleeping her life away with no quality of life at all, she wouldn’t even read her newspaper anymore, home health care worked on her for several months, her speech returned to normal, so did her swallowing and everything else except her right leg, then home health care dropped her and dr put her on hospice which i hated, if they did it cause she wasnt going to make it then they hid it from me, 1 day about 6 weeks before she passed away she was her old self for a whole day, it was wonderful, we loved it and prayed shed return to that but next day she went back to sleeping all the time and not talking much, i knew the blood pressure pill was the culprit along with the stroke but she was recovered from the stroke so it was mainly the pill so after talking to my brothers and the nurse we decided to take her off it then about 6 weeks later she passed away, huge huge regret for me but ik i gotta let that go

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    1. Hi Joe,
      Why do you think your mother was so lucid for that one day? Was there any particular reason – i.e. combination of medications that abated her symptoms for that one day? I’m sorry that the home health aide, which seemed to work so well with your mother wasn’t there longer. As for hospice, usually they will recommend hospice for patients that they think are terminal in less then six months. Did they tell you anything about her condition? Secondly, you shouldn’t have any guilt about the decisions you made for your mother. Every decision you made was in her best interest – she knows that. You showed your love for your mother by being her caretaker, and I’m sure that is absolutely grateful for it. On the other hand, if you have unresolved guilt, this could stand in the way of a communication. Guilt is a strong emotion, and it can create a wall. Try resolving your feelings by talking it through with your mom, as if she is sitting in front of you. Once you release those feelings, not only will you feel better but it may make it easier to get an ADC. Just a disclaimer here: I’m not a psychiatrist, so consider this advice from a friend, not a medical statement. Though, if you feel that you do need more help dealing with your mother’s passing, therapy- either one on one or group therapy, can really be a helpful tool as well. You’ve been through a really traumatic experience.
      -Jenn
      Jenn

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  25. Plus mom had dementia but she knew who everyone was but she didnt know she had fell and broke her hip then had a stroke,, im not sure but i think she was also partially sad from her situation and all, i fought so hard to get her better

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  28. Mom was and still is very fond of that neice of mine she visited in her dream, i believe it, especially because she said she woke up with her hand out and open, im just hoping for something significant myself or that my neice will get something again

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  29. Yeah im getting past the guilt, i realise mom was 84 and her health was questionable, after she had that stroke in the first hospital she didnt eat or poop for 4 days and they sent her home anyhow and that Friday night she coughed up her bowels because they were blocked and backed up and she ended up in icu for 5 days and then in a hospital room for 13 days, she had asperated too when she coughed up her bowels and she had some kind of intestinal virus called c-dif i think, the dr there at that hospital mentioned hospice and that he didnt think she would make it but she did for 10 months longer, after she came home home health care worked on her and her speech and swallowing improved a whole lot but she would still throw up fairly often and especially more before she died, they couldn’t figure out why they said, the hospice pastor told me moms dr put her on hospice because he didnt expect her to make it but i thought she was getting better, her last day alive she had thrown up and couldn’t eat so i gave her a stomach pill they got for her, my oldest brother had told me that hospice has changed and would take care of anyone, according to the hospice pastor my brother lied to me, imma confront him about it, i forgive him, no hard feelings but i wanna know why

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  31. Back in the mid 80s, around 85 my mom whent to a pastor that was a friend of my brothers and told him she had sinned and wanted to repent and ask for forgiveness, i was unaware of that til recently when i told my brother i wanted mom saved and he said she already did it, i found the pastor she went to and talked to him and amazingly he remembered it and said mom did it willingly and openly and went to church for a little while but after that she was with another man, dating kinda but around 1991 when that niece of mine who had the dream was born mom changed her ways and habits for the rest of her life, mom was very fond of Jessica because Jessica because she was named after moms mother, her name was jessie but heres the kicker, i had knew about this partially all these years but when mom was pregnant with my niece Jessicas dad back in 71 that the doctors told mom she had a form of female cancer and said that she needed to have an abortion because if she gave birth to him that it would kill her and mom told them no way im not having an abortion and she gave birth and miraculously they both survived it, my mom was amazing, she always put others before herself, especially family, she was always concerned about others needs before her own, she was never selfish or greedy, she was the opposite of greedy, very generous, never conceited or proud, she was a forgiving person

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    1. Hi Joe,
      She sounds like a beautiful soul. I can tell that you love her very much. I would recommend you read “hello from heaven” by Bill and Judy Guggenheim. I think it will bring you a lot of comfort to read of others who have lost parents and the kind of signs/ADCs they’ve received from them. Plus then you’ll know what to look for.
      Jenn

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  32. Mom was her regular old self for that 1 day, she was talking out loud and openly and asking questions about the family and all, it was wonderful but the next day she went back to sleeping all the time and not talking or wanting to do anything, we figured the blood pressure pill had a lot to do with it because all the side effects were tiredness, drowsyness, confusion etc, so after discussing it among my 2 brothers and i and the nurse i took her off of it and about 6 weeks later she died of a stroke, plus mom had never been on blood pressure pills her entire life, i just wanted her back to her old self and have some quality of life, we were even going to take her to the dr about throwing up and then we were going to take her to a orthopedist dr to have something done about her contracted right leg, her dr suggested tendon release surgery, she probably wouldnt have walked again but at least her right leg woulda straightened out to make her more comfortable when i got her pout of bed, i knew mom hated it all, she had told my niece a few years ago she didnt want to have to have anyone take care of her and clean her and wait on her and all

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    1. Hi Joe,
      I asked about your mom’s day of clarity because I wonder if it was a case of “terminal lucidity”. Its an unexplained abatement of all symptoms minutes -days- or weeks before death. Google the term and see if you think it applies.
      Jenn

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  33. The first sign I received from my husband was when the clock stopped at the exact time of his death. It re-started again at the correct time and hasn’t stopped again since. Now, a beeping sound can be heard at random times but particularly when I am upset, first thing in the morning and when I need to be reminded of something. The sound never keeps me awake at night or wakes me up. I can’t explain these things away so I feel it must be him letting me know he’s still around. It comforts me and sometimes I can feel his warmth around me. Is it possible for a spirit to do these things?

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  34. My niece hasnt had anymore adc’s from mom yet, i told her to be open to it and to talk to mom, i talk to her daily asking her to communicate with me, im worried i will never hear from her because i cant remember it happening to me ever in my life except for when my niece visited me back in 2000 after she died but i didnt talk to her at all or ask for anything i didnt with my oldest brother either after he died about 6 years ago, i dont remember if i had any dreams from him, his daughters had dreams for several months and had odd things happen like a chair moving on its own and a tv being turned off but they haven’t had anything else since then, tell me what to do please, should i keep talking to her? And be expecting it?

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    1. Hi Joe,
      The absolute best thing you can do right now is heal. Its only been one month, and you have some grieving left to do. Don’t get stuck in the process of healing until you hear from your mom, because that could prevent a communication too. Ultimately, your mother wants you to be happy – living your life as best as you can. You can certainly talk to her – set aside some time each night, if you’d like and tell her about your day, work out things that you need to work out about her death. The best way to get a communication is to work through your grief, be open-minded and alert and live in the best way you can . Don’t worry about how the communication will happen, just know that it will happen when the time is right. Have faith. Remember, it may not happen right away. It usually happens in the first year, but not in all cases. My mother waited 16 years for her first communication. In many cases, the ADCs happen at a time when we are least expecting it. I know its super hard to be patient – it can be frustrating, but that is what is needed here.
      ~Jenn

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  35. Ok jenn i will do all the above thank you, is it common or unusual that my niece got a adc from mom the night after she passed away and then nothing since? Do you think she will get more? What does the dream she had with mom tell you? Holding hands then waking up with her hand out and open

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    1. Joe,
      Its not unusual at all. In fact, its amazing that your niece got an ADC so soon after your mother’s passing. What do I think it means? I think your mother found it easier to get through to your niece for some reason, and so the dream meant, “I’m okay, healthy and happy.” She also knew that your niece would pass along the message to you.

      ADCs don’t happen often, so I wouldn’t expect your niece to have another one very soon. Reading “hello from heaven”, it seems like people get one very powerful initial communication, then possibly others but they could be spread years apart. Our dearly departed want us to know they are okay, once they feel that you’ve accepted their communication as evidence of that, they usually don’t seem to keep sending ADCs. I think the reason is because they want us to move on with our lives, and not get addicted to the communication. They never leave us – they are always a part of our lives, but they don’t want to hold us back either. After the initial ADC to say, “I’m okay”, you might get signs if you are in trouble, or on big occasions like weddings and birthdays. Here’s an example. My great-grandfather and I were somewhat close. He died when I was 19. I didn’t get my first ADC from him until I was 31 and in real trouble. That’s when I needed to hear from him and when his ADC had the biggest impact. I believe that your mother will contact you in some way to let you know that she is okay. It may take some time before she does. After that, you may get little signs here or there. Its hard – we don’t want our relationship with them to end. It doesn’t really – they are a part of our lives in a big way, but because we can’t see them with our eyes, we feel like they aren’t. Have faith – my great-grandfather was definitely watching me from the afterlife, otherwise he wouldn’t have known that I was in trouble.
      -Jenn

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  37. Mom was totally her normal self, like she was years ago before dementia and sick, she was talking out loud openly and willingly and asking questions about the family and all that, she was the mom we loved and knew, does that tell you anything ?

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    1. Sounds like terminal lucidity to me. Obviously, medically I can’t be sure, but it fits. What a beautiful gift that your mother was able to reconnect one more time before she passed.
      Jenn

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  38. Mom is very fond because shes named after granny and when she was born it changed mom for good, she dropped her habit and stayed home the rest of her life, thank you so much, u are being a big help, that dream helps me a lot but i need something big from my mom myself before i am totally confident shes ok, safe and happy forever, i talk to her daily

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  39. I think mom went to Jessica because out of everyone in the family she is the 1 she we woulda expected her too, either Jessica or Jason, Jessicas dad, like i told u when he was born it saved moms life

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  40. Jason keeps seeing the number 1 a lot, like 1.11, 11.11 et, is mom trying to give us a significant upcoming date possibly ? My other niece brianna, Jessica’s younger sister is pregnant with a girl, its due in November, she gave her babys middle name moms middle name, joyce

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    1. Only Jason knows if the numbers mean something. I see 17s when my spirit guides are trying to tell me something, so it’s possible. One thing we can be certain about, your mother is going to watch over Brianna, and she’s probably even met the baby already. No matter what happens, your mother is watching over all of you. If it helps, go read my post, “Two souls passing in the night”. It has a lot of relevance to Brianna’s baby and your mother.

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  41. This website has taught me so much ty jenn, i was a believer before my mom passed away but i didnt realize our loved ones could contact us in so many ways, i had only had that 1 experience where my niece visited me and the story mom always told us about seeing her husband and my aunt carol seeing my granny and now with my mom visiting my niece makes me a total believer but im worried i may never get anything from my mom, i really need her to come to me

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    1. I know how truly difficult it is to wait, but you just need to give it time. Its only been a month, that is still pretty soon. Worrying about it may make it harder for you to get a sign. Just trust in your mother, and try as best as you can to live your life. As I said, in the meantime, pick up “Hello from Heaven”. After 6-8 months, if you don’t hear from your mother then you can reach out in other ways but for right now, concentrate on you. Remember, your mother is doing things now too – she is reviewing her life and healing as well. She will never forget you, Joe, but you have to trust that you will get a sign when the time is right.
      Jenn

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    2. Two weeks ago my boyfriend of 3 years passed. He shot himself. He was 22 and I am 20. His entire life he struggled with depression, he did not have a good childhood (abusive mother) and has been suicidal in the past. I think the issues he struggled with were never completely resolved although he did try to talk to counselors. He also lost a lot of weight (over 120lbs in the last year) and was incredibly hard on himself and definitely struggled with body dismorphia, even though he looked great. He would spend 6+ hours at the gym, he would work himself to the point of passing out. It should be noted that was reliant on smoking marijuana to be in a good mood, but nothing really ever made him happy anymore, although he constantly reminded me that I was one thing that did. It just hurts because I thought that it was going to be enough, the love that we shared saved him before.

      As you can imagine I’m experiencing a lot of pain, guilt and anger. I have never been one to have faith but these past two weeks something in me has changed. I need to have faith because honestly I don’t know what else I can have at a time like this. My mom urged me to see the medium she sees so I did a few days after it happened. I believe that the experience with the medium is what gave me faith, she told me that he is okay, he never meant to hurt me and he doesn’t want me to be angry with him. He was not thinking clearly when he did it and suffered from undiagnosed bipolar disorder. She said that he regrets his decision (which absolutely hurts me inside) and does not want me to suffer. She also said some other things that make it hard to dismiss as being a hoax. He was so concerned about something shiny that he had on him (which was our anniversary necklace I gave to him) and I did get it from his dad after the police gave it to him. The medium brought up that he was concerned with an argument that we had gotten into a week before, he did not mean to be selfish and he said that he is not holding and grudges about what I said to him. There was many other things including the medium saying his nickname “cam” and asking if it was his name and also asked if the height she told was was his actual height (she would not of known this) All of this gave me faith that I hope to build off of. Although the reading from the medium was only a few days after he passed, it confuses me because from what I have read the his soul should of been in a life review? Also since he committed suicide I feel like it would take longer for him to come around and communicate?

      Since the reading I have had some coincidences that I’m not sure if they pass as ADC’s. After I left his house for probably the last time I was driving back home and I thought to put my phone’s music library on shuffle, the song that played was called ‘Brightside’ by Nate Ruess and it is basically about someone singing as if they died and they were signing to a girl who was suffering from his death (presumably one that he loved?) I had to pull over and all I could do was cry. Now maybe this was a coincidence, but I have thousands of songs on my phone and never heard that one before (I have a tendency of downloading albums and not listening to them) also I usually only hear about spirits playing through the radio, not songs that were already on my phone? There have also been two separate occasions where a set of lights had turned on at my house. (There is no issues with the electricity nor have I seen it before so that.) I haven’t been getting the best sleep and I desperately want to see him in my dreams and hug him and tell him that I love him. From what I remember in the past two weeks, he has only been in my dreams twice.

      The first dream was awful. In the dream I was aware of what had actually happened in reality, I just wanted to hug him and see him. In the dream everyone thought that he committed suicide but he actually didn’t and when I saw him I was so happy (even though like I said I knew it wasn’t real) I ran up to give him a hug and he was so mad at me and pushed me off, I’m not sure why. Later in the dream he was hooking up with someone and it hurt me so badly. This dream was very confusing and I couldn’t get it out of my head the rest of the day.

      The second dream with him in it was very brief. He was not alive in the dream but everywhere I went his body was there. The first time I saw it scared me, ( he was dead and looked like the way his body did in the hospital) I would leave the room and his body would be in the next. This dream really freaked me out, it was hard for me to see his body in the hospital, it will forever scar me and it’s now haunting my dreams.

      Lastly, something I have been experiencing constantly is an IMMENSE amount of static electricity build up everywhere I go, I haven’t had to chance to look up too much about if this is any kind of connection to him or not. But it is a lot, I get shocked when I’m at home, getting out of my car, at work, etc. It just seems kind of odd and I wonder if it has any relation. To me I want to believe that these are signs from him but I feel like I just need more, I want him to give me signs that are not mistaken for coincidences.

      However, like I have read, I am still grieving tremendously and it might now be the best if he gave me signs just yet. This boy was my soul mate, we planned on getting married and having kids together, it feels like my future has been ripped from me and I honestly don’t know what to do with myself anymore he is what made me the person I am. He has been apart of my life for the last 5 years (friends for 2 years before dating for 3) It has only been two weeks but I can’t imagine ever getting over him, we were so perfect for each other, it just don’t think that I am strong enough to get through this. I have never experienced death before this, never did I think that he would not be here with me. I don’t think it has fully set in either, at first I was still expecting texts and calls from him, now it is slowly sinking in but I just feel like it’s a dream and I’ll wake up from this haze and we will be snuggling up in his bed watching stupid YouTube videos together.

      I guess what I’m looking for is some signs, I want to know that he with me. My newfound faith in an afterlife is definitely not as strong as it could be, but this post has given me lots of things to look for and to consider, thank you.

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      1. Gwendolyn,
        Thank you for writing. I’m so sorry for your loss; your grief must be tremendous. Although the rule of thumb for visiting mediums is usually to wait 6 months, I am glad that you had a good experience with this medium. As for the timing, its important to remember that time does not work the same way in the spirit realm. I think back to the book “My Life After Death” by Galen Stoller and his father. In the book, Galen (a teen who tragically passed away in a train accident) dies and desperately wants to contact his father. Here on earth, his father goes to a medium only a few days after Galen’s death. Galen has to wait months on his side before his spirit guide will allow him contact with his dad, though from his father’s perspective it has only been days. Additionally, Galen doesn’t finish the communication in real time, but goes back several times. Galen describes time like a spiral, so he is able to (presumably with his guide’s help) go back or forward to points in time on the earth plane. It should be noted that this example is very specific, and truly we don’t know exactly how time works on the other side. It does seem, however, that it doesn’t always sync up with our time.
        In my opinion, those terrifying dreams that you had about him were not ADCs. When he does visit you in a dream, you will know it and it will not be scary. Usually, dream ADCs have an overwhelming sensation of love, wisdom, and acceptance. Communication is usually (but not always) telepathic. You will absolutely know it when it happens, and I hope that it does for you. Don’t lose hope though if he chooses another way to communicate, or if it takes longer that you hope. Spirits vary in their abilities, and as we know, time is tricky. My mother didn’t get her first contact for 16 years, though that is unusual. Usually contact is made within the first year, though a year can feel like forever when we are desperate to know that our loved one is okay. ADCs are subjective, of course, but I think you know it when you get one. Phone playlists landing on a specific song is a perfect example of how spirits can communicate – I’ve even heard of people getting text messages, emails or phone calls (it’s rare, but it’s happened!).
        Right now, my best advice to you would be to deal with your grief in the best way you can; whether that is friends and family support, individual or group therapy, or by contacting an online grief network (see my menu on death and dying). This will not only obviously help you, but it can make communication between you and he far easier. Grief builds a wall that is often impossible to breach though the process is healthy and necessary and unfortunately unavoidable. It will get a little easier as time goes on, and then perhaps you will wish to read more of the research about life after death; it has given me comfort to know that the evidence is extremely strong for survival. I believe in my heart that you will see him again, and he will always be with you – giving you that little bit of strength and courage you need during the really difficult times. And sometimes, when you really need it, your phone playlist will land on just the right song.. or you will overhear a conversation that you just know was meant for you. And you will know that he is with you.
        My thoughts are prayers are with you, Gwendolyn, please let us know if you get any more communications – certainly it gives everyone who has lost someone hope that they too will get confirmation that our loved ones are alive and well and will be there to welcome us into the light one day.
        Be gentle to yourself,
        Jenn

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  44. The dream visit mom had with my niece gives me peace of mind, my youngest niece had a dream about mom too, you really think shes safe and ok?

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    1. I do. When spirits cross over in a state of distress, they don’t typically create dream visitations radiating the kind of love and peace that your mother radiated to your niece. I believe your mom is safe, well and happy. Like any mom, she wants the best for her children and family. Love is eternal, Joe. I read about it all of the time – in ADCs, deathbed visions, near-death experiences, and every other type of paranormal experience. Your mother may not have a physical body, but I believe that she feels better right now than she ever has.
      Jenn

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  45. We have financial concerns, mom had always taken care of us fiancially, now we gotta do it ourselves, we just got a car with the money that was left to us, im in the process of finding a job, idoes mom know or sense all of this?

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    1. Joe,
      Everything I’ve ever read suggests that she absolutely does. And in the afterlife, your mother is in a position to help you in ways that she couldn’t before. You mentioned that you just got a car, and are looking for a job. If there is any way your mother can help you now, is to help point you in the right direction to make choices in your life that will help you get on your feet. Look for opportunities that come into your life unexpectedly, stay positive and know that you not only have spirit guides (everyone does), but know that you have a brand new angel who is going to everything she can for her child. Staying optimistic is key, though, negativity can stand in the way of the process. Go out there and do the best you can – and maybe you’ll find your sign in the way things come together for you.
      Jenn

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  46. Ok jenn, thank you so much, im going to do as you say, amazingly the niece mom visited works at a book store and can get me that book for a few dollars

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    1. That’s wonderful Joe! There are over 300 cases of ADCs in there, I sincerely hope it brings you hope and inspiration to read about the many others who have gotten all kinds of signs and messages from the other side. And for a few bucks? Sounds like it was meant to be. Take care and stay in touch!

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      1. My sister in law is freaking out cause of our financial situation, fussing and worrying, its not good here right now, i hope mom cant see this all going on, i hope it has no effect on her either, mom paid all the bills with her income, im not worried much myself, i have faith god and or mom will lead us through it

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        1. Take a deep breath. All you can do is put one foot in front of the other, and try your best. Any problems that you have can be resolved if you have the courage to try and the optimism to know that everything will be okay. Ever hear the term “God helps those who help themselves?” I believe that if you and your family moves forward – looks for opportunities and solves one problem at a time, your mom will be there right along side to help. Worry and fear only make it harder for spirits to help us. Just do your best – that’s all you can do. Start looking, and you never know – a great job might land in your lap. Spirits are great at arranging opportunities – you just have be open and willing to see and accept them. So go for it – your hard work and perseverance will pay off. As for your mother, sure – she will always be concerned about you, she’s a mom. But, she also knows that are you going to be fine in the end. Spirits don’t know the future (at least from what I’ve read) but they do have a wider perspective, and know that hardships in life are valuable lessons. I’m sure she has faith that you and your family and going to get through this, especially by sticking together.

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    1. Terminal lucidity is actually not that rare, but it is unexplainable by science and you were very lucky to have experienced it with your mom. Some think of it as a miracle. Instead of going into it here, I think its time I write a whole post on Terminal Lucidity. Do I have your permission to share in the post a little bit about your experience with your mother? In the post, I will explain everything I’ve researched about Terminal Lucidity and then maybe it will help you draw some conclusions about what happened with your mother.

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  49. A good friend of mine thats been a nurse for 20 years and has seen some cases of it said she had been her ex mother in laws caregiver and says that she had a day like my mom had and said she didnt have dementia or alzheimers, she had cancer

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  50. I so wish i could talk to you directly, i have a lot i need to know, im stuck in between what to believe, all i do is think about my mom and worry about her, i cant help it

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