After Death Communications: How to Encourage Signs From Loved Ones In Spirit

 “An After-Death Experience (ADC) is a spiritual experience, which occurs when you are contacted directly and spontaneously by a deceased family member or friend, without the use of psychics, mediums, rituals, or devices of any kind.” -from after-death.com

About a month ago, I went to see James Van Praagh demonstrate his mediumship at a large-audience show.  During the show, he took questions from audience members.  One question was from a woman who was doing cartwheels in the back to get his attention:

“Why hasn’t my grandmother contacted me?  She passed away over 15 years ago!”

James calmly went through some suggestions, but this women’s impatience cut him off at the pass. “I’ve already done all that. I’ve looked for signs, prayed, asked, pleaded.. I’ve even gone to mediums, and nothing.. she won’t speak to me!”

Exasperated, James simply told the energetic woman that she should take his meditation classes to learn how to calm her own energy first. The poor woman was left unsatisfied by his answer and I was left wondering.

The experience got me thinking about ADCs and the people I know who believe they’ve been convincingly contacted by loved ones on the other side.  I definitely was, my mother was as well, my step-father, my best friend..  So, if I know a lot of people who have had an after death communication, are they really common?  What happens if, like the woman at the show, we don’t get a communication? How can we improve our odds?

This is a huge subject and if you have been following me for a while, you know already that nothing I do is short and sweet.  This will necessarily be a long post, so here’s the topics I’m going to delve into just in case you want to skip ahead to a particular section:

  1. The 12 Types of After-Death Communications
  2. After-Death Communication Statistics
  3. The Skeptical Argument
  4. Why Don’t Some Spirits Communicate With Us?
  5. Reasons Why Some Spirit Communications Aren’t Received
  6. An Example of Spirit Communication Techniques from the Spirit’s Point of View
  7. Why Don’t Spirits Just Levitate a Pen and Write Us A Note?
  8. How to Open Yourself Up to Spirit Communication in Any Stage of Grief
  9. Induced After Death Communication (IADC) Therapy
  10. Should I Contact a Medium?
  11. Examples of Real Spirit Communications Received by Me, My Family and Friends
  12. Tell Us About Your After-Death Communications in the Comments!

The 12 Types of After Death Communications

The term ‘After Death Communication’ that we use to describe types of non-assisted communication from the deceased was coined by Bill and Judy Guggenheim in preparation for their book, Hello from Heaven: A New Field of Research – After Death Communication Confirms that Life and Love are Eternal.  Although they weren’t the first researchers in this field, their book brought ADCs into the public consciousness much the same way Raymond Moody’s book “Life after Life” did for Near-Death Experiences.  In it, they define twelve ways their survey participants were contacted by their dearly departed:

  1. Kinesthetic – Sensing a presence
  2. Auditory – Hearing a voice, either with your physical ears in or your head (mentally)
  3. Tactile – Feeling touched physically, like a hug, caress, kiss on the cheek
  4. Olfactory – Smelling a fragrance or odor connected to the deceased (perfume, cigar smell, etc)
  5. Visual – Seeing a full or partial appearance of the deceased; either an outline, transparent, just a part of the body, or full flesh-and-blood
  6. Visionary – A mental vision of the deceased with complete clarity while awake (either with eyes open or shut)
  7. Hypnogogic – Appearance of the deceased while falling asleep or just waking up (either physically, in the room, or mentally)
  8. Somnolent – An appearance of the deceased in a ultra-vivid and logical dream; ordered and atypical for most dreams.
  9. Out-of-Body – Meeting a deceased person while having an out-of-body experience.
  10. Technological – Receiving a phone call from the deceased, text-message, email or through a device, such as hearing their voice through radio static.
  11. Material – Physical phenomena that occurs such as lights turning on and off, items moving, music playing without being turned on.  Usually in a way that reminds you of the deceased.
  12. Symbolic – Seeing a symbol that reminds you of the deceased; a license plate, hearing a song, seeing their name or an animal (most commonly butterflies) that reminds you of them.

After Death Communication Statistics

After Death Communications are far more common than near-death experiences in the general population, even though the latter are arguably more well-known.  A study done by Jenny Streit-Horn, a doctoral student under Dr. Jan Holder, revealed that 30-35% of people can expect to have an after-death communication in their lifetimes.  Within the first year of bereavement, a person is 75% likely to experience an ADC, although a first ADCs can happen as long as several decades after the death occurred.

Grief and type of relationship also seem to influence the prevalence of ADCs.  People who lost spouses tended to have a greater number of ADCs than parental, sibling or friendship relationships.  People who are actively in the grieving process also reported more ADCs than people who described themselves as past the grieving process, though both groups reported high numbers of ADCs regardless.  Anecdotally, people in the first stages of grief or pathological grief tend not to have ADCs until their grief has lessened somewhat.  Aside from Crisis Apparitions (paranormal visions or visitations that notify loved ones of a person’s death), it would seem that intense emotions can ‘wall off’ a person from receiving paranormal visitations.

From the study, the following statements about After-Death Communications were found to be true:

  • Bereaved people more than non-bereaved have ADCs; about ¾ of people within one year of the death of a loved one.
  • Widows and widowers especially.
  • Women more than men
  • People of all ages, with older people perhaps slightly more likely, probably because the older a person is, the more likely the person has experienced others’ deaths.
  • People of all nationalities, with those from ADC-affirming cultures reporting more.
  • People of all ethnicities, with some perhaps slightly more than others – from highest to lowest among Americans: African-American, Mexican-American, Caucasian-American, and Japanese-American.
  • People of all education levels.
  • People of all incomes, with people with relatively lower incomes perhaps slightly more likely.
  • People of all religious affiliations and practices.
  • People no matter what their physical condition.
  • People no matter what their mental condition.
  • The great majority of ADC researchers have noted that ADCrs in their studies were mentally healthy. There is no evidence that ADC alone indicates psychological disorder or mental illness.

ADCs are under-reported.  In the study, 54% of the participants had never told another person prior to the survey.  Many participants admitted to fear of ridicule as the reason for their reluctance to share their experience.  It is probable that an even higher percentage of people likely have an ADC than is currently reported, possibly making this one of the most commonly experienced spiritual occurrence that is studied by paranormal and afterlife researchers.

The Skeptical Argument

When it comes to any type of paranormal activity involving personal experiences, skeptics can only usually point to one of four explanations.

  1. Deception – skeptics might suggest that a grieving person who has received a lot of attention right after a death might invent such stories to gain back that attention once everyone returns to their lives and the grieving become very lonely.  In this case, since the majority of people surveyed didn’t tell another person about their experience, deception might be difficult to use as an explanation for most ADCs, though in rare cases, it’s always possible.
  2. Hallucination – grief is an extreme psychological state.  Some scientists and psychologists believe that our brains will invent such hallucinations in response to grief, although there have been no scientific studies on this topic.  ADCs are also prevalent in people who aren’t actively grieving.
  3. Paradolia or Misidentification – Humans are great at pattern recognition.  Just like the ability to look at a cloud and see an elephant, humans can look at an event and draw personal conclusions from it that may not really fit or simply be coincidental.  In truth, ADCs are subjective. What constitutes a sign for you, may be considered a coincidence to another person.
  4. Drugs or Alcohol – Often times, a grieving person is offered a sedative in order to help them get through the first few days and the funeral.  In many cases, this is a likely to be a benzodiazepine such as Xanax or Valium. In other cases, a person may self-medicate with alcohol, opiates, marijuana and the like.  When drugs or alcohol are involved, a person’s perceptions are altered and they might be more likely to imagine or hallucinate an ADC.

Although the four reasons above might explain some ADCs, it’s hard to explain away all ADCs this way.  If 60 million Americans are likely to have an ADC in their lifetime, is it possible that all of them will be lying, spontaneously hallucinating or on drugs?  How can we then explain ADCs that occur well after the initial grief has dissipated?

Normal, well-adjusted healthy individuals are not prone to suddenly hallucinate, nor would most of these people have the incentive to lie, especially to an anonymous survey.  Although its possible that some people may misidentify or use drugs, the sheer number of ADCs reported makes the probability that all ADCs are false very low overall.

Note: The next section contains information I’ve gained from years of afterlife research.  These are conclusions that I have drawn – certainly, nothing about the spirit world is proven.  To do your own research, visit my Recommended Reading and Resources for Afterlife Research pages.

Why Don’t Some Spirits Communicate with Us?

Barring issues on our end (which I will get to in the next section), there are a variety of reasons why some spirits don’t or can’t communicate with us right away.

  1. Your loved one may need time to adjust. Some spirits don’t know they have died, or will need help understanding what has happened to them.  Others were so ill when they died, they need a period of convalescence in the spirit realm.  Spirits who pass away with severe psychological issues may be relegated to planes where communication isn’t possible yet.
  2. Spirits may realize that communication right now isn’t in your best interest.  Grief can be a valuable lesson in its own right.
  3. Some spirits will need to work with their teachers and guides who can assist them with communication.
  4. Time in the spirit world doesn’t exist, and outside of a human body we lose much of the anxiety we had on earth.  Our loved ones in spirit love us dearly, but know that you will be with them in what may seem like only a matter of days to them, even though it is a lifetime for us.

The scenarios above are rare. Most spirits do have a desire to communicate with the living and will try endlessly to let you know that they are okay.  Even as they attempt to communicate with you, there are things on our end that may prevent their message from getting across.

Reasons Why Some Spirit Communications Aren’t Received

  1. We might see or experience something meaningful, such as a dream or a symbol but we pass it off as a coincidence or ignore it.
  2. We are too deeply bereaved.  With terrible sadness and depression comes a wall of emotion that even the best and strongest of spirits cannot penetrate.  When our grief begins to lesson, the communication will begin to get through.
  3. The first communications happen to a relative or friend instead of you.  The first reaction is, “why did my loved one appear to X and not to me, the one who was closest to him/her?”  A loved one in spirit definitely wants you to know that he or she is still around, and so they appear to whomever is most receptive to get the message to you.
  4. We make demands or expect too much: we might say “If you are here, turn off that light” or “Make this song play in the car if you are listening”.  Spirits can do many things, but they don’t suddenly gain superpowers when they die.  They need to learn how to manipulate energy, and each spirit has a way they can communicate best – likely not the way you are demanding them to perform.  Allow the spirit to choose the communication and have faith that the message will be meaningful to you.
  5. We have unresolved anger or resentment toward the spirit.  Negative emotions are another type of wall, once that must be resolved before communications can be clearly felt.  Resolve your issues with the spirit in question. Whatever it was, remember that they were only human. If you speak out-loud, they will generally hear you so talking out your feelings can help.  Out of the body, spirits know immediately all the ways they have hurt others and always desire forgiveness.  Once you are in a space of love and forgiveness, you will get the message you are intended to receive.

Why Don’t Spirits Just Levitate a Pen and Write Us a Note?

I consider myself a logical person, and when initially trying to understand the phenomena of ADCs, I found myself really frustrated by how vague they can be at times.  Without a doubt, there are plenty of communications where a person sees their loved one standing in front of them looking quite alive.  In other cases, they get a phone call from the deceased. These are pretty straight-forward cases where there is little room to doubt that a communication occurred.  But most of us will have symbolic ADCs; we will hear a song on the radio that is meaningful, have a butterfly land on our arm, or smell a perfume.  While these are beautiful experiences, I wondered – why all the vague and dramatic symbolism?  Why can’t a spirit just leave us a note?  If levitating a pen is difficult, how about knocking on the wall and answering yes and no questions, or rearranging pennies to spell out their name, or smudging a mirror with “I’m Still Here!” while I’m in the shower?

Many years went by and I really studied spirit literature.  I learned that mastering energy in our dimension is extremely difficult and it requires the skill of an advanced spirit.  Unless our loved one is that advanced, it’s unlikely they have the skill or experience to do those kinds of definitive physical things that we expect.  Spirits of all stripes can manipulate energy.  Our physicists have already discovered that all of matter is energy, just denser than other kinds.  Thoughts and emotions are energy too, and because this type of energy is far less dense, spirits have an easier time manipulating it as a rule.

Consider how difficult it really is to make these symbolic ADCs happen:

In order for you to hear a meaningful song on the radio, they either have influence your thoughts to be in the right place at the right time and turn on the radio, or they have to influence the thoughts of the radio DJ to play that song at the exact time and place that you are listening.  It’s not as easy as it looks! Yet, it’s far easier than levitating a pen against Earth physics.

To have a butterfly land on your arm, a spirit has to influence the intention of that butterfly, and make sure you are in an area where a butterfly will be able to land on you.  That means cutting through all of the brain chatter in our heads to convince us to take a walk outside at the exact right time that a butterfly happens to be flying by, then convincing the butterfly to ignore its instincts and land on a human!

Smelling a perfume requires a spirit to use energy to match the signature of a perfume that you might recognize, or influence a person who is wearing that exact perfume to cross your path.  Again, not easy.

But, you might say, “What about hauntings?  Those spirits can slam doors and make lights go on and off. Are they just more experienced?”  Well, in a way, yes.  Those spirits are most likely tied to the earth for one reason or another.  Some people call these ‘Earthbound’ spirits.  They aren’t bound to the earth, really, they have just chosen not to cross dimensions.  When a spirit spends years, decades and centuries walking as a ghost on Earth, they do learn a trick or two – things that the recently deceased who do cross over have yet to learn.  Then again, earthbound spirits are usually extremely emotional and psychologically a little muddled.  These spirits have no problem scaring people to get attention.  Your loved one would never want to scare you with loud bangs and such, even if they could.

Case in point: I read an ADC once where a teenage girl woke up to see the full figure of her deceased father standing over her.  His body looked like it was made up of sparks of electricity.  Suffice it to say, she was startled by the wild unexpected vision and screamed.  Later, her father got a message through her to say, “I worked so hard on that energy body! I can’t believe it scared you!” Lesson learned.  Although the father wanted to do something spectacular to show his daughter he was still alive in the spirit world, it didn’t have the intended effect.  Most of the time, spirits know what we can handle and what we can’t.  They generally prefer not to scare us out of our wits!

It’s also important to understand how our psychology changes when we lose our bodies.  Spirits are emotionally rather than logically oriented so while they can reason just as well as we can, they prefer to have an energetic and emotional impact on you, rather than just appeasing your logical mind with ‘tricks’.

In the next section, I am going to use some examples from Dr. Newton’s work with Life Between Life regression to show from the spirit’s point of view how they attempt to reach us after their passing (and how difficult it can be sometimes!)

An Example of ADC Techniques from the Spirit’s Point of View
From Destiny of Souls, by Dr. Michael Newton

Dr. Michael Newton pioneered techniques for life-between-life regression, and in a hypnotic trance, his subjects can go to past lives and then to the activities they do as spirits in between lives.  Dr. Newton’s techniques are used by certified therapists all over the world trained in his techniques through The Newton Institute.  For over 40 years, his clients from all walks of life and from different parts of the US have described a very similar afterlife, convincing Dr. Newton and his colleges that not only is the afterlife real, but it is a logical and organized dimension not dissimilar from our own.  I highly recommend his books, Journey of Souls, Destiny of Souls, and Memories of the Afterlife.

In Destiny of Souls, Dr. Newton devotes a whole chapter to examples where spirits use children to communicate, pets, strangers, visions, objects and all sorts of other ways to get through to us.  Spirits use a variety of techniques that differ based on the spirit’s abilities and our ability to receive communication best. By learning how spirits communicate to us from their own perspective, it can help us be more receptive to receive and believe those communications. Here I’ve picked out two examples from that chapter to illustrate the process behind that communication.

Sylvia’s Dream

In this example, Dr. Newton has regressed his patient to recall a previous life where he/she as ‘Sylvia’ has just passed away. Sylvia, in spirit,  is trying to comfort her mother who is grieving.

S:=Sitter; Dr. N:=Dr. Newton

S: “I begin with more conventional thought communication while she is awake but I am getting nowhere.  She is so sad.  My mother’s grief at not being at my bedside is overpowering her.”

Dr. N: “What methods have you tried so far?”

S: “I project my thoughts with an orange-yellow light, like the flame of a candle, and place my light around her head, sending loving thoughts.  I’m not effective.  She doesn’t realize I am with her.  I am going for a dream.”

Dr. N: “All right, Sylvia, take me though this slowly.  Please start by telling me if you pick out one of your mother’s dreams or if you can create one of your own.”

S: “I don’t create dreams well yet.  It is much easier for me to take one of hers so I can enter the dream to effect a more natural contact and then participate. I want her to know it is clearly me in the dream.”

[…]

S: “The first couple dreams are unsuitable…Finally, she has a dream where she is walking alone in the fields around my house.  You should know she has no grief in this dream.  I am not dead yet.”

S: “…I enter the dream from the other end of the field by matching my energy patterns to my mother’s thoughts.  I project an image of myself as I was the last time she saw me.  I come slowly across the field to let her get used to my presence.  I wave and smile and then come to her.  We hug each other and now I send wave of rejuvenating energy into her sleeping body.”

Dr. N: “And what will this do for your mother?”

S: “This picture is raised to a higher level of consciousness for my mother.  I want to insure the dream will stay with her after she wakes up.”

[…]

S: “The influence of a vivid dream like this is very great.  When my mother wakes up, her mind has a vivid impression of this landscape with me and suspects I am with her.  In the time memory is so real she is sure of it.”

[…]

S: “…I [will] continue to send waves of energy into her over the next few days until she begins to accept my passing.  I want her to believe I am still part of her and always will be.”

Helen and her Husband’s Ring

In this regression, a man recalls the time after his death when he tries to comfort his grieving wife, Helen.

S:=Sitter; Dr. N:=Dr. Newton

Dr. N: “What do you do if your efforts right after death are not having the desired results anywhere on the body?”

S: “When I found that my wife, Helen, was not receiving me by a direct approach, I finally resorted to working with a household familiar.”

Dr. N: “You mean with an animal – a cat or dog?”

S: “I have used them before, but no.. not this time.  I decided to pick out some object of value to me that my wife would know was very personal.  I chose my ring.”

The ring he is referring to is a large ring with a raised turquoise stone in the center.  The man had a nervous habit of rubbing the stone and his wife often joked that he would one day wear it down completely.  Helen and her husband would often sit by the fire together and talk about their day, while her husband would continue to rub the stone on his ring out of habit.

S: “When I work with objects and people, I have to wait until the scene is very tranquil.  Three weeks after my death, Helen lit a fire and was looking into it with tears in her eyes.  I began by wrapping my energy within the fire itself, using the fire as a conduit of warmth and elasticity.

Dr. N: “Excuse my interruption, but what does ‘elasticity’ mean?”

S: “It took me centuries to learn this. Elastic energy is fluid.  To make my soul energy fluid requires intense concentration and practice because it must be thin and fleecy.  The fire serves as a catalyst in this maneuver.”

Dr. N: “Which is just the opposite from a strong, narrow beam of energy?”

S: “Exactly.  I can be very effective by rapidly shifting my energy from a fluid to a solid state and back again.  The shifting is subtle but it awakens the human mind.”

S: “Helen was connecting with the fire and thus with me.  For a moment the grief was less oppressive, and I moved straight into the top of her head.  She felt my presence… slightly. It was not enough.  Then I began shifting my energy as I told you, from hard to soft in fork fashion.

Dr. N: “What do you do when you ‘fork’ energy?”

S: “I split it.  While keeping a soft fluid energy on Helen’s head on maintain contact, I fork a hard beam at the box which holds my ring in a table drawer.  My intent is to open up a smooth pathway from her mind to the ring.  This is why I am using a hard steady beam, to direct her to the ring.”

S: “With my guidance, she slowly gets up without knowing why.  She moves, as if sleepwalking, to the table and hesitates.  Then she opens the drawer.  Since my ring is in the box I continue to shift back and forth from her mind to the lid of the box.  Helen opens it and takes out my ring, holding it in her left hand. […] Then I know I have her!”

Dr. N: “Because..?”

S: Because the ring still retains some of my energy.  Don’t you see?  She is feeling my energy on both ends of the fork.  This is a two-directional signal.  Very effective.

Dr. N: “Oh, I do see – then what do you do with Helen?”

S: “Now, I move into overdrive with a full-power bridge between myself standing on her right side and the ring on the left.  She turns in my direction and smiles.  Helen then kisses my ring and says, “Thanks, darling.  I know you are with me now.  I’ll try and be more brave.”

How to Enhance your Chances of Receiving an ADC at any Stage in the Grief Process:

The most important advice I can give someone who is waiting for a sign is this: talk to your loved one. Talk to them out-loud, as if they are in the room with you.  It may feel strange at first, but spirits tell us through mediums that they can hear you loud and clear when you speak to them.  Most importantly, this is the time when you can begin to resolve any outstanding guilt or anger that you may have over their death.  If you have already resolved your feelings, simply tell them how much you love them and miss them in your life.  Ask for a sign or communication, but give them the time and space to do it on their own terms.

Be alert to any of the 12 types of communications.  A communication may happen at any time.  Remember that not all ADCs are dramatic or obvious.  Believe it or not, most spirit communications don’t get received because we are just too stubborn, obtuse, distracted or logical to accept and be open to them.

Dreams are a major way that spirits will use to communicate.  In order to enhance your dream recall, tell yourself before bed that you will remember your dreams.  It sounds silly, but it works.  Avoid alcohol before bed, and don’t sleep with the TV or music on.  Clear your mind before bed and let any images form freely – this might be the time that you receive a hypnogogic vision or dream visitation.

Ask your friends and family if they have had any experiences that have reminded them of your loved one.  In the midst of heavy grief, it is quite common for a spirit to first contact a more distant relative or friend in order to get a message to you.  If that person is hesitant to upset you, that message may never be passed on.  Let others know that you welcome any experiences that they may have, may it be dreams, symbols or other signs.

Read about the experiences of others who have had an ADC at www.adcrf.org.  This may open your eyes to the many ways your loved one can communicate, as well as lifting your spirits through the inspirational and beautiful experiences of others.

Like the exasperated woman at the show, there might be a case where despite everything you do, communication just isn’t happening.  There are a lot of variables when it comes to inter-dimensional communication and sometimes we just have to trust that there is a good reason.  Maybe your loved one is involved in their own healing on the other side, or perhaps they are very inexperienced spirits who just can’t manage cross-dimensional communication.  Trust that you are loved and that your loved one is always connected to you, even if you don’t get proof of that.  On the other hand, be patient.  My mother didn’t get her first ADC from her mother for 16 years!  When it finally did happen, it was powerful, timely and life-changing for her.

To learn more about ADCs and spirit communication, I would encourage you to read Hello from Heaven by Bill and Judy Guggenheim, My Life After Life: A Posthumous Memoir by Galen and Dr. Kenneth Stoller,  and Destiny of Souls by Dr. Michael Newton.  Please also visit the After-Death Communication Research Foundation at www.adcrf.org and after-death.com.

Induced After Death Communication (IADC) Therapy

If your grief is overwhelming and interfering with your life, or you have experienced a traumatic loss, you might consider a new type of clinical therapy called Induced After Death Communication.  Dr. Allan L. Botkin, the founder of the procedure, discovered that patients with severe psychological grief were greatly relieved of their pain through the application of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, which uses eye movements to help our brain process grief and sadness far faster than traditional therapies.  With many patients, an extra step discovered by Dr. Botkin allowed the patient to experience an actual visionary after-death communication with the spirit whose loss they were grieving.  To find out more, please see my in-depth post on the subject: Grief Counseling with a Spiritual Twist: Induced After Death Communication (IADC) Therapy

Should I Contact a Medium?

If you haven’t gotten an after death communication and it has been six months since the date your loved one has passed, you may consider arranging for the services of a medium.  Why wait six months?  Well, most mediums will require a waiting period for best results.  Its easier to connect after both you and the spirit have had time to adjust and heavy grief can make it very difficult to make a connection.

Finding a reputable medium is difficult.  Avoid anyone you’ve seen on TV – sadly, most of them are simply entertainers.  To find a good, honest and truly gifted medium, I only recommend the services of two organizations – both are non-profit, and both thoroughly test and certify their mediums.

The Forever Family Foundation – www.foreverfamilyfoundation.org

The Windbridge Institute – www.windbridge.org

Examples of Real Spirit Communications Received by Me, My Family and Friends

ADC from a man who was ‘like a Grandfather’: A man who was like a grandfather to me appeared in a dream to say goodbye after he died.  He was “brought-in” to my dream through my great-grandfather who appeared first, smiled, then morphed into this gentleman.  No words were spoken, but there was a powerful feeling of gratitude and love as he looked into my eyes.  He had Parkinson’s before he died and so didn’t communicate well or easily in life, but in the dream I felt his deep appreciation that I played the piano for him and spoke to him kindly during his visits.

ADC from my Great-Grandfather: During the lowest, most difficult time in my life, I had a powerful and realistic dream of my great-grandfather.  He visited me in the dream to communicate that my life was headed in the wrong direction.  I agreed, but I was unsure what to do.  I asked him for his advice.  He just smiled and “said” (there were not words, exactly) that I already knew exactly what to do.  Look into my heart and follow my intuition.  When I awoke, I did indeed know exactly what to do.  I followed my own advice and changed the course of my life by making the difficult decision that I had previously been ignoring.

Other ADCs I’ve had:

ADC From my Grandmother: When my friend’s grandmother passed away I was attending her funeral thinking of my own grandmother.  Just then, the classical music being played in the funeral home was my grandmother’s signature piece that she played on the piano,  “Rhapsody in Blue.”  When I went outside a few minutes later, I was speaking to another friend’s mother when I realized she was wearing my grandmother’s perfume, “White Shoulders”.  I remarked about it, and my friend’s mother said that although she never typically wore that perfume, she decided to on that day on a whim.

ADC from my Grandfather (Pop-Pop): My grandfather, who I always called “Pop-Pop” passed away a little over two years ago.  About 6 months after he passed, I was thinking of him while driving home on the highway.  I mused that it would be nice if I could have a sign from him.  Just then, a car merged onto the highway right in front of me with the license plate that said “POP-POP”. PopPopStunned, I managed to get a picture of it! The picture is not the best – it was a rainy night, I was driving and shaky from excitement, but you can clearly see that the car right in front of me says, ‘POP-POP’. That was proof positive in my mind!

[Update June 2nd, 2016]

I just received four incredible new ADCs from my grandfather!  Because of his love of Disneyworld and the trips we’ve taken together in my childhood, I asked my grandfather to send me something in reference to his favorite ride at the park: “It’s a Small World After All” (you know, the one with the dancing dolls?).  I knew it was a tall order, but I was prepared to wait.  Well, it’s been three years but holy cow did he come through in a big way!  First, as the ice cream truck went by our house the song abruptly changed to ‘It’s a Small World After All”.  The next day, we received some random junk mail – a catalog that had the words ‘Its a small world after all” emblazoned on the front (I cut it out, it’s now on the fridge!).  Lastly, yesterday when I logged onto cnn.com to check the news, there was an entire article on the history of the ride!  When I clicked on the video, the familiar strains of the song came bursting through my speakers and I knew it wasn’t coincedence.. my grandfather isn’t subtle.  Finally, I received a call from my mother at work.  The church next door was playing ‘Its a small world after all’ on the church bells.  The church bells!? Four random references to the very song I asked about in one week  and not a common song by any means – Amazing!!

My Mother’s ADC from her Mother, my Grandmother: My mother sadly lost her mother to cancer two weeks after I was born (you can read my post about my pre-birth visitation to my grandmother here).  My mother’s life took a difficult turn in the years following her mother’s death and yet she didn’t get any communication from her.  It wasn’t until I was 16 years old – 16 years after my grandmother’s death when my mother got a very powerful communication, and it happened at the lowest point of my mother’s life, when she was directionless, miserable and desperate. She sat in the car, crying and begging her mother for some kind of sign.

Not long after that, she had a crystal clear and realistic dream of her mother in that same car, sitting in the back seat.  My mother no longer remembers the content of what was said, but the image and symbolism was important.  My mother was driving, in charge of her life, but her mother was in the backseat reassuring her and giving her directions.  It was meant to say that even though my mother is in charge of her own destiny, that her mother is still very much a part of her life, guiding her ‘from the back seat’.

My Step-Father’s ADC from his Father: My step-father lost his father to a sudden heart-attack over 20 years ago.  He was describing his father to someone once and said that his father was one of those un-emotional types of men who never told his kids ‘I love you’.  Although my step-father knew he was loved, he recalls that he never heard those words actually said to him.  Not long after that conversation, my step-father had a ultra-real dream when his father appeared to him and said, “Son, I LOVE YOU!”.  I guess he had heard that conversation and wanted to make it clear that even if those words hadn’t been spoken in life, they were true nonetheless.

My Grandmother’s ADC from her husband, my Grandfather: A week or two after my grandfather died, my Grandmother who I call ‘Nanny’ received a message from my Grandfather, her husband, that was undeniable. My grandparents loved Florida – they had a condo on the gulf coast, and used to take my family to Disney World, which are some of my favorite memories of my childhood.  On the mantle in the room where my Grandfather died, was a music box of a carousel from Disney World with all of the Disney Characters on it.  The music box hadn’t been touched in years, but after my Grandfather died, and on two separate occasions the music box started playing “It’s a small world” when my Grandmother walked into the room.

My Friend’s ADC from her Father: My best friend tragically lost her father when she was just turning 25.  It was devastating for all of us. Though he had been sick for a long time, he always seemed to pull through. My friend knew on the morning that he passed away, she had some sort of premonition.  As we were getting coffee, she put her hand on my arm and stopped me.  Looking at me intensely, she vowed that if her father died she would go to Ireland to visit her father’s relatives. Around 7 hours later, her father passed away in the hospital.  That weekend, we drove to a local park together as she was working through her intense grief.  As we were driving up, we could hear the strains of Irish bagpipe music.  When we pulled up, we were stunned to see a man in full Irish regalia playing the bag pipe, something that is traditionally done at Irish funerals.  There was no particular reason for this man to be in the park that day – there was no party or funeral.  He was standing completely alone, in the park, in his Irish kilt playing bagpipe music.  We both knew this was a sign from her father.  Years later, she did keep her promise and went to Ireland.

Second ADC: My friend felt her father’s hand on her shoulder as she was driving to the hospital after he had passed.

[Update August 26, 2016]

My Mother’s ADC from a family friend: This is a brand new ADC that occurred a few weeks ago.  Last autumn, a friend of the family named Romit sadly passed away from a quick form of aggressive cancer.  My mother and step-father visited him the night before he passed away.  My mother reminisced about the fabulous pool parties that they had been invited too.  Romit pulled out all of the stops for these parties, with the best food and entertainment, and of course, the huge in-ground pool that my mother, a swimmer, enjoyed tremendously.  When she saw Romit before his passing, she expressed her appreciation and gratitude for the pool parties.  A few weeks back, she thought of Romit again and talked out loud to him about the regret she felt that she would never attend another of his pool parties.  She had said that ‘he promised her another pool party’, likely a reference to what they spoke about the night before his passing.

The very next day, my step-father walked into the kitchen to tell my mother that they had been invited to a pool party.  My step-father knew nothing of the conversation my mother had had with Romit’s spirit the day before or her joking admonition that she was ‘promised’ a pool party and wouldn’t get it.  The pool party invite was with a distant friend or relative, and who invited them was inconsequential.  The whole point was the fact that Romit heard my mother, and the invite to a pool party came the next day.  It was Romit’s way of saying, “I can’t give you another pool party, but I will make sure you get an invitation to a different one!”

My Grandmother’s ADC from her husband: My stepfather’s mother is 91 years old.  Her husband passed away more than 20 years ago.  One night she had a very realistic ‘dream’ that she was walking through a hospital.  Her husband appeared and said, “I miss you.  I want you to be with me.”  She believes that this was a legitimate communication from her husband.

What do you think?

These are the after-death communications that were experienced by just a small circle of my friends and family, and you can see that there were quite a lot of them.  You can perhaps suggest that we were delusional, hallucinating or you can even accuse me of lying, but that’s where a little bit of faith and intuition comes into play.  When communications happen, you have a choice: throw it away as a coincidence, to choose to see it as a loving message of a loved one in spirit who wants you to know that they were more than just their body – the essence of who they are lives on. Their personality, sense of humor and most importantly their emotional connection with their loved ones survive.

So, have you experienced an after-death communication?  Do you know someone else who has?  Tell us about it in the comments!

364 thoughts on “After Death Communications: How to Encourage Signs From Loved Ones In Spirit”

  1. I know now why mom went to Jessica, Jessica told me she cried herself to sleep that night, Jessica said for her she knows mom isnt suffering anymore, so it wasnt grief as much for her, Jessica felt so bad that she didnt spend more time with mom before she passed, plus moms passing was unexpected for Jessica and myself , i believe mom was comforting Jessica to let her know she understands why she didnt get to spend more time with mom before she passed, Jessica said she was just living life, shes married with 2 kids, plus Jessica said she remembered when my oldest brother mike told Jessica several years ago that his grandson justin whom he was very close to wasnt spending any time with him anymore because he had gotten a girlfriend and didnt have time for him anymore, Jessica said it broke her heart hearing mike say that and didnt want mom thinking the same about her

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  2. I can relate to all the signs especially with the two stories from Dr. Newton above. Thanks for the info. I was searching for ADC stories to understand more about my experiences with my loved one who just past away last year. First time I heard about elasticity energy and I am totally relate to that.

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  3. Reading everything presented on your website makes me feel so much better and finally helps me understand my own experiences. Thank you so much Jenn.

    My first two ADC experiences, I had written off as a part of my grieving process, but I was so grateful for them because of the peace I felt following each experience. They were both through dreams, early in the grieving process where I was able to talk to my loved one about any unresolved issues or feelings that were left unsaid before their passing. Although the dreams felt so real and I genuinely felt the presence of my loved one, I was never completely sure if it was really them or my minds way of coping with their deaths. Being a psychology major, I am always trying to find a way to explain or rationalize things that I don’t completely understand.

    It wasn’t until my third ADC that started believing that I had been communicating with the loved one that I lost, due to the unique circumstances involved. When I was 17 I experienced my first true love. Our relationship was very challenging due to his substance abuse issues, but we had an instant connection and genuine love and respect for each other. We weren’t together for too long because of the issues related to his drug use, but we stayed in close contact for years after our relationship. I realized I couldn’t do anything to change his behaviors, only he could make those decisions, but I was always there to provide love and support any way I could. He was one of my closest friends for years. When he moved out of state, he would call and check in every few months and we would catch each other up on our lives.

    One night I had a very vivid dream that I was sitting on a couch with him and his mother. He told us that he wanted to tell us something and he didn’t want us to hear it from anyone else but him. He went on to tell us that he had passed away and he wanted us to know how much he loved us and always will. He apologized to me for all of the pain and stress that he had put me through in the past. He also wanted me to know that even though his past behaviors may have made me think that he didn’t care about me, it hurt him to see me in so much pain due to what he was going through because he cared about me so much. We went on to have a completely rational conversation, without tears, and said everything we wanted to say.

    When I woke up, I couldn’t stop thinking about him all day and became worried about him. I had planned on trying to call him once I got off work just to check on him and make sure he’s ok, but I was so distracted at work. I couldn’t wait so I decided to google his name, just to ease my anxiety. His last name was quite unique and he was very involved in his career, which had a relatively small community, so I thought if anything happened to him, it would pop up in my search somewhere. I was hoping I wouldn’t find anything in my search and I could stop worrying and go about my day. Unfortunately, I found a number of posts on forums relating to his career about his passing. So many people had stories that they were sharing about their friendship with him and how sad they were about losing him.

    I couldn’t believe what I was seeing. Up until this point I had believed he was alive and well, living in Las Vegas with his father. I had just talked to him a couple months prior and hadn’t heard anything about his death until he told me in a dream.

    A few months later I ran into his high school best friend and he asked me if I heard about his passing and I reluctantly told him about the strange way I found out. His friend just looked at me and said “I think it really was him,” and told me that wasn’t surprised that Jason felt like he had to tell me himself because he always cared about me so much and felt bad for everything he put me through.

    This experience convinced me that I was really communicating with my loved one then and in my past experiences, and couldn’t explain it away as part of my grieving process because this time I wasn’t even aware of his death. It’s still hard for me to think about because I haven’t talked to very many people, besides his best friend, about this experience due to the strange, nearly unbelievable circumstances. It gives me so much comfort and inner peace knowing that I haven’t really lost my loved ones that have passed. Reading about everyone’s experiences makes me feel so much better about my own. I can’t thank you enough.

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    1. Dear Gina,

      Thank you for sharing your ADCs and your story, Gina. I agree – your dream visitations are definitely communications from your loved ones who love you and will continue to care about your well-being for the rest of your life. Your story about your friend is really touching. Your friend clearly loved you, and wanted to make sure you heard the news from him, which not only validated his visitation but helped to (hopefully?) soften the shock when you learned of his passing. You were obviously really important in his life, and you will continue to be as his life continues in a different place and form. Your remarkable ADCs will surely be a comfort to others who read your story, and maybe help more people to realize that the dreams or other communications they are receiving aren’t simply tricks of the grieving mind, but real contact. We will never erase the grief over the passing of a loved one, but knowing that they haven’t disappeared forever can really help in that process, not to mention inspire us to realize that death is not the end for us either. There are many great books on ADCs, but ‘Hello from Heaven” is the classic if you are interested in reading about the stories of others; maybe it can further validate your experiences. Thank you again for sharing – please do let us know if you have any more ADCs.
      Warm regards,
      Jenn

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  4. I know this is an older post but have come across it after googling ‘why hasn’t my daughter contacted me after her death.’ I’ve read it and all the comments and i think its left me even more bewildered. I don’t know where to go or what to do anymore. Every day is a struggle for me. My daughter was found dead in her home last christmas. Only 33 she had struggle for a long time with addictions and depression and physical ailments. She tried so hard to get better and was treated so horribly by society. I have so much guilt that i couldn’t and didn’t help more. That i often got frustrated. I couldn’t even see her after as she had been there for four days when i got the police to force the door. I can’t cope with it. I can’ bear it anymore. We were both so interested in the paranormal. Especially my daughter. Yet its been nearly a year and not a sign or sense of her. I did pay to speak to an online medium i had heard of and got responses but reading them they were so vague that it didn’t leave me with certainty it was her. I know my daughter and how strong she was. I know if she could she would have contacted me. She wouldn’t leave me like this with no hope. I’ve not even had a single dream about her. Her friend has. She has them quite often but I don’t. All the dreams she has of my daughter are of when they were younger and hanging around together. One was of my daugher with cash in her hand and she just threw it in the air. I beg her every day to let me know she goes on so that i know one day we will be together again. I laughed when i read what you wrote about people demanding lights to be switched on and off. I’ve done that daily. Begged for a white feather. I feel so much guilt and i can’t bear being without her and yet when she was here all i did was nag and get frustrated with her. I miss her. I feel no further forward and no better after a year has passed. I still cry multiple times a day every day and its as fresh to me now as it was then. I don’t know what to believe any more.

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    1. I can’t imagine what you’re feeling, but my mom died two years and 75 days ago today. I keep count. I don’t mean to or want to, but there it is. I had no contact or inkling for over a year and a half, and even now, have only just started dreaming of her. But however slowly it’s coming, it is coming. Grief is a wrecking ball that destroys everything good around it and seems to have caused a lot of psychic static that didn’t allow me to think clearly, never mind open myself up to letting her in. Now little things remind me of her or happen to make me feel that she isn’t so very far away. Telling you to have patience would be a stupid and cruel suggestion. So instead, just breathe. Frankly, That’s hard enough, right now. For now, it is the first thing that you think of when you wake up and open your eyes. Some day, it will be the second thing that you think of. You said that you didn’t know what to believe in anymore. You both loved each other, so simply believe in that. I refuse to believe that love diminishes after we die or changes in any meaningful way.

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  5. Two of my children have proceeded me to the other side. My daughter who was my first child was born in 1966 and when she was only 4 years old died of leukemia. More recently, in 2014 two years ago my youngest son Ryan who was 37 passed, of an accidental overdose.
    I had already read the Raymond Moody book, Life After Life by then and thank God I had. I started talking to Ryan immediately and am quite certain that he responded to me mentally, and there were other things but being deep in grief it could have been my hopeful imagination, This one though that I want to tell, is not so easily passed off.
    A couple of months ago I had a sad heavy day of missing Ryan, I went to my room and sat and talked it out with him about my feelings. As I stood to leave the room I looked over and saw a penny lying alone on my desk, I was prompted to pick it up and look at the date. It was a 1977, Ryan’s birth year. I was overjoyed, I knew he had arranged this penny to be there for me, but I don’t understand how. The next day, in the kitchen i noticed a dime lying by itself on the counter. It was a 1966, the birth year of my daughter that had passed.
    I’m sure they are telling me that they are together.
    I must tell you that before the penny and dime incident I never paid any attention to coins. I just throw them in a jar. Now when i see a coin lying by itself I hesitate, I don’t want to be constantly looking for signs, and I don’t want to be disappointed.
    Last night i was putting candles on the table for some company coming, I was feeling a bit nostalgic since it was this time of year Ryan had left, I again saw a penny….alone….on our dining room table.. i tried to just put it to the side to check it later, but i couldn’t, i located my glasses and read the date 1977!!! I have put the first penny and dime on a bracelet, now I will add this one also.

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    1. Mary, thank you for sharing your story. The penny thing is not uncommon, it’s a sign spirits like to use and it certainly gets the message across. I’m so sorry for the traffic losses you’ve suffered in losing both your daughter and your son. No doubt in my mind that Ryan is letting you know that he’s ok and a part of your life. Don’t be so quick to dismiss the mental communication, another parent of loss wrote a whole book using that method with his son and double checking with a medium. I wrote a post on it if you are interested, called “the afterlife of an American teenager”. I’m on my phone so I can’t link it, but you might find it interesting. Thanks again for your comment, I know it will give other greiving parents hope. Take care and let me know if you find any more pennies!

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  6. Hi Jenn,
    I actually came across this article while looking up some information about signs I have received. I decided to share a few ADC’s even though my story is a little different from most. Mine involve a spiritual connection I have with a deceased celebrity of sorts who passed a few years ago and of whom I was a huge fan.
    I was profoundly affected by his death and had 2 dreams that I know were visitations for me. He appeared as I remembered him looking in the entertainment world and spoke words only meant for me. In another dream, there were no words but he selected me from a large group of people, looked directly into my eyes and took my hand. I have always had vivid dreams but these meant everything to me.
    I started receiving feathers, hearing certain songs, getting goosebumps, seeing flickering lights, and even having a few pictures fall down that were directly connected to him.
    I decided to start a blog about my experiences but also about certain traits I have learned and am continually doing so throughout this process. Hopefully, others will become educated or perhaps believe as I do and feel extremely honored that he chose me. Everyone’s experiences are real to them and they will know with much validation if the signs are constant.
    Thank you Jenn for your beautiful stories and for any feedback you can provide. I did contact a medium on her site as well and she addressed celebrities being spirit guides based on what is happening on someone’s life. I will honor him the best I can and keep writing!
    Kathy

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    1. I’m sorry it has taken me so long to reply. Although you are right – your ADC dreams are a little different than most, it is not unheard of to see celebrities from earth in such communications. First, the celebrity could actually be related to you spiritually, or in your soul group and could also explain the connection you had while the celebrity was one earth. You may have even shared a previous life with that celebrity. Another explanation is that your spirit guide is taking the guise of a celebrity in order to give you information that you need for your life path. Ben Breedlove was a teenager who passed away in the last few years, but before his passing he had a near-death experience where he met a celebrity who he was a huge fan of – a rapper named Kid Cudi. Now, Kid Cudi was actually alive at that time, and without going into all of the strange theories of our higher selves, ect., it could have been one of Ben’s spirit guides who used someone that Ben felt comfortable around in order to help Ben with his future crossing. In the story of Galen Stoller’s death (see post Death of an American Teenager), his spirit guide who met him when he passed was just a larger version of himself. Additionally, there are countless stories and mediumship communications where spirits take on the image of saints, religious figures, etc. all for the comfort of the person who passes. Raymond Moody of ‘life after life’ book fame actually wrote an entire book about people who have near-death experiences and see Elvis. Apparently, this was extremely common in the 70’s and 80’s. It could mean that the spirit of Elvis greets his fans when they die, or else that a person crossing over would rather see Elvis than Jesus and therefore their guides take on the image and personality of Elvis. It seems a little devious to us on earth, but we are grateful for it when we get to the spirit world and are confused and afraid. This doesn’t mean that the person who contacted you wasn’t the celebrity in question, I’m just throwing out some of the other explanations that I have come across. In the end, it doesn’t matter because the spirit is now obviously a guide to you – sending you signs and symbols to help you on your life’s path. Take it for what it’s worth; there is a reason for everything and spirits always have our best interests at heart – even if it is to get through to you with an actual celebrity, or taking on the guise of a celebrity.
      Please keep me in the loop – I think your experience is fascinating, and I’d love to hear more about your experience. If you do decide to start a blog, let me know!
      Jenn

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      1. I have started a blog Jenn and thank you so much for your insight. I of course believe this is actually Warrior but have never thought it could be a spirit guide in disguise… Interesting to say the least. If you ever have time here is my blog info:
        http://www.mywarriorwritings.com/Wordpress.com I have several posts up but hopefully fans of his and intuitives alike will become inspired! THANK YOU so so much for your response and interest, it means everything to me!!! I will keep you posted!! I need to get my blog out there more!!

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  7. my dad visited me once..2 yrs after he passed…8 yrs ago now. I was with him when he passed and wanted to hug him but couldn’t because he was on oxygen… I was sleeping and heard his voice clearly but didn’t see him… He said “Im with Mary now..she going to take of me so stop worrying. I love you and I need you to do something for me and when I asked what dad…he said, Let me go. I felt him hug me and then I woke up crying so hard I could barely breath. I tried very hard to pull my life together but I have never really gotten over this loss. I have just learned how to deal with the pain but it still sneaks up on me some days and its so hard. I decided to try to live my life in a way he would be proud of and I know he is with me but I still wish he would come one more time to feel that hug and tell him how much I love and miss him.

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    1. That is an incredible example of a ADC. Although it is not easy to ‘let go’ as you know, it is common for spirits to want us to be happy, and lead good lives. It is hard for them to watch us grieve, especially since they feel more alive now then ever. The best way to honor your father is what you are already doing – living the best life you can. I know it makes him proud. It is possible that you will get more communications from your dad, though perhaps not in the same way. Look for signs during times of doubt, big decisions, or times of success and around the holidays. Many times spirits will makes themselves known then to remind you that they are always with us, watching and listening to how we are getting on in our lives. Loss is something that we never truly get over, we simply try to make it a smaller piece of ourselves by filling our lives with positive distractions, time and distance. When you feel sad, which you will from time to time, go ahead and talk to your Dad. He can hear you and it may make you feel better when you are missing him.
      Best wishes to you,
      Jenn

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  8. Hi,

    I’ve must of read your article at least a dozen times in the past few months. I’m struggling. I lost the most important person in my life just over 3 months ago due to an overdose. We grew up together and have loved each other for 25 years.

    I don’t understand the silence. I plead for signs. I can’t feel or sense him. I’ve only had one dream of him and that was a few days after he passed. It wasn’t good. He looked sad and wouldn’t talk or look at me while I tried to warn others that he would overdose. Since then..nothing.

    My grief has been unbearable. I feel like my heart died with him. I have never felt so much pain before. He’s the one person in my life that I was certain would reach back through this veil. Yet, nothing.

    I went to a medium for the first time in my life the other day desperate to hear from him. I was so nervous. It didn’t go well. I think it was a cold reading. She didn’t give me anything specific at all. It was all the general he’s happy and wants you to be happy. Nothing that I could relate to me. No names. Nothing. Kept asking me what I wanted to ask him which imo just gave her stuff to talk about. I want to hear what he has to say not what I want to hear.

    Do they change when they pass? Does the love they have for us stay behind? He loved me deeply when he was here. He made sure to tell me so I don’t understand why he won’t come to me. I’m falling apart. Feel like he’s turned his back which goes completely against who he was. He was always so good to me.

    Could spirit guides be keeping him from communicating like what happened to the son and father in the book you mentioned? If so, what would be the purpose of keeping someone from comforting someone they love? Sorry for all the questions. I know that they all can’t be answered but I’m just at a loss. Feeling forgotten.

    I understand it can take time so I read ADC stories to keep my faith but then get sad because so many of them have signs within hours or days from their passing. I’m afraid that death changes us and we move away from those we love.

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    1. Hi Mila, I’m so so sorry for your loss. Would it be okay if I emailed you directly about it? If you used an email address to leave a comment, I can use that one… let me know.
      Jenn

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      1. Hi Jenn,

        First, you sent me a very sweet and helpful email. I wanted to thank you for it. I have read it many times. Thank you.

        I think he came through. Two weeks ago, I was sitting crying and talking to him. Just falling apart. I asked him about two incidents that I have had on my phone several weeks ago which I felt might have been signs but always doubted. I asked him that if those were him to please do it again. I wasn’t asking for him to do something right then and there but just, in general, to please send me a sign through my phone again so that I would know those were from him. Literally a few seconds later my phone rings. Just one ring. I picked it up and on the caller ID was his name and number!

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        1. Oh my goodness!! Wow. I’m just simply amazed. He came through big time! It’s impossible to doubt that kind of sign. I’ve heard of this happening but it’s extremely rare. To get a text or phone call is definitely one of the most incredible ADCs a person can have I think, in short of a full apparition. Mila, I am so happy for you. I was thinking of you just yesterday and it sounds like your loved one wanted to really make sure you knew without a doubt that he’s here and is still a big part of your life. He must have worked super hard on that one but you were right to ask for clarification. I’m just stunned and amazed. I know it doesn’t lessen the grief of losing him but I hope it has given you a little more comfort at least. Thanks for coming back to give us this incredible update. I know it will help many other people who are hurting and still waiting for signs as well.
          All the best,
          Jenn

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  10. My son Brian passed away last April 2016 at the age of 26 and only 11 days from his 27th birthday. He took a tiny amount of the drug Fentanyl and had been drinking. He had prepared lunches for work that very day and we really have no idea why he took this drug except for ongoing troubles with an unsuitable girlfriend and substance abuse issues on both their parts and fighting . We saw that he researched it before taking it but he found nothing to warn him of the danger, still he knew enough to at least check it. His death was marked as accidental. 😦 His friends shared their ADC’s with me. It did make me wonder why Brian had not reached out to me directly with an ADC. One friend was his childhood babysitter who coincidentally visited a medium about 2 months after Brian’s passing. The babysitter explained that as soon as she entered the room the medium said whoa – there is a young man here with a very strong message. It was Brian with a bouquette of flowers for me! I was skeptical and wondered why he would choose this mode of communication. A few months later I had the visit I was hoping for. Brian presented himself to me in a dream, just upon waking, looking like he did at aged 18 with a slight curl to his hair around the ears and very blonde hair before it darkened up as in adulthood. He presented wearing I’ll fitting clothing and I realized it reminded me of the cloths my father would wear to his plumbing jobs in the 1960’s. Brian did not say anything, his face was expressionless then he turned slowly away and disappeared. Upon waking I felt lifted and realized dad was letting me know he is with Brian and advocating for him in Heaven. It never occurred to me that he would see my father – Brian was a very little boy when my father passed. There is no one I would trust more with the care of my son in Heaven than my dad.

    I have other ADC’s to share. These are related to the death of a dear friend Steve who was my first real boyfriend. We got together at age 14 until age 22 when we parted ways. He died of an illness at age 30 (he knew as a young teen that he would die young/interesting side note).

    The morning of Steve’s passing my sister called to give me the news. She worked in the hospital where he passed. Before I learned of his passing and even afterward I felt elation that lasted for weeks and I knew it was Steve. By then I was very unhappily married but with 2 delightful children Brian and Jack. Due to my daily devastation and frustration from mental abuse in my marriage, this elation was a notable and stark contrast to my emotional world at the time. I felt immediately that Steve was hanging around me and enjoying himself especially when I would be singing while driving alone in the car. One morning Steve presented to me the same way my son Brian did, in a dream just before waking. He simply presented to me standing there with a huge smile. Steve always had a great smile. All of this was amazing and helpful to me. Months later, when I was in the most despair of my life to that date and I knew I had to leave my terrible husband, I was very discouraged and lacking in confidence and warried about my little boys. Steve appeared to me again just before waking and gave me a gift of elation, joy and energy. I felt like I had returned from the best vacation of my life when I awoke. The experience has helped me for a lifetime. I did not hear from Steve again for many years until 2006, a difficult year after yet another breakup with another poor choice in a man who ran me into bankruptcy and abandoned me with the debt and said teribble things about me to others I cared about. On this day I felt like a nothing, not even like a woman, like everything bright and decent in me had been stolen. I remember saying out loud to the room, I don’t even feel like a woman any more, I just want some dignity in my life. Steve came to me on this night in a dream. We were walking down a street at night in a warm place and he put his arm around my waist as we walked together on a balmy evening in a town I was not familiar with. I felt extrordinarilly loved and very feminine by this simple gesture from my dear friend Steve. Shortly after this I took full responsibility for the shape of my life and troubled people I had allowed in. I vowed to love and care for only those who love and care for me and that was my two sons and my family. I have since rebuilt my life and am doing very well personally as I now grieve the loss of my son Brian. Because of Steve’s visits and healing effects, I had faith that Brian was still alive and would likely make contact. One more ADC from Brian. One morning recently – I am getting ready for work and listening to a jazz radio station. I am thinking of Brian and I say to the room, where are you Brian? Right then a favorite song of mine comes on the radio, Somewhere Over the Rainbow by Israel Kamakawiwoʻole. It is not a jazz song per say but the DJ loves it and slid this song onto his play list as an exception. I took it as a direct message from Brian that he is over the Rainbow where blue birds fly, where dreams come true, where troubles melt like lemon drops. 🙂

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    1. Dear Beth,
      First, my sincere condolences for losing your son so recently. Death from accidental overdose is a misunderstood tragic epidemic. It is not unusual for children who pass to reach out and successfully get communications through to other family and friends first – grief, especially the intense grief that a parent feels when losing a child – becomes like a wall, not allowing communication to get through initially. Our family in spirit desperately want us to know that they are okay, which is exactly the message that Brian had for you! He knew that his babysitter was going to a medium, and used that opportunity to let you know that he is sorry for your pain but he is okay. I’ve heard many other stories such as this one, where a friend of the family gets the message first in order to pass it along to the parents. I’m so glad that Brian was able to get through to you personally though, as you know – there is no substitute for a real dream ADC. When you wake up, you *know* that this was a real visitation and no ordinary dream. I’ve had two dream ADCs and both have had lasting impact on me and in my life. Absolutely your father is taking care of Brian. I’m sure Brian’s passing was quite a shock to him, and I know it was comforting to be taken care of by his grandfather who loves him and watched him grow up from the other side. Thank you so much for sharing your amazing ADCs – yours represent the kind of communication we all hope for; when people who love us can send us messages that not only let us know that they are more alive than ever in the spirit world, but can help us to make better descisions in our life as well. When my great-grandfather appeared to me in a dream during a really difficult time in my life, it lead me to make a major decision the very next day which set me on a path to great healing and changes. I don’t know if I would be where I am right now if my great-grandfather hadn’t appeared in that dream to give me the ‘push’ that I needed at the time. I know your story will be inspiring to others who have lost someone recently and are waiting for their own signs. Although we don’t always get dream ADCs, all signs from our spirit family are beautiful and without a doubt, when it happens, you know that love is eternal and this separation is temporary.
      All the best to you, Beth. Keep us posted if you get anymore wonderful contacts from Brian or Steve!
      Jenn

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  11. Hello,
    I came across this site after doing a little bit of google search on ADC and would like to share some of mine that I have experienced this past year.

    I lost my mother April of last year. She had been very sick and in and out of ICU for the last 6 weeks of her life. The day she died, my Dad had received a call to get to the hospital, that things had changed. It took Dad 30 min. to get to the hospital, but Mom took her last breath 15 min. prior.

    The night after her funeral, I had just laid down for the night and was mentally talking to Mom about how much I loved and missed her wished to hear her voice on the phone one more time. Then I hear her voice using phrase she would always use when calling every morning then I slowly began to picture she and I in a garden. We were both sitting on the bench and talked briefly, I then asked her why she did not wait until Dad got to the hospital before she died. She told me it would have been too hard for her to leave. I tried to talk to her more but she just faded away. I told Dad about that conversation with Mom. He cried and said that he needed to hear that because it weighed heavy him that Mom died without any of us with her.

    I sometimes see a red cardinal every so often. My Mom loved birds and had quite a collection of bird figurines with the red Cardinal being her favorite.

    Just recently, after talking with my daughter on my cell phone, I disconnected the call and Mom’s contact information from my cell’s address book comes up. (I haven’t deleted her number from my phone yet). I cleared my screen, put my phone down and get back to work. Several minutes later, I picked up my phone to check an email and Mom’s contact information is on my phone again. There have been many times since Mom’s passing when my work phone will ring and when I pick-up, familiar background noises from Mom’s regular phone calls can be heard but no one would be on the line.

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    1. Judy,
      Thank you for sharing – I’m so sorry you lost your mother such a short time ago. It is common for people to decide to go before their family arrives. It can be a choice that they make for the very reason your mother said: it’s just too hard to say goodbye otherwise. I know that your mother would never wish anyone to feel guilty about that and it sounds like the waking vision that you had was meant to convey that. You are the first person who has replied with one of the more rare phone ADCs. Your mother’s contact info coming up on your phone not once, but twice, is no coincidence in my opinion. If there is no other explanation for the work phone calls, then t could be that your mother is attempting the very difficult “phone call from heaven” but can’t quite get the voice part to work yet. You might consider looking into simple EVP. If your mother already has the skills to affect your phone, she might be able to accomplish it. If that might be something you are interested in, email me (in the contact menu) and I’ll give you some information on it. Cardinals are my family’s favorite bird too, and it’s always been a symbol of my mother also. Next time you see a beautiful cardinal outside your window, think fondly of your mother – its likely she’s thinking of you too.
      All the best,
      Jenn

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  12. My son of 36 years just passed on November 17th. He was fighting a rare aggressive cancer in his head. He eventually succumbed to it. He was a good man who did a lot of good things for his students over the last 12 years. I have a wife and a daughter now. We were highly distraught naturally along with his wife, who has 1 1/2 and 4 year old sons. I was a religious person but I have always believed in a God. 2 days before his funeral we were sitting with the pastor discussing arrangements in a room. All florescent lights were working except for the one above us. Just about as the meeting ended, it flickered and came on. My wife felt it was my son, I wasn’t sure. 2 days after the funeral, I came down stairs and went into the kitchen, our side door was 1/3 of the way open but the lock was still on. No one uses that door, I mentioned it to my wife in passing. The next day I came in late from work and my screen door was half open. There is enough clearance over the outside rug where this should not happen but maybe something was stuck under it. These are things which never happened before. What started me really wondering was 2 weeks ago I came down and sat at my computer early before work. I have a china cabinet with my son’s Urn in it along with some other family pictures of deceased ones. The cabinet snaps shut and there has never been an issue with it being open. My wife had come down before me and peeped in the dining room and saw the cabinet shut and went into the kitchen. She later came into the dining room and asked me why the China cabinet was half way open. I did not touch the cabinet in over a week along with her. We had no explanation. Another incident happened 5 days ago. My wife was talking with my daughter over the phone, she is still upset and we were trying to calm her down. After the phone call, I was upset. My wife went upstairs. After she left, I open up the China cabinet and hugged my son’s Urn and spoke to it. I asked my son to please show a sign and help my daughter cope with this as I was already thinking he is with us. I put the Urn back and started to head upstairs. As I got to the foot of the steps I saw an object at the bottom. I thought is was a dead mouse. I have a large lazy cat. When I looked closer, it was a dead sparrow. I know there was not a bird flying in my house or my wife or I would have heard it. Anyway I go upstairs to check the windows. They are all shut but there is an opening along side the window ac. I looked up the meaning of a dead bird in ones home from a spiritual standpoint. From what I read, it means a death of something, person, relationship etc… and a new beginning is now dawning.I informed my daughter of this and she was fascinated. My daughter related to me that she has given up on him contacting her. She lives 300 miles from me. But the following day she calls me and states that she was trying to find the pacifier for her 5 months old baby. She searched everywhere, including in the baby’s bouncer where she was sitting. Her daughter has no real coordination yet on gripping things. My daughter gave up on looking for the pacifier. She searched in her room, in the bouncer, kitchen and it was nowhere to be found. She starts watching tv and after about 10 minutes she peeps back at her daughter and sees the pacifier in the baby’s mouth. She has been trying since that time to get her daughter to put that pacifier in her mouth on her own, which she would have had to but the baby cannot. Where here daughter even got the pacifier from is even stranger. Yes I do believe now in the energy which leaves one body after the death of the physical body. My son did tell his wife toward the end that he saw his deceased Grandmother and some other people he did not recognize. I believe this has nothing to do with religion. Just like in the physical world, energy cannot be destroyed, it is transferred from one form to another, I now know there is an after life in another energy form.

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    1. Dear Keith,
      Thank you very much for having the courage to share your experiences with us, despite the truly tragic loss you have suffered in losing your son. The signs you have received are indeed amazing and encouraging. Sounds like your son is pretty adept with using his energy to affect physical objects. Every spirit has different talents, and I would argue that moving and affecting physical objects are some of the most difficult short of full materialization. The pacifier event is amazing – and it sounds like you have a logical and critical mind, looking at all the possibilities before making your determination. When you mentioned the sparrow, I was immediately hit by a quote I remember from my childhood – it’s from the bible. It goes like this: “Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care.” It means, even the least of us who dies is loved immeasurably by God. I agree – I think our journey through death to our second life will one day be a simple matter of science though it will never take away from the majesty of our living consciousness. Thanks again for sharing the many ways your son is letting you know he is okay – if you have more signs, please feel free to come back and share. I know it helps others to read these positive experiences.
      Regards,
      Jenn

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  13. I am sure I spoke to my deseased parents . It was more emotional and energy in a dream . But I woke up to an intense white light , a beam coming through my window . Yet it was dark , I woke up , and felt both energised and at peace at the same time . How do I see this again ask?

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    1. Hi Heidi, that’s a wonderful beginning. Do you remember anything of the dream, or just the feeling of it? ADC dreams do have a very intense emotional feeling and tend to be very ‘real’ feeling, if that makes sense. ADCs can be frustrating because there is little we can do to control when they happen. Some have had success by practicing out-of-body techniques. If this is something you are interested in, then I definitely recommend the Robert Monroe and William Buhlman books, both who have dedicated their lives to promoting out-of-body experiences which can bridge the gap with our loved ones living in the spirit world. Good luck and best wishes to you!
      Jenn

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  15. A couple of weeks after my mother died I was lying in bed late at night when the phone rang. Feeling a bit annoyed that someone would be calling at this late hour, I picked up the receiver and said hello. The voice on the other end was unmistakably my mothers.
    How is this possible I asked my mother? With a rather serious hurried voice she said “don’t worry about that, just listen.”
    But reality hit me. I couldn’t listen because I knew that my mother was dead and she couldn’t possibly be calling me. I sat up in bed trying to figure out what the heck had just happened. My first thought was “what a strange lucid dream” but then I thought that in lucid dreams one has some control or knowledge of what is about to happen. I had neither. Some hours later and after lot of reasoning I came to a conclusion. I have previously read of people claiming that dead relatives have made phone contact with them. With the shock of the sudden death of my mother and the grief that I felt it had manifested into some illusion of continuity.
    My mother died before her eightieth birthday and during her life she was known to be strong minded and at times over demanding. If this was indeed my mother trying to get a message through to me then it stood to reason that she wasn’t likely to leave it at that.
    With that incident still very fresh on my mind, two or three weeks later, I experienced another encounter. This time it was in the form of a dream. A very clear and calming realistic and dream.
    I was on my favorite beach sitting on the sand. It was a nice sunny day. I felt relaxed and happy. Something made me look to my right and there was my mother standing there in a swimming costume. She looked happy and much younger than when she had passed away. She looked at me, smiled and said “I am not angry with you anymore.”
    I was jolted out of my dream. There was no opportunity for me to ask any questions. But I felt that I wasn’t supposed to ask anything anyway. She only needed to pass on her message and I had to hear it. But that message made no sense to me at the time.
    That was the last contact I had with her.
    Some years later when I was searching for some documents in her files I came across many pages that she had hand written. Some were messages in case she died. There was poetry, she had written about her great grandchildren, and there were historical family events that she didn’t want to be forgotten. But when she was angry she would write about that as well. I was her only surviving child and her writings indicated that I made her angry a lot. There were pages going back years outlining what I had done to upset her. Many of these incidents had been forgotten or dismissed as incidental things by me but it was obvious my mother had harboured her anger throughout the years.
    I believe this was her way of making amends and releasing her negativity. I finally feel that she is resting in peace now.

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    1. Ivan,
      Thank you for sharing your story. I would absolutely agree with you that your mother’s ADC in this case was probably more for her benefit than for yours. I sounds like after she passed, she realized that she was wrong to harbor so much anger toward her only surviving child, especially if she worried that maybe you mistook her anger for a lack of love. Certainly this wasn’t the case – as I’m sure your mother loved you very much, but I think she couldn’t really move on until she was sure that she told you that she wasn’t holding on to anger. Perhaps she even knew that in a few years, you would find those letters and maybe she wanted to make sure that you didn’t remember her as being a angry woman. Nevertheless, it was incredibly important to your mother that she told you these things, for your sake but also for hers. Tragedy in life has a way of creating anger in people as a buffer against sadness, and if this was the case with your mother, she only realized when she passed that she didn’t need all that anger after all. I’m glad that you were receptive to her message and I hope that it has left you with a lasting peace as well.
      Thanks again and all the best, Ivan.
      Jenn

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  16. I lost my wife suddenly after 26 years of battleing a heart problem she was on the transplant list had an LVAD that pumped her blood . Kelli is my soul mate and her lose is hitting me hard about a 2-3 weeks after the service and every one went home I was laying on the couch when I swear it felt like my one foot was being rubbed I looked no one there and them it was gone now I have feet problems and she would rub my feet oh so good well I blew it off a week latter sitting on bed was looking at pictures of Kelli and felt some one jump on the bed behind me thought it was the dog no one there felt what ever move around on the bed was not sure what to think it happened 4 more times than one night in bed felt the jump on the bed move to me and started to rub my feet I JUST Lay there saying no way 10 minutes went by stillgoing on it felt great finally I said is that you it stopped than felt it move around upagainst my leg and rubbed my calf I said if this is Kelli press on the bed and the bed went down well I was freaked out but happy also I asked if she could talk nothing I asked if I could quiz her she pressed on the bed I asked her several questions she got them all right but one well this went on for several weeks 2-4 times a week then it was clear no talking has to be yes or no answers and you had to wait a bit for answers and don;t go to fast

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    1. Phil,
      What a terrible loss – I’m so sorry. Sounds like you had a very powerful, unmistakable sign from your wife though! Physical touch is not easy for spirit to accomplish, but in your case, she managed something that I’m sure she knew you’d recognize as her presence. How amazing that you were able to use your ADC to communicate with your wife! To be able to get those yes/no answers is just incredible! I have learned that each spirit has a very specific way that they can communicate best. Some send symbols, some scents, some can work with electronics, and some with visual lights. Your wife obviously has a talent for affecting physical objects but perhaps she isn’t able to produce a voice out of thin air. If your wife doesn’t come back as often as you’d like, don’t feel like she’s abandoning you, though. Spirits are very sensitive to our need to grieve. I’ll bet that your wife will come by from time to time to let you know that she’s around and very much a part of your life. You can be sure that she feels great – no more illness or pain – and she will be there for you when it’s time as well. Please let us know if you have any more encounters – your story is truly amazing and unique.
      Take care,
      Jenn

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  17. My husband suicided in October. He loved me fiercely, and I loved him the same, but he had been living with too much pain – both from his childhood and from his big strong muscular body falling apart. He had almost died twice in the past 10 years (once from an industrial accident, and once from endocarditis & septic emboli caused by a chipped tooth), and was being monitored for possible lung cancer that would require surgery to biopsy due to his advanced emphysema – and he refused that surgery & biopsy; he was convinced he had cancer even though it hadn’t been officially diagnosed. In addition, he was in constant pain from other injuries. .

    I have never believed in an after life and John knew this. He also knew I would presume that any whiffs of Old Spice, or hearing his favorite songs (he was a brilliant keyboardist), or any dreams of him, or any sensations of his presence, or such similar events would be chalked up to my subconscious needing to hear from him so badly that I was making it up just to feel better.

    Unbelievably to me, there have been MANY communications from him that I cannot dismiss as just my need to believe he’s out there. He IS out there…

    Some have been minor and could be explained away as random events (such as a brand new vacuum cleaner breaking, as part of a pattern of things that shouldn’t break doing so – apparently a message that he was “broken”, and which stopped as soon as I acknowledged the symbolism).

    Others have been coincidences of almost epic proportions. It would take pages and pages to write them all out here – I know because I’ve written a complete narrative to remind myself for those times when I might start to wonder if I could have made it all up. For example I’ve received confirmation of his victimization as a child from a source I never could have imagined (a source who I had just met, who lives 100 miles from where the victimization took place and who had no idea he was giving me that confirmation).

    And when I called the historical society of the town John lived in with his grandmother after his mother died when he was two years old (to see about donating some of John’s old pictures and letters), I found that the person I needed to talk to was the man who had bought John’s grandmother’s house – and that like us, he and his wife were 7th grade sweethearts and both had nearly three decades-long marriages before finding each other again, the husband’s birthday is the day before mine (a year apart), and he was an electrician (John was an electrical engineer). There are other coincidences there as well.

    There’s more… much more. And ALL of it is stuff that I couldn’t create. It has all come from outside sources.

    My husband has been communicating with me in a very powerful way. There have been so many, many coincidences and synchronicities that I’d be a stubborn fool to ignore the reality of it all. Despite my continued terrible grief and the devastation of knowing how much pain and hopelessness he was living with, I am reassured by realizing that he has been powerful enough to communicate with me repeatedly, and in the kinds of ways that I could accept and believe in.

    And I know he’s proud of me for starting a non-profit agency to honor him and to help others living with the pain he had. (He was always proud of my career as a social worker.)

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    1. Dear Linda,
      Thank you for sharing your story. I can’t even begin to possibly imagine the physical, mental and emotional pain both you and your husband have endured. Your non-profit agency to help others who are suffering is such a beautiful way to honor him. Many people doubt the signs that they get after a loved one passes – of course we never want to be disappointed by believing in something that may not be real. In your husband’s case, I’m sure he knew that he had to be persistent in order to overcome your own skepticism, and it sounds like he’s gotten the message across to you in a myriad of ways. As a social worker, you already know the long road to healing ahead, but I have found very uplifting stories of after-death communications in “Hello from Heaven” by Bill and Judy Guggenheim. I highly recommend it, as well as the NDE stores at nderf.org. Both give us just a glimpse of what comes next – and from everything I’ve read and researched, there is no judgement for those who are suffering who take their passing into their own hands. Just relief from pain, love, and understanding. Best of luck with your work, Linda. Thanks for working hard through your own pain to help others. I know your husband will continue to send you signs to show you his love and pride as well.
      Regards,
      Jenn

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  18. My fiancé of 17 years just passed away about 2 weeks ago from liver/lung cancer. The other day I kept hitting the snooze button on the alarm clock because I just didn’t want to get up. During one of those times when I fell asleep, I heard his voice say my name, the way he did whenever he came in to wake me up. I literally jumped up. It was so clear, and so I called his name. Of course there was no answer. How do I know if that was a dream or if he was actually here?

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    1. Hi Shelly. I’m so sorry that your lost your fiance to such a terrible disease. Although what you described is a legitimate way that spirits make contact, there’s no fool proof way to know. Usually spirit contract is ultra real in a way that dreams aren’t. They may be different than your normal dreaming or unusual in some way that makes you feel that it wasn’t your brain just playing tricks on you. You said it was so clear that you jumped up. Has that ever happened to you before? Ultimately, it may be a matter of faith but don’t give up. If he was able to contact you once, it’s likely he’ll try again so you are sure it is him. Most people in spirit will keep trying until they are sure you got the message. Don’t be afraid to talk to him. It helps strengthen the connection. Keep your eyes and ears open, spirits don’t always pick the same thing twice. Please let me know if you do get another sign, though don’t worry if it takes some time. Spirits usually wait for the right moment, Usually when you least expect it. All the best, Jenn

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  19. Thanks Jenn. I was hoping it was a signal of some kind for me. I’ve heard the doorbell ring many times over the years which wakes me up but nobody is there, and I always told myself it was my dad who passed away 19 years ago. When Brian was sick I always told him he had to come back and flick the lights on and off so I knew he was ok, and he said he would if he could. After reading your website it sounds like that is a hard one to do, so I was hoping that hearing his voice was the next best thing he could do. Thanks

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    1. Hi Shelly, I don’t want to at all downplay your hearing of Brian’s voice at all – I can tell you that if I heard the voice of a loved one who had passed call my name when I was half-asleep, I’d definitely take that as a sign. But what may be a sign for me might not be for someone else – it’s highly individualized of course how we interpret these events. Its normal to be doubtful and to want another sign to make sure. Yes, moving physical objects or affecting electricity is not something every spirit can do but it’s perfectly ok to ask Brian for another sign for clarification. Let Brian choose the method and give him time to make it happen. I believe that he will try again to make sure you know it’s him without doubt. Be open and alert and send him positive thoughts. When he picks something powerful and unmistakable, it will be worth the wait. Best wishes, Jenn

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  20. Hi .. im glad i read ur article.. and yes i recieve adc 6yrs ago. And after a few months i dream of him as like he was stll alive,he holds my hand and nver let it go wen he was falling if from the bridge(in my dream).i told him to let go of my hand becoz the sand want to take him but he nver let go of my hand he just stare at me .i wake up that time i was scared..and after a yr wen i was pregnant i dream of him again ..he was just following werever i go.. never say a word he just follow me.. i just ignore it coz i tot i was move on from his death ..its 3yrs since i dont dream about him.. bcoz i forget him.and wen im in kuwait last yr its bcoz i was at the stage of homesick, i feel his presence ..bcoz i saw the photo of her sister and look likes him,its like a flashback that moment,i was crying and sudenly i feel cold around my neck to my face like someone hold my face ..and i remember him.. since then i always feel his presence .. can i ask if all the signs is always a sign that he is with me everydt? I love him now i dont want him to go.. is it posible that he can stay with me? Pls i need answers..

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    1. Hi Cel, our loved ones in the spirit world know when we are thinking of them. That is when they are most likely to visit, but it would not be healthy for him or for you if he stays around on the earth plane all of the time. You don’t have to worry though, spirits can be with us anytime. He can visit you whenever you think of him and he can hear you when you speak to him. Spirit family and loved ones want the best for us, and that usually means living our life with joy, love, and courage. There is no chance that he will leave and never come back, but he will visit you from time to time and hopefully give you a little sign that he’s with you and watching over you. Also, its best for him to live his new life in the spirit world to the fullest. Spirits don’t just float around in the afterlife, they are really busy learning and doing interesting things to become better people. So, he won’t be with you all of the time, every waking moment, but that doesn’t mean he won’t visit you often and watch over you all of the time. If you get lonely, talk to him and tell him how you are feeling. He will hear you – whether he is sitting next to you, or in the spirit world – he will hear you loud and clear.
      Best wishes to you,
      Jenn

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  21. I also would like to leave a msg. I have Borderline Personal Disorder, PTSD, amongst many other issues in my life. When I was 5 my father and mother got into a fight, (I won’t go into details) my father struck my mother in the side of the head tearing out her earring, she made it to her bedroom where she fell to the floor and died. My oldest brother who was 11 went to her bedroom to see if she was ok? He fell over her dead body on the floor. My mother was 28 at the time. My oldest brother was 2 months away from turning 28 and he was also killed (again, won’t go into details) growing up since the age of 8 till my brother passed, I had such a bad feeling about the number 28, after my brother passed that feeling disappeared. Last July 2016 I drove from the East Coast of Canada to the West Coast of Canada, I was trying to find balance in my life, so I went out to spend the summer with my grown children and the grandkids. I have a problem with sleep so I get up a lot and just sit and rock in the dark till I’m ready to go back to bed. A week before leaving I would hear a man and woman talking in my head and different types of music in the background, thought I was going insane, I would listen to see if there was a radio on in the house, but no…I could not hear the conversation, but knew it was a man and a woman and would sometimes get a word or two like: best, or then..just a word here and there. Then the voices and the background music quit. These voices continued on. One night before I left on vacation, I was talking to my husband in bed and all of a sudden I felt a woman’s delicate hand gently rest on the top of my head for a few seconds. I stopped talking and told my husband what I had just felt. On my trip West a few times at night in the motel I would get into bed and hear the voices again. Once I arrived to my destiny, the voices had quit till the night before I was to leave to drive back across Canada home. On my travel home, I fell asleep at the wheel twice, once ending up on the other side of the road, I gasped and woke up looking at pilons beside my door and a concrete wall ahead, I immediately shifted myself over to the other side of the road, then looked in my mirror to see if anyone was behind me, luckily there wasn’t and that was hard to understand because on my whole trip the highway was congested with traffic. The second time I fell asleep I woke up finding myself ready to go through a guardrail and saw a river below, again shifting myself back on the road, looking in my rear view mirror and there was nothing for traffic once again. I then found a spot and pulled over and slept for 4 hrs. once awake I was on my way again. I had brought some cd’s with me because I knew I was going to hit a lot of dead area’s for radio. I put in a cd (Eminem) it’s a favorite of mine, it played and played over and over, it became background music after a while. Then I noticed the second song which is not a favorite started to scramble, so I thought to myself …ok no more music for a while. I ejected the cd and turned off the radio. No longer than 5 min the cd went back in and started playing again..I thought to myself ok how is it possible, I even turned off the radio. So I ejected it again and made sure the radio was on off. Driving down the road only a few min this time, the cd went in again and started playing, I left it playing but it got me thinking there was someone with me watching over me…I rehearsed in my mind as to why I’d gasped first then opened my eyes and saw the pilons and concrete wall…I thought, someone woke me up in time? I then started thinking about the conversations in my head each night and how they stopped once I was with the kids and grandkids and how I heard them the night before I left? I just started adding these things up and the cd player playing and there being no traffic during the two times I fell asleep at the wheel. I truly believe the voices were of my mother and my brother, and let’s be real, only my brother would put up with Eminem playing, so I started talking as if someone was sitting next to me, and thanking them. Since then I’ve indulged more into the spiritual world and am so enjoying it and trying to exercise my psychic abilities and trying to meditate, but interference with other thoughts make that a difficult task, but I keep working on it. Thank you for listening to my story. I am a true believer in spirits….as a child I’ve always had an interest in the unknown, maybe from feelings as a child I just overlooked and never thought anything of it.

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    1. Dear Kim,
      I am deeply sorry for the tragedies that you have suffered – it’s simply unspeakable. However, it also sounds like you are very sensitive and have some psychic abilities. I have also heard the ‘talking in my head’. I know that people think that its a sign of mental instability, but most mediums say that this is how their gifts started. I think what you are picking up on is the stray conversations of spirits – your mother and brother perhaps, as you’ve stated. I don’t have proof of this, but because I’ve experienced it too, its the best I can come up with. I’ve also heard the phantom radio – ever since I was a child, in fact. I used to wake up in the middle of the night and go searching for the AM station left on somewhere. The experience you had while driving – thank goodness you are okay – that might have been your guardian spirits keeping you safe. I’ve had a few close calls too, and I always thank them for it. You are very connected to your guides and you are a receiver of energy – I’ll bet sometimes it can make you feel very drained and tired, especially if you are around people who are ‘energy stealers’. I’m sure you are also very empathic. These are gifts of the spirit – use them to guide you when you feel uncertain. You can also learn to close up your energy if you feel that you are overwhelmed. Good luck on your spiritual path – wherever it takes you, I think you know you have your mother and your brother looking out for you.
      Jenn

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  22. A week ago I had a dream filled with intense emotion. In the dream, an old friend I had lost contact with kept trying to get my attention. I kept pushing him away, but he persisted. He wouldn’t let up until I sat down and gave him my full attention. He gave me a ring and I woke up. (Not sure what that symbolizes). The emotions I was feeling were so strong that I immediately grabbed my phone & googled his name. That’s when I found his obituary. He died 3 1/2 years ago. I was/am crushed and am going the grief process now. I’m taking it pretty hard, even though we haven’t spoken in years.

    A week prior I was on an elevator going to work. There was a man and a little girl. I didn’t look at the man, but felt a familiar presence. When they got off, I looked into the girl’s face and saw my friend. I started to wonder about him but left it at that.

    This week I’ve been seeing crows and feeling his presence.

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    1. Hi Alison,
      I am so sorry about the loss of your friend. ADC dreams are usually very clear, very logical, and very full of emotion. Its the kind of experience where you sit up in bed and go, “woah..”. This sounds like your friend was definitely trying to give you some sort of message. The question is – what does the ring symbolize? This dream sounds like more than your friend just trying to get your attention at his passing, but more like he’s trying to pass along some information – are you getting married soon? Someone in your family? In terms of the little girl – is someone in your family trying to conceive? I’ll bet he’ll send you another sign to clarify this, because I think he’s trying to tell you something important..
      Good luck and let me know if you figure out what he means.. I’m curious as well.
      Jenn

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      1. Jenn,
        Thanks for the reply.

        To give a little more insight, I’m currently married. I had my wedding ring on in the dream, and he put his ring over mine.

        No one in my family is trying to conceive.

        After waking up this morning and meditating, I heard someone say I have a message. But, wasn’t feeling like it was my friend.

        I’m not sure what to think.

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  23. My father passed away July 6, 2016. He had good qualities, but he was also a hard man in many ways and he did something terrible to me in the last few months of his life. I yearned for him to say he was sorry before he died. I especially felt that he was sorry on June 19, Father’s Day, after I gave him some presents. I just had the feeling he was sorry, but he didn’t say it. About a month after his passing, around mid August, my husband and I went to his house to do some cleaning and there was a newspaper in the mailbox dated June 19. There hadn’t been any newspaper in the mailbox the week before. I had canceled the paper. I thought maybe this was a message that he was saying sorry, that I was right that he was sorry on June 19. Do you think that makes sense?

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    1. Dear Mimi,
      I am sure your father is very sorry; there are many mediumship transcripts where parents are apologizing to their children for unloving acts. I think once we pass, we have a much wider perspective and the ways we’ve hurt people, especially our children, become immediately clear. I think the newspaper was definitely a sign from him – whether it was to say, ‘I’m sorry’ or to say, ‘I’m here’. Either way, most people in the afterlife aren’t holding grudges and I think your father deeply regrets not telling you how sorry he was when he had to chance. I hope he continues to send you signs – I feel like there would be another one to follow just to confirm that you are correct in your thinking. Keep your eyes open and let us know if you do get another sign from him.
      Take care,
      Jenn

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      1. Jenn,

        Thank you for your comments. I should note that you when I started my comment, it was 11:27 my time
        ( my dad’s birthday) and I didn’t leave them consciously at that time.. When you left your comments, it says 10:10 a.m. That is the precise time I was born.

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  24. I forgot to add at the end of my experience, that after I got home from my vacation, two nights after I heard the same two voices in my head and then they disappeared and haven’t heard them since Sept. 2016.

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  25. Dear Jenn,
    Thank you for commenting back to my comments. I have a question for you that I don’t understand & have done a lot of researching online for the meaning. Sometimes when I indulge and research and write down things in my notebook on spirits and understanding things and different rocks,crystals ect….I find then that I go into these deep deep sleeps and I want out of them but I can’t wake up from them and then all of a sudden I will force myself up into a sitting position on the edge of the bed, but that dream was so real, that the whole day it stays with me as real while I’m awake as what it was while I was asleep and I cannot shake it off for a couple days. Then if I leave the meditation and the researching and writing and thinking about it….I have peaceful sleeps. I asked my Dr. why this happens and she had no answer to give me and I can’t find anything online to help me understand why I dive into such deep deep sleeps and can’t wake up. Can you suggest why this happens or give me some kind of peace from it? thank you Jenn

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    1. Do you ever wake up paralyzed? Do you hear a loud buzzing sound? Do you ever find yourself waking up into another dream? A few different sources, i.e. Seth, Silver Birch say that every single night we leave our bodies and return to the spirit world for ‘instruction’. Maybe during these times where you are working on deepening your spirituality on earth, your soul counterpart is advancing that knowledge in the spirit world and thus you are sleeping very deeply to support your consciousness leaving your body. This is simply my opinion, of course, but I’ve had this happen to me too where I can’t wake myself up – its unnerving, but I think its a natural result of having OBEs that we don’t remember. Or else it could be stress, lol. Let me know if it keeps happening.
      Jenn

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  26. Dear Jenn,
    I lost my husband 14 years ago to pancreatic cancer. He has been in my house all that time by moving things in the house that I did not move.
    Little angel figurines on the windowsill are moved, stuffed teddy bears on
    my bed are re-positioned and tossed about. I started taking pictures of the before and after! I also lost a dear male friend recently and he is also tossing the stuffed teddy bear around that he gave me! It is good to know they are ok and happy. I also have been smelling a perfume smell which seems to be a shaving lotion my friend used. Just last night a toss pillow on my bed was turned over and positioned closer to me. Amazing!
    Thank you Jenn.
    Eleanor

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    1. Dear E.
      That is truly amazing and such a wonderful testiment to the many ways our family and friends will make sure that we know that they are more alive than ever and are still around. Sounds like you are having lots of ADCs – that’s wonderful, and nothing malicious, just fun stuff to remind you that love never ever dies!
      Thanks for sharing!
      Jenn

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  27. My brother passed away about 6 years ago in a fatal car accident. He was 49, I was 47. We were very close. He was an alcoholic and it finally got the best of him. I remember clearly a dream I had a while back. My brother came to me in my dream. I don’t recall what the dream was about but the last words my brother said to me was, “I’ll see you on the other side”. What a reassuring dream that he was doing just fine.

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    1. Dear Diane,
      I’ll bet you’ve never forgotten how real and emotional and important that dream felt. It’s the hallmark of a dream ADC that we wake up knowing somehow that we were touched by the other side. Something as simple as one dream can completely change the way we feel about our grief – while it doesn’t lessen it, somehow we gain that hope that we will see them again. In your case, your brother made you a promise that you will. I’m sorry that you’ve suffered such loss, but I’m so glad that your brother found a way to get in touch with you and bring you a little peace.
      Jenn

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  28. When I was around 12 one uncle of mine died from cancer. Me and my family used to see him on summer holidays only because he lived far away from us on an popular island in the Mediterranean. I cried when I was told he passed away. I really liked him and he loved me too. Never saw him in my dreams until the night of my engagement which was around 3 years ago. I dreamed that I was holding a picture of him and I heard him saying to me ” I wish you all the happiness in the world my lovely child”. I still remember that dream so clearly. It was so intense! I have no doubt in my mind his spirit visited me to wish me for my engagement

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    1. Dear C Brown,
      What a beautiful example of an ADC – thank you so much for telling us about your beautiful visitation before your engagement. A “dream” like that is unforgettable, and a beautiful engagement gift for you from someone who is clearly very much a part of your life and watching ‘from the wings’ as they say. All the best to you in your marriage!
      Jenn

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  29. I have had several experiences, I lost my son to a horrifying murder last June 9th 2016. The night he was murdered my very large India pottery I have on top of my refrigerator came flying off. About the same time he was killed. Last night my tablet opened to a page by it self and started typing the number 7 over and over with you letter u randomly. The screen would look like some touched it to make it larger then smaller. You could actually see the keys being pressed. First thing I thought of was hacker, so I ran a security scan and it was all clear. Then I started remembering my dogs was barking strange sitting beside me. Not sure what went on. But isn’t the number 7 considered a holy number in the bible?

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    1. Hi Janice,

      Sorry my reply is coming late. First, I am so terribly sorry for your tragic loss. I can’t even begin to understand what you have gone through. You’ve definitely gotten signs, the broken pottery feels anguished to me which is perfectly understandable. It sounds like your son is trying to convey something. This sounds like more than simply a hello to me, though I could be wrong. Yes, 7 is a holy number in many religions but I think whatever the message is, it would need to be personal to you. 7 rhymes with heaven, but is there anything about the letter U? Something about 7:00 or the 7th? Usually, a spirit will keep trying until the message is received so keep your eyes open for more signs. I also don’t want you to worry that your son is not at peace, although initially a spirit who is taken from this life too early will be unsettled (hence, I think the shattered pottery), there are guides and family on the other side who will help him with counseling and understanding. I know your son will want you to know that he is okay, safe and loved. You could try leaving your tablet out with a notepad app open, perhaps he will try again if he’s demonstrated that he has a facility with affecting technology from the other side.
      Wishing you peace and calm during this time of grief,
      Jenn

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  30. Hello everyone,
    I lost my husband in a car accident while he was coming home from work on the 25th of December, 2016.
    Ever since then i haven’t been myself it was like a part of was dead, i missed him terribly only i could talk to him one more time or hear his voice, i knew it was impossible but i couldn’t help myself. I contact a cope of spirit medium with my husband but they all turned out to be fake until i came across someone online i was a bit skeptical cause of my previous experience he assured me i wouldn’t regret it so i gave it a try. After we done with the process my husband came to me in my dream, it was the first time i dreamt of him since his death. He directed me where he hided my anniversary gift he has gotten for me, when i woke up i followed his direction and found it, i was very happy it was like a gift from the other side and i cherished it.
    this man actually knows what he was doing and i wouldn’t recommend him to anyone unless he was efficient.
    if you need his service you can reach him through his email;
    nakodako@outlook.com

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    1. Dear Jenny,
      My condolences for the heartbreaking loss of your husband. I know the grief is still so near and so heavy. I can completely understand why you sought out a medium, I’m so sorry that you had to go through a bunch of fake money-stealers before finding someone real. It makes me so furious that people out there can take advantage of the grieving like that. I’m glad it had such a happy ending – how amazing that not only did your husband visit you in a dream, but you were able to verify that your visitation was real because you found the anniversary gift he left you! How truly wonderful. I hope it has helped to know that although you will still grieve your husband, he is still a part of your life in many ways and is watching over you. Thank you for the recommendation.
      Wishing you all the best,
      Jenn

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  31. I have prayed and prayed for sign from my husband of 22 years. All I want is him back and he won’t even come say goodbye. If I could just figure out how to find him.

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    1. Hi Shirley,

      There could be a lot of reasons why you haven’t gotten a sign and I know how frustrating it can be. If you would like to discuss it further, send me an email (address in my about page) and I can go through some of the things you can try.

      Jenn

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  32. I searched for this topic because of my personal experience, I can categorically say I was a sceptic, I have lost a few family members , though they tended to have lived a long full life,whilst I was upset, I had comfort knowing this. Recently I lost a cousin at age 44, (I will call him B) a cousin I can honesty say I did not know as well as I would like to have, but our family are a large very close family regardless of geographical distances, that is something that has always given me comfort and value. B passed away suddenly in his sleep. B was a larger than life figure a keen Rugby payer, football supporter and was chairman of his Rugby club, much loved and respected.

    The realisation of grief, hit me like an unstoppable force the moment I seen the Hurst arrive at the crem with the words “Son” & “Daddy” draped beside his coffin. I should say I am not a typical emotional person, something I am reminded of by others often. From that moment and every moment from then even now as I write I am emotional. The stories told about “B” by his son, daughter, sister, brother and the pain his Mam, Dad and hundreds of others really set something off in me.

    After the service I was alone for the rest of the day and night. Feeling emotional I cried on and off for the majority of the day, whilst listening to “B” favourite song, remembering the stories and few memories I had of “B”. I have never experienced feelings like this before I felt sad, not down, not sorry for myself, I felt “SAD” very sad a different kind of sad one I had never experienced, nor do I ever want to experience it again. Several hours past I was driving along sobbing uncontrollably, all of a sudden there was a very strong smell of Ralgex (Ralgex is something I only associate with Rugby a heat gel rubbed into the muscle) and I knew immediately, “B” had done this to try and ease this pain I was feeling. This would be the only way he could make contact in a way I would understand.

    The significant part for me is this, I have nasal problems and have not been able to smell properly for years, my sense of smell is virtually non -existent, it is rare I can smell anything. I do not drink, smoke take medication, do not suffer with mental health issues nor have I ever. I dont play Rugby anymore, had nothing odoures in the car, do not spray anything up my nose to clear my airways. I have never been to these “people readers”, cryptic message things, msytic megs of the world, I always considered them non-sense and still do, after all I can only believe in what I see, hear touch and SMELL. There was only 1 explanation “B” had done this to stem the pain, and let me know its OK.

    This was the most difficult funeral I have been too, it was tough to watch, listen, hearing the stories, seeing the grief, feeling the pain, I have some comfort knowing B is still here, coming back to life in other ways.

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    1. Dear R, Thank you very much for sharing your story. I am also a natural skeptic (despite the fact that I write a blog such as this one), and I too would look for any other explanation first. Such a specific smell, and one that you would instantly associate to Rugby and thus, your cousin, really can’t be explained any other way – at least not without jumping through a lot of unrealistic hoops. I think ‘B’ knew that in order to let you know that he was okay and at peace, he had to do something that you also wouldn’t explain away. He picked the perfect thing – something that can’t simply be dismissed as the product of a grieving mind. Smell is definitely a way that spirits use to call attention to their presence, especially because our sense of smell has a strong association with memory. The smell of perfume, roses, or cigar smoke is very common. In this case, B used a smell that best represented him. I’m so glad the message got through. We still grieve the physical person that we could talk to directly, see and touch, but it helps to know that our separation is temporary.
      Take care,
      Jenn

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  34. My mother passed away in year 2013 due to cancer. She was single parent so she was everything for me. I’m married but she was with and I was taking care of her.

    I had few ADC like when i was depress to the point where I even hurt myself my mom came in dream of my close relative saying “why you are taking care of my daughter she is all alone right now”. That relative called me and asked if I’m OK and den told me her dream.

    I’m from India and in India Basil (Tulsi) plant is very holy and you will find it in home of every Indian. I wanted that plant so I asked my maid if she can get me Basil plant… next day door bell rang and there was a guy standing with Basil plant in his hand and said Old lady downstairs said you need it … and our maid is no where close to old.

    Once we went to meet our friend, we were talking and their 2 year daughter playing and suddenly she saw me and said “Tai ji (referring me) is scared”.

    But point of big concern for me is that I never see her happy in my dreams … either she is very quite and looking sad or she is dying … and her dying dream is very frequent.

    Please help me to understand what she wants from me … What I’ve done wrong ?

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    1. Shri,
      Thank you so much for writing. I’m sorry you lost your mother to such a terrible disease. First of all, you have done nothing wrong – absolutely nothing. You loved and cared for your mother and that is the most wonderful thing a person can do. I can think of two reasons why you might be having dreams about your mother where she is unhappy. First, its possible that you are still dealing with the tragedy and grief and its coming out in your dreams. In that case, it is something that is not coming from your mother but from your depression. The other possibility is that maybe your mother is worried about you and you are sensing this worry. Is there a reason why your mother would be worried about you right now? What I would do is talk to your mother. Just like you would if she were sitting with you. Tell her how you feel, tell her that you miss her but that you are going to try and live a life that will make her proud. Maybe if your mom is reassured that you are okay, you will have happier dreams and visitations from her. All mothers worry about their children, whether they are on earth or on the other side. Remind her how strong you are and how much you will always love her. All the best to you – take care of yourself.
      Jenn

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  35. correction to statement above :

    I had few ADC like when i was depressed to the point where I even hurt myself my mom came in dream of my close relative and said “why you are not taking care of my daughter she is all alone right now”. That relative called me and asked if I’m OK and den told me her dream.

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  36. I think I have in my sleep back in 95 I had my first lost of my 9 year old. She passed in car a wreake and at that time I started doing all I could to be in touch with her all my dreams stoped and I read all the books I could find but nothing that I can remember just wake up feeling like I had been with her could feel her but not reamber so time went own never thought that she came I would plant trees and tell God they where here and the trees would do things that that tile of tree shouldn’t do wee all most 3 years ago my out her girl passed she was 30. And about 1 week she came through in a dream with her sis the 1 one that passed in 95 and when I could Renner any dreams with her the where all way sad and she was a little girl but this time 21 years later my old girl that ed brought her through and she was a big girl now they didn’t say any thing and had there nana with them that ha passed 6 months be 4 my first girl passed on her birthday and 6 month later my first girl passed they where all to get her and looked happy my mom was killed when I was 9 so iv had so much death but have all ways believed in live after what is called death I just don’t understand why they all just don’t talk to me I know that around and they know how I believe so can any one help me understand and by the way the house I levied in is 132 years and I know all about the Olney wonders and I can he are the all the time and know it’s them so if some could help my know why it’s so hard 4 my girls to. Ttalk to me and let me know how they are moving on in their neew life pleas do so

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    1. Dear Judy,
      I’m so sorry that you’ve had to much loss in your life. What I might suggest, since it sounds like some time as passed, is to contact a reputable medium through the forever family foundation. In the meantime, don’t forget to talk to your girls. Tell them what is in your heart. That can help them make contact with you more easily. I hope you are able to connect with your family, Judy. Best of luck to you.

      Jenn

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  37. My mother passed away yesterday, I stumbled on this blog by just randomly surfing the web. One second I am not ready to hear from her, its too fresh and painful but in the next I am desperate to hear from her because of the guilt I feel for not being there this week when she needed me. This blog gave me comfort in the fact that when the time is right I will hear from my mother again. So thank you very much.

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    1. Dear Christa,
      My heartfelt condolences for the loss of your mother. You are surely deep in the beginning stages of grief, and as you’ve stated, it may not yet be time for you to get an ADC from your mother. Take care of yourself and give yourself the time to mourn. Although you may not hear from your mom right away, please know that she is still very much a part of your life and watching over you. When she feels that you will best benefit from hearing from her, she will make contact. Take care, Jenn

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  38. Someone I held very close to my heart committed suicide march 21st. I I found out over a week later. Three days after I found out, I started hearing him talk to me in my head. I spent an hour before bed one night talking to him about how hard his death was for me and how I was angry that he didn’t contact me when his depression got overwhelming. I fell asleep with him bringing up memories we had shared. I woke up the next day feeling like a giant burden had been lifted. I can still hear him talking to me about random things like how he likes my new glasses… I feel like I’m losing my mind but I don’t want it to stop at the same time. Maybe I need to see a Dr. I have never known anyone that has known this to happen…

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    1. Dear Jennk,
      What an absolutely terrible tragedy – I’m so sorry for your loss. You probably aren’t losing your mind. Hearing the voice of a loved one in your head is a recognized form of ADC. It may happen especially when you are relaxed or just going to sleep. They may be accompanied by visions, or stay auditory only. In fact, you may have some mediumship abilities that you aren’t currently aware of. Regardless, if it gets bothersome, simply ask your loved one to please contact you in other ways. If the voices become negative and nasty, then you can be sure it’s not your friend and further steps should be taken. You are not the only one who has had an ADC in this manner – so you are not alone. Again, if the voices become very negative and are accompanied by hallucinations or disturbed thinking, then it might be time to see a doctor. I really don’t think that’s what is happening here. It sounds like your loved one has found a way to be able to communicate directly with you, and once your grief and anger lessens, the voice should lessen as well until it becomes very occasional. Many mediums have learned of their own abilities because of hearing voices like this as well.
      Take care of yourself,
      Jenn

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  39. My husband died November 6th 2015, unexpected. It has been extremely emotional on myself and our daughters. Although the daughters have had many encounters of their father, I haven’t had many, but I would like something everyday. I miss him terribly. Recently, while sleeping, I heard him say my name, as if to see if I was awake. Realizing that I was dreaming, I immediately saw someone wearing dark sunglasses and then I saw myself (just from the shoulders up)with an extremely bright light behind me. I have been trying to figure out what this may mean. I woke up realizing it was him sending me a message. I was at peace and comfort knowing he was there. Please advise as to your thoughts of the this.

    Lisa

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    1. Hi Lisa,
      I am terribly sorry for the passing of your husband. The grief must be so overwhelming. I have read from numerous sources that while we sleep, we often travel out of body to the spirit world. Typically, we don’t remember these visitations. Its possible you were traveling to see your husband and remembered part of the experience. In your situation, since it has been over a year since he passed, I would suggest finding a reputable medium through the forever family foundation. Their mediums are certified and tested, and although no one can guarantee that you will have a great reading 100% of the time, this is a non-profit organization that is designed to help grieving family get in touch with those on the other side without being ripped off by a fraud. I think for you to have the opportunity to have a conversation with him through a medium would be very healing, especially since his passing was so unexpected and abrupt. Something that you can do right now, though, is to talk to your husband directly. Find a time – maybe before bed or when you are alone, and tell him how you feel. Be honest, just like you would have in life. Spirits can hear us when we talk to them – just as if they were in the room. By opening up about how you feel out loud, it might help you make a stronger connection and allow him to send you a more meaningful sign – whether that is in a dream, through a symbol or any of the other 12 ADCs. I have suggested this to others and they have reported that airing out their emotions – even if they include anger, resentment, sadness, etc. can make all the difference with getting that communication through.
      I am sending thoughts of peace and well wishes to you, Lisa. Please let me know if you make contact.
      Jenn

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  40. I became the guardian of my little sister in September of last year, we’ve always been close, I’m 13 years older than her so I’ve acted like her mother most of our life. She just turned 17 on March 7th and was killed April 5th, just over a week ago. It still feels surreal even typing it. She was at one of her friends houses and he supposedly found her unresponsive with no explanation. A clean toxicology report came back and now an autopsy needs to be done as they may suspect foul play.

    My heart is in shreds, I am definitely in a heavy grieving stage, but what makes it so terrible is the unknown, how this happened, why did this happen? Was she harmed by someone? She was just a child, only just 17. I used to believe in God and heaven but this has thrown a wrench into what I believe and I find myself questioning everything.

    My question/s – is it too early to see a medium? Can I try anything spiritually to see if she can tell me what happened or guide me to answers? And just a side note… Prrsonally do you think it is possible to believe in God and spirits/mediums? (Most Christianity I’ve been taught forbids mediums)

    Any advice at all is much appreciated.

    xx

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    1. Also – I find it odd that her phone password (a phone which she had got a week prior to dying) was 7777. She was born March 7, turned 17, in 2017, and died exactly 7 months to the day that I became her guardian. (September 5th she moved into my place, and April 5th she died). I know 7 is a popular number but it just seems very odd.

      Is that reading into it too much?

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    2. Dear Megan, I feel terrible for your tragic loss of your sister. I too am much older than my sibling and I can understand the quasi-parental relationship that develops. The loss of your sister, only 17 years old is just a travesty of the highest order. With losses of this magnitude, it is only natural to begin to question everything you believe. Yes, it is possible to believe in God as well as spirits and mediums. I don’t agree with Christianity’s prohibition for many reasons. Aside from fraud, the majority of people who have sought mediums have found them to be normal, kind, people who simply have a gift and wish to help grieving people. The bible even describes people who have such gifts as god-given- discernment one of them. I’ve never read about a medium who has been cursed by demons or anything else that Christianity might assume would happen. I believe that anything that helps a family member connect with a loved one on the other side and can relieve some of the grief and fear is a good thing. I do, unfortunately, think its is too soon for you to seek out a medium. Three months minimum is what I would recommend, to be sure that you get a good reading and that your intense grief doesn’t form a block. Not everyone will agree, but three months is the general rule of thumb. When you are ready, I recommend the Forever Family Foundation. Their mediums are certified and the foundation is non-profit. Its your best chance of not being ripped off. In the meantime, do what you can to help heal and work through your grief. There are many options – grief therapy, group counseling, etc. I have a few links in my bereavement page that might help get you started with finding the best way to begin processing your feelings. A spiritual suggestion would be to talk to your sister out loud. Tell her how you feel. Let her know that you are open to receiving a sign to help you deal with her death in the way she would want you to. Although it can be difficult to get a communication while your grief is so intense, if your sister has something to tell you, she will try hard to get her message across. Start the communication though by talking to her before bed or when it is quiet. I know its hard to believe it, but I truly believe based on so many years of research, that your sister is with friends and family on the other side and eager to let you know that she is okay. Pay attention to the signs around you, when you reach an impasse, go ahead and ask for help. I believe you will be guided to your next steps. To answer your follow up question – synchronicities such as numbers and dates can be important messages, but only you know if they are meaningful. If you have questions, or would like to contact me directly, please feel free to send me a private email anytime. Its in my contact page. I am praying for you, Megan.
      Be gentle with yourself,
      Jenn

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  41. My father passed away January 27, 2017. He had heart failure, and copd. He was a fighter, even the morning he passed, I was sure he just had pneumonia and he needed antibiotics. My father passed away at 9:59am, and his brother (my uncle) passed away almost 3 hours earlier at 7:03 am. My dad did not know my uncle was sick and dying of cancer, I couldn’t tell him. Little did we know that god had plans already for them. A few days after my dad passed the batteries in the smoke alarm went dead, my dads car battery went dead, and his house phone battery went dead all together. I don’t know if that was a sign that he’s OK. I have heard there are no such things as coincidences.

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    1. Dear Lori,

      My condolences for the loss of your father and your uncle. Dealing with loss is so hard, but losing two family members at once must be simply unbearable. I also don’t believe in coincidences – certainly not coincidences such as what you’ve described. There is precedent for the draining of batteries…for paranormal investigators, its often a sign that a spirit is around. It sounds like your dad and your uncle wanted to let you know that they are visiting, watching over you, and that their pain is finally over. Every spirit has a particular way they communicate and just like in life, they have different talents. By draining batteries in multiple places, this might have been the way they could best let you know that they are okay. The chances of these things all happening at the same time are quite slim on their own. I would keep your eyes out for more signs – as your dad and your uncle get acclimated to their new life in the spirit world, they may find new and different ways to say “hello”.
      Keep in touch and take care,
      Jenn

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  42. Hi Jenn,
    Thank you for sharing this well-researched article/blog post. I too have experienced ADCs, and so has my family. I started a blog and I am considering writing a book about all of my experiences. My brother died tragically on his 27th birthday. He came through on night one – not directly to me or my parents, likely because we were too grief-stricken, but my boyfriend (now husband) had a dream in which my brother called and asked why everyone was crying. He said, “I’m ok, I’m on my way home.” After that, I had many, many signs – too many to list here, but one of the most amazing ones was when he came through on my computer with a message typed into a word document – all lowercase, no spaces. It appeared there just moments after I stepped away from the computer to get a drink and when I came back, it was there. I have no idea how he did that, and he hasn’t done it since, but it was amazing. I look forward to following your blog. I would love to do some professional research/writing on this.

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    1. I’m so sorry for the loss of your brother. It makes perfect sense that your brother did not come through on the first night for the very reason you mentioned. How can extraordinary that he was able to write you a message! I hope you do write a book, there aren’t as many on ADCs and I know it gives hope to so many people who are struggling with grief. Thanks for writing, and please do keep me posted if you decide to publish. Thanks also for sharing your story on a blog.. What is your site name, if you want to share?
      Take care,
      Jenn

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  43. My brothers fiance died just a few days ago.. i am almost certain she is leabing me signs. I.stayed at a friends house the other night, and the morning after she hoovered everywhere. I went out back for a cigarette and when i walked back in the house there was a gold nose ring on the floor. My friend doesnt have hers pierced and i only ever buy silver. My brothers fiance had to wear gold or it would turn her skin a funny colour. Also a friend took a picture of the sky and put it on the internet. I saw it and immediately saw a face on it, then i noticed a dog and the two are looking at one another. I showed my family and everyone apart from my brother believes it to be his fiance. Just before she met my brother she had to have her dog put to sleep.
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    1. Yes I believe you our love one use what every that you remember them by things in life that you know them for you can find them in all thing trees flowers birds bugs just things you knew them 4

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      1. Thank you. Its so hatd dealing with this as we werent ready for it. She wasnt even ill. She just went to bed and never woke up. Its so hard to let go x

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        1. Yes I know just know she’s ok there is no death just new life youth of my girls have went on one in 95 she was 9 years old and the out her one all most 3 years now but they have never left me their with me all ways you just have to learn to look and listing 4 her she will show you what you can understand I am a empath science I have been 2 I’m 53 now be I have all way had 🎁 I believe is Jesus and in my gifts he has placed on me it’s great but as far as evening Luther’s. Pain or sadness of negative Entergy it’s not all ways so I wake up every day in the light of Christ and pray and go through my day as a empath get older you need more and more peace. You need to read the book the seat of the soul that was one of my first 📚 and it will help you understand what happings when we pass no death go luck and stay in touch 💘

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    2. Dear Tara,

      It definitely does sound like you and your family are getting signs! Leaving objects around, like the gold nose ring – something that you would associate with her is a common sign. I love the picture of her and dog in the sky. Many people who study ITC (instrumental transcommunication) believe that spirits can form both sound and images through the white noise or static in the images and/or audio. If you believe it to be a sign, it is. Its possible that she may send other signs so that you and your brother will know for sure that it is her. All the best to you.

      Jenn

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  44. My soulmate and only man I’ve ever truly loved passed away on the 1st April. I’m lost and broken without him and so badly need a sign from him. We had nicknames for each other and I called him Bunch (short for Honeybunch) and he called me packet. How can I try to contact him? I desperately want a message or sign from him. Please help, thank you, Anna xxx

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    1. Hi Anna,
      I’m so sorry for the loss of your soulmate – the pain must be simply unbearable. I’m sure you are in the midst of overwhelming grief. It can be harder for spirits to get in touch with us when the grief is so heavy, so it may just take a little time. As I advise everyone, talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Although the conversation can feel one-sided, communicating with him can really help him get an answer back to you. Even though he is ‘on the other side’, you are still emotionally connected and will always be. If six months goes by and you don’t get a sign, you can consider other methods – such as IADC or contacting a medium, but do give it some time. Know that he loves you and will always be a part of your life. I am wishing the best for you – please let me know if you get a sign.
      Jenn

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      1. Thanks for replying to my message, I’ve still yet to receive any signs from Steve ( my Bunchy) but remain hopeful. I cry every night, that’s when the emptiness really hits me, I’ve always been scared of the dark since I was very young. I believe I’m a ‘hypersensitive’ if you’ve heard that expression. I’ve been told by many people from various religions that I’m a pure soul and have been blessed in many ways, several high monks in Thailand and Jerusalem have said to be careful as the dark forces will try to get to me. Steve always said he’d protect me from evil and I used to call him often in the night when I sensed demonic presences near me. You may not believe me but I’m really not crazy or delusional, I’m a clinical specialist in neuro physio and quite sane. I thought by now Steve would’ve contacted me, I’m getting very lonely and unhappy waiting. What else can I do? Thanks for understanding my grief. You seem such a caring lady, if I don’t hear back from you again thanks for helping me cope a little better, love Anna xxxxxxx

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        1. Hi Anna,
          Thank you for your kind words. I believe you; I myself have been the unfortunate victim of a negative spirit. I know they do exist and at the lowest point in our lives, that’s when they seem to come around more often. If you are talking to Steve out loud and being honest about how you feel with him, there’s not much you can do but wait to get the sign. There are other options though. There is a therapy that I just recently posted about that you might be interested in called IADC – Induced After-Death Communications. I think I mentioned it briefly in my first reply. Supposedly, for people with really profound sadness, IADC provides promising results as well as the chance to possibly have an ADC with Steve. Click back to my homepage and you’ll see that its the most recent post. Maybe you’d be a good candidate for this? Otherwise, after three months, you might find a medium through the Forever Family Foundation and see if you can connect with Steve that way. Please write back when you can and let me know how you are getting along.
          Take care,
          Jenn

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          1. Please could you let me know more about IADC. I’m still in deep grief for Steve, I even tried to end my own life last week so I could be with him again. It obviously didn’t work. The weird thing is , is that Steve saved my life at least 3 times over the last decade yet I was unable to save him. I suffer with bipolar disorder and he never judged me when I got I’ll just gave me support

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              1. Hi Jenn, I just wanted to tell you that the number 22 is very significant to me and seems to crop up often in my life. Steve’s address was number 22 tintagel close and it always seems to jump out at me wherever I am. Sometimes I’m waiting for a bus or have an appointment somewhere and I find I’m standing by a house that’s number 22. Why I don’t know. I’m seeing my doctor tomorrow morning and my mum is coming with me as she’s been worried about me too. Do you live in the USA ? My brother lives in new York & I’ve been to Atlanta for his wedding back in 2007. I really appreciate your concern for me. Steve really was the most wonderful kind man, he saw the good in everyone, and I loved him so very deeply. I will keep in touch but please can you tell me more about IADC, I would like to give it a go. I’m sending you big hugs and thanks, love from Anna xxxxxxx

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                1. Of course, Anna. I’m so glad that you are seeing the doctor soon. I’m not home right now, but I will send you another email this weekend and give you what info I have on IADC. By the way, I see 17s all the time. When I see them, I believe it’s a sign from my guides (or someone else on the other side) telling me that I’m on the right track and heading in the right direction in my life. Take note of what you are thinking about when you see 22, you might understand the message they are sending you. Hang in there!
                  Jenn

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  45. I lost my beautiful Mom 2 years ago on Mother’s day. She was very ill for years and my father took amazing care of her the past 10 years of her life as my sister and i lived farther away. My Dad was a strong, healthy, amazing man whom after grieving the loss of mom would have many great years left. To my shock and disbelief, last sept my Dad was diagnosed with skin cancer which had spread to his brain…5 tumors before he even knew. We lost Dad Oct 7, 2016. I cannot even describe the grief my sister and i are in, i am a true believer in life after death but going through this made me so angry, why my amazing Dad, he did not deserve to die, how can there be a God? I struggled with this but would always come back to believing that they are truly home, they are in a place that we all want to be and long to be someday too. I continue to struggle with this a bit but after reading your blog and some amazing books, going to church, praying…i am getting my faith back. Thank you so much for your beautiful blog.

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind comments, I’m so very sorry for your losses. Anger is very natural to feel, for sure. I wish it were easier to understand why we have to suffer such pain in response to love – I’m not sure I’ll ever understand it, but I do believe that your Mom and your Dad are together, and still a part of yours and your sister’s life. A lot of people lose their faith in the midst of such grief and loss – I’m really glad to hear that you are working hard to keep yours. Keep reading – it has helped me immensely, there are so many wonderful books that have convinced me that life is fleeting, but love is eternal. When we get to the spirit world ourselves, we’ll have all the time in the world to reconnect with our loved ones and reminisce over the crazy life we just had. Thank you again for taking the time to write – I know the road is long and tough with many setbacks. I hope you get an amazing sign from your parents and can help lift your spirits!
      Jenn

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  47. My wife and I met 3 years ago online on a music group. The moment I seen her picture I was immediately taken back into my past and I relived all my dreams as a boy of the woman I wanted in life. My wife fell in love with my words the first time she read them. Within days I asked her if she would marry me one day. She said she did many lives ago.She packed up her house in California and moved to New York within 4 months. 6 months later she had breast cancer and had a double masectomy. They said she,was cancer free. 18 months later she died of cancer. I married her the night before she passed. People say it was the most beautiful love story. And it was real . It has inspired many people to not quit looking for their perfect love. A little bit after she passed Patti came briefly into my dreams. She walked across the room I was in and kissed me. Then she was gone as I woke up. About a week later she showed up again in my dreams and walked across the room and hugged me. This time I woke up sweating and my heart was racing . I have had numerous premonitions come true in the last 6 months. It’s unbelievable. If you keep your heart and mind open the signs are everywhere. She was fascinated with Cardinals and I had remarked to her that they hadn’t come back to the feeders. The day she died her best friend looked out the window and there she was at the feeder. She comes every night. Last one to the feeder before dark. Like clockwork every night I can go out before dark and she shows up. I sit and tell her about my day and then tell her I love her and to go home. By time I get to the kitchen she is gone and my day is complete.

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    1. Dear Jay, thank you for sharing your beautiful and yet so heartbreaking experience. I can sense how much you and your wife love each other through your words and my heart aches for your loss. Your connection is obviously deep and very spiritual – I’m inspired by the many communications you have gotten, and sure signs that she is and will always be part of this life and the next. I absolutely love your daily conversation with your cardinal; its a beautiful conduit to your wife. You both continue to share a deep bond and it reminds me that love truly is eternal. Thanks again, Jay, for sharing your story. All the best to you,
      Jenn

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  48. Hi Jenn,

    My lovely wife passed suddenly in her sleep on May 21. I have seen many signs. Strong smell of her the day after, my computer going haywire for 2 days after, a hat she wore at a costume party changing locations. Our 14 year old is having breast reduction surgery soon, and one of her bras was laying out by our apple tree. She is very modest and would never remove her bra outside.

    The day of her viewing, I showed a memorial video that I made to a relative. I put them on my phone. I clicked on one, but a different one played instead. Later, when I arrived at my sister’s house the song that I used in that video, which was one of our songs, started playing on her cable music channel. It’s a song from 1993. The odds of this happening by chance on the day of her viewing are slim.

    Here is my question. Is it possible to visit my wife in a lucid dream or out-of-body experience? I don’t dream much. Might remember 1 or 2 in any given year. There are supplements that you can take that help with lucid dreaming. Is this possible?

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    1. Dear Dan,
      My sincere condolences for the recent loss of your wife. I’m so glad that you have received so many signs already, like you’ve mentioned – the odds against some of these things happening by chance are slim. To get right to your question – yes. If you are determined, you can visit your wife consciously in a lucid dream or OBE. I say ‘consciously’ because many spiritual sources tell us that we visit all of the time in our sleep, but we don’t remember (by design, I think). I have some books to recommend. First is ‘Vistas of Infinity’ by Jurgen Ziewe. Jurgen is an out-of-body expert and although his book is not instructional, it is a journal of his out-of-body experiences, including the experiences where he has purposely aimed to find family members in the spirit world. He meets his mother several times, as well as his brother-in-law, his aunt and his father. I believe this will give you a ‘lay of the land’. Secondly, I would recommend the books by William Buhlman (Adventures Beyond the Body, especially) as well as Journeys Out of The Body by Robert Monroe. There are some great youtube channels as well – one which is particularly instructive called Lucidology 101. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL872CCEF527B70ED7. Lucidology feels a little bit gimmicky (they are trying to sell something), but I found their free videos to be quite interesting. Robert Monroe sadly passed away, but William Buhlman has a lot of his presentations, talks and interviews on youtube as well.

      I have for a long time considered writing a post about lucid dreams/OBE as a method specifically to meet up with loved ones in the afterlife. I know it can be done and many people have done it. It will take time and a lot of determination, however. I think once you start practicing some of the techniques, I think you’ll find that your wife will try to meet you half-way.

      Good luck to you, and please come back and let me know if you have success. In the meantime, I will try to do some research about others who have had success meeting up with loved ones using OBE techniques. I am feeling more inspired to write that post.

      Jenn

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    2. Dan – I forgot to address your other question. I’m not sure which supplements, if any, can enhance lucid dreaming. The only thing I’ve come across that does enhance dreaming and dream recall is mugwort. You don’t eat it, though, you put it under your pillow. I’ve tried it, and it does seem to work. Depending on where you live, you probably have Mugwort within 50 feet of you. It grows like a weed across the US and most of Europe. In fact, I can’t seem to get it out of my garden because its so prolific.
      Jenn

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  49. Hi Jenn,

    Thanks so much for the reply!

    I’m referring to a supplement called Lucidimine. Many have had success with lucid dreaming with this. Probably need to study lucid dreaming before going down this path.

    Astral Projection would be an answer, but that seems more difficult to master.

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  50. If you want to my medium and she’s only saw a blue screen what does that mean my son died suddenly and I would like to understand what this means

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    1. Sorry – should say if you went to a medium and say could not read him and only saw a blue screen what does that mean. Please help me understand- thank you

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      1. Mary, it sounds like the medium had an off day. You should have gotten a refund. Although every medium has off days now and then, usually they will reschedule or refund. I’d suggest going through the forever family foundation to find a more qualified medium. Sometimes it can take time to find the right medium for you, but forever family foundation is a great place to start as they verify their mediums.
        Jenn

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